Tag: Determination

U - Unified Self

U – Unified Self

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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Wisdom
Any aim for your life requires full commitment from you.  Taking steps and evolving will also mean that you bring together what you need from the inside-out. Let’s look at the work unified – means to bring things together in a uniform manner.

Experience
I remember when I thought that a degree would change everything, but that’s not enough. Mental growth is only a part of the journey that we all must embark upon in our personal transformation.

Tools
To be your unified self you must:
Understand your personal gaps (in health, mentality, and emotional stability)
Challenge yourself to break barriers and typical norms
Care for yourself (mind, body, and spirit) every day, while remembering that it isn’t selfish to do so
Keep learning (and this doesn’t have to mean years and years in school)
Empower yourself and find the tools to do that effectively
Make time for evaluation of your growth, so that you can develop a plan to continue to evolve
Eat in a way that is conducive (in alignment) with the life that you want
Meditate, pray, and reflect (you’re not in this alone, I promise)
Control your inner and outer environment
Eliminate negativity
Let go of your past
AND WHATEVER ELSE IS NECESSARY TO BE WHOLE WITHIN YOURSELF

Reflect
We have all learned and grown from many facets of life, but that doesn’t mean that we have to let those things bind us. The unified self flourishes because it is when we care enough and are aware enough to figure out what may be holding us back in any way. Only when we can move into a place of inner curiosity can we create realities from possibilities with our unified selves.

A plan for greatness is just a plan until we can grant ourselves permission to become whole and able to conquer what life will bring forth.

Bible & Spiritual Connection
Galatians 5:22-23 &  Psalms 16:7
Bringing together your unified self will shine a lot on all that you are capable of doing.  The goodness and beauty of a mission that isn’t self-serving are powerful, wonderful, and blessed. You have warmth, love, and a consistent realm of consist that are always around and within you. When the little voice in your head suggests a shift or brings love to your heart pay attention to what that means and make the most of it through your unified self.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner

The Endless Pandemic of the Evil Plague

The Endless Pandemic of the Evil Plague

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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The Endless Pandemic of the Evil Plague
Hearts cry and break from the pain of the ended lives and partial blame

While leaders find that their behavior is not to be shamed.

Mothers live in fear simply because their baby boys have brown skin

While black and brown men house anger, disappointment, and fear from within.

The KKK comes out during the day and posts ads in the paper by night

Real changes are nowhere in sight.

Years of hate taught to children and the masses,

Yet no one can teach evil-doers, hate-free classes.

Murders and ill-will run rampant and justice turn a cheek

All while families lose their loved ones every week.

Sister, I hear your cries and I feel your pain,

No good life should be ended – slain.

Lift your voices and march in the streets,

Tread with power, truth, and history wrapped around your feet.

We will not be silenced today or tomorrow

We will not live our lives in never-ending sorrow.

Let us find the cure and give the vaccine for free.

Let us flatten this curve forever and let all people just be.

A word, hug, prayer, or termination of a job will not be enough,

From all this, our worries will thrive, and our skin will only grow tough.

We need a resolution and we need it to last;

The end of hate and brutality is something we need to happen fast.

Abrupt actions and ego will not impart

The greatness that is needed (it starts in the heart).

Democrat, Republican, Undeclared, Left, or Right,

None of these matters if compassion for ALL people is not the real fight.

Hear me now, loud, and clear,

I WILL NOT LIVE MY LIFE IN FEAR!

We can stop this pandemic and end foolish pride

When we can finally put all our differences aside.


-KayLa N. Allen, MPH (A Proud Brown/Black Woman)


T - Treat Yourself Well

T – Treat Yourself Well

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How many times have you heard the relatable phrase, “The struggle is real”? I know that I hear it or read it somewhere at least once a day. It can be rather unfortunate that we can so easily relate in struggles, but not in how we overcome them.  People can read empowerment books, subscribe to blogs/vlogs, take in spiritual messages, pamper themselves with external self-care, and generate vision boards every six months (all of which are excellent tools), but it still isn’t enough to get you where you need to be.

How well do you treat yourself on the inside?

If positivity and empowerment aren’t fueling the vehicle of your life, you may need to trade and upgrade to something more reliable.

There is goodness in so many places and spaces within the world waiting for you to take just a bit of it and turn your life’s purpose into something wonderful. You must first treat yourself with high regard, humbleness, and compassion. If we take the time (and put in the effort) to wisely evolve ourselves inside and out, we have a magnificent opportunity to help so many others.

Whether we can always see it or not, life is about transforming ourselves for the greater good. Sure, there will always be difficulties and problems that arise (some are out of our control), but we can rest assured that each of us can work on ourselves and make the most out of the lives that we lead.

Positivity is a realm of thought in many ways while empowerment is a shift in behavior (when embodied); both of these are possible every day, but you have to work hard for them and remember that they live inside of you. Don’t seek fulfillment, happiness, and wholeness in others or in toxic spaces. Learn, evolve, and become someone new. Don’t we all deserve to live the lives that we have always dreamed of? This starts by treating yourself well.

Bible & Spiritual Connection
Proverbs 19:8 & Galatians 6:3
Through all that you learn in life, there is an opportunity to grow in wisdom and understanding. Your growth is more than words, actions, and beliefs, it is fruit-bearing and all-encompassing when your heart and head are in the right place. Giving yourself wisdom and allowing yourself to grow is a rare treasure that few happen upon. Treating yourself with kindness, patience, high standards, and tough love when needed most re-arranges the path that you may be on. We are wonderfully granted amazing things in life, but we need not grow boastful; remain humble and keep in mind that all things granted to you are earned and wonderfully shaped according to the way that you lead your life.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner

R - Resurrection of Dreams

R – Resurrection of Dreams

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For so many of us, as children, we had huge dreams (some a bit unreal). Do you know how much imagination and courage a child/teen has to say that they want to do something that is profound or “beyond them”? With adults, exceedingly often we shut down big dreams, bury them in our minds and chalk up our doubts to fear, lack, and lack of time.

What would happen if the dreamer inside of you was resurrected?

You don’t have to stop dead in your tracks and lead a limited life. The load may get heavy, but in time your effort will precede your many successes. In my life, I often feel drained and like I’m running an endless marathon, and yet I still keep the faith in knowing that the race will soon be won.

Resurrect your dreams and bring them back from the dead. Keep dreaming, planning, building, and striving because soon enough your dreams will become distant memories and your reality will supersede your wildest of dreams.

Bible & Spiritual Connection
Philippians 1:6 & Proverbs 16:9
Doing good work and making your mission about serving God and others (not just yourself and your bank account) will bring successes and greatness to you that you could not develop alone. Isn’t it wonderful that we can set a course for our lives and have perfect support, guidance, and love wrapped around us even when we feel like the cards are stacked against us?  A resurrection of dreams is possible for those who want it most and are willing to believe in what could be wonderful.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


O - Originality Counts

O – Originality Counts

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Look to the sky at any given moment and write down what you see. Shapes, colors, the appearance of texture, and how you feel at any given moment during a gaze into the skies is original and irreplaceable. The pictured sky will never look the same again. Side note: God is my favorite artist.

If you look at the way that you do your craft and lead your life, you will see that your originality is what makes your journey and impact different than any other. If you wish to become great at what you do and move above a state of mediocrity, you must stand out. Divine outcomes will come from the way that you share the very fibers of your soul.

One thing that I love about this blog space is the freedom to share my experiences, education, and love for positive and real empowerment. No matter what or how anyone tries, they cannot replicate what you do; isn’t that amazing?! Originality in your natural wonder and mental creations counts.

 Bible & Spiritual Connection
1 Peter 5:6 & Proverbs 16:3
Anything that you do, when it is connected to something that is greater than yourself and God you can expect greatness in return. You see, all that you do, when humble and consistent in your efforts, is blessed before your eyes. Remain true to who you are, remember to keep your soul included in your journey and you will be blessed through and through.




Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner





Putting Yourself First

Putting Yourself First

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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Doubt– When little voices creep in asking us if we are doing the right thing we decide if we listen or challenge them. Doubt can make us question absolutely everything that we do and break us down if we give in to any negative aspect that comes in. Putting ourselves first means that we have to be able to not only understand the doubts that arise but also be able to overcome them so that we can reach our highest potential.

Fear– the fear of what if…the fear of judgment…the fear of not reaching goals…
All of these are real (ask me how I know). I have dealt with fears in many aspects of life. It can be difficult to have a stronghold over fears, but it can be done. Strength in vision, self, faith, and direction are all necessary in trying to overcome embedded fears.

Worth– You’re value is not determined by the world. It is established by God and to be understood and upheld by you. When someone challenges that, it hurts, right? It can even make you feel like maybe you aren’t worth what you said you are worth. We cannot allow others’ opinions, blocked/biased views, or internal problems to shift our worth.

Am I Enough?
Yes, you are. You may not be perfect and you may not have become all that you are called to be in your life YET, but you are enough. We all have space to grow and evolve. No one came into this world having all the answers, thank goodness! You can use what you have inside to make the most of your present; you just have to look beyond the surface and take inventory. Let nothing cause you to change what you think of yourself. How you view yourself and carry yourself is how others will treat you, so be careful.

Why can’t we channel our success but we can be extreme givers for anyone else?
First…Not okay. You need to understand why you are doing what you are doing…so, here we go…

Write it all down!

Ask yourself what would happen if you put yourself first.
Look internally and decide if what you are doing for others is proof that you can do even greater things in your own life.

Why can’t we be busy with our own growth?
You can be. You first must choose to do so. It is hard to put myself first in many instances, but I realize that if I don’t I am only hindering my growth. We can find hundreds of other things to be doing besides evolving ourselves. Sure that may be okay in the temporary, but we will hurt ourselves and be depriving ourselves in the long run.

Without putting yourself first and making sure that you are healthy, safe, and positively evolving, those around you will in some way suffer.

You are wonderfully made and a gift to this world.

Discover and love yourself. Don’t let the world try to break God’s mold (you).

If you can dream it you can have it. Don’t cheat yourself.

You are destined for greatness, and there is nothing nor any outside person that can do something to make God’s promises on your life not come into fruition in the physical realm.

She knows very well that eating alone is a part of her journey. Even when she is into her success, that table should still not be filled as she knows that evil and negativity will still be lurking. Her independence and strength are internal to all that she is. She is courage. She is greatness. She is on her way to her destiny.
She is you.
She is me.



Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


G - Gauge Your Future

G – Gauge Your Future

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Even with assistance and wise counseling, you are responsible for your outcome. We all have a chance to make life what we want it to be. 


“If you think that you want to live a better version of life, you must first gauge your future.”

Gauging your future must be a precise process. When I set out on this school and career journey, I didn’t know and still don’t know exactly where I will end up (as I know that God’s plans are bigger and better than mine). However, two things that were for sure from the beginning were that I was definitely going to do something to help other people, and I would use my natural born gifts and talents to help others evolve. 


Do you recognize how simple that thought (the vision for your life and purpose) can be and how far you can blossom from a simple watered seed?


You set the tone and you create your future, and it all starts in your mind. Connect your heart to your dreams and devise a plan, and you will be setting yourself up for true success. Your future is in your hands, but you have to prepare for it and go out and get it!


Spiritual Connection:


Luke 14:28 & 1 Corinthians 9:24
There is a purpose for each of our lives. Being prepared is something that you have to do to become who you are meant to be. We are all gifted and blessed in countless ways, but God is not one who will bless someone who is not putting forth effort and maximizing their potential. You must wrap your mind around what your future can hold and be prepared to reach goals; know that the path will not be clear, but if you are focused no matter what happens you can win the race.


Supplemental Reading:


https://www.newmessage.org/the-message/volume-3/living-way-knowledge/preparing-for-the-future


https://www.inspireforlifecoaching.com/personal-development/4-powerful-benefits-prepared/


Gauge your future starting now…it’s not too late.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner




F - Failure Is Semi-Real

F – Failure Is Semi-Real

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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The act of failing is something that I would like to call a pit stop. Although you may not have made it to the destination once hoped for, you now have a moment to reflect, make changes, and get back out on the road.

“Failure is a pit stop before reaching some of your goals; pause, reflect, make changes and get back on the road.”

Real “Failure”
Failure can only become real, debilitating, or discouraging when you allow it to be a valid strain in your life. I understand that there are situations where failure could come about such as in a grading system, but even then it is not the end of the world unless you keep doing the same things and are not willing to evolve.  People “fail” when they do not understand why/how something has happened and they get stuck in that moment of sorrow or regret.

Overcoming the Shadow of “Failure”
Of course, people do make mistakes, but the only way to challenge and
overcome those mistakes is to let go of what did not work and make room
for success. Looking for the quick and easy route to doing things will
not serve you well. We must all accept that many plans of ours will not
go in our favor.

You Will Survive & Thrive
I have had to overcome much to reach my goals, but even when my days grew dark I still found the courage to keep believing that better days were coming if only I would keep trying.

If you believe in yourself, no amount of perceived/semi-real failure can stop you from being successful. Your job when “failure” comes about is to turn it into a lesson and grow from it. When watered a mental lesson become a mental garden.

Remember, every outcome is not your final destination.

Turn failure into success:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-turn-failure-into-success/

Becoming Dr. KayLa_Fear and Disappointment (Afraid to Fail or Succeed?):
https://youtu.be/BobyqW2P7NU

Failure Doesn’t Actually Exist: Here’s Why:
https://www.inc.com/nicolas-cole/failure-doesnt-actually-exist-heres-why.html

A Celebration of “Failure”:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3974547/

Spiritual Check-In
Joshua 1:9 & James 2:24
Courage can be found and owned when you realize and keep in mind that you are not alone. God is always with you; even when you may think He has let you down. Do what you can for yourself and be prayerful knowing that faith and works go hand in hand. If you see yourself winning, failing, succeeding, or anything in between know that you have so much to be thankful for. Evil beings want and would thrive off of us living in “failure” or disappointment. Hold strong and know that through love, patience, hard work, and the willingness to become more like God and aim to serve others with what He has uniquely blessed you with will change your life at every level; in that you will undoubtedly know that failure cannot be allowed to be real.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner
#BecomingDrKayLa

D - Demonstrated Character

D – Demonstrated Character

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Who we are is displayed in all that we do, so it is important to know that the depth of the current version of yourself. Character is developed with time; social circles, family, spiritual beliefs, lifestyles and so much more are contributors to who we are as individuals. Something to be mindful of is the fact that just as positive things can shape our being and character, so can negative factors.

In many situations in life, I have been tested and even felt brokenness; it is not easy to climb out of that and hold strong to who I am but I know that it must be done time and time again. 

How do you challenge yourself to remain true and demonstrate integrity in a world that is in many ways scripted, objectifying, ego-centered, and filled with negativity? 


We must choose to be and live within our full greatness even when faced with an outpouring of negative circumstances; there is no other option.

Connect your character to your core, and your light and strength will never be diminished.


Your character is demonstrated in your work, how you communicate with others, and how you lead your life…so what are you saying is true to who you are? People of value and good spirit will believe what you are consistent in; they will crave and see you as inspiration and respected character. Proving your worth and true value is not always possible or warranted; remember there will be those who misjudge and do everything that they can to tarnish your good heart and character for their own joy or peace, so use that as inspiration to continue positively evolving and being magnificently you.


Related External Articles:

Huffington Post: The True Meaning of Integrity
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-true-meaning-of-integ_b_11273420?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAALtzo2gM_a_vgzq4FtRtT3s44_96ja2QoOV-b-IPZnTa7DprjPsXtJ2hQFPxnrGLR6uM5Pj7Q9nkmYUDwkIOMDk4d9NWYI5O1u2sftg4qC9CFfN2rFweoChcYEngHGARKky9l3PNdqBPLCg4EaVkTutemb854dJCCeDyoVWoNw13


https://www.success.com/rohn-6-essential-traits-of-good-character/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/questions-character/201901/what-does-it-take-have-good-character


Bible Check-In:
Proverbs 10:9 & James 1:12 


Spiritual Connection: 
You were divinely created. No words can shake the truth of who you are. You exhibited character should show the depth of your spirit, goodness, and love that lives inside of your heart. Let nothing deter you. We have to use our developed character for the greater good at home and in the “field”. How we display our light will shine onto others and bless them if we are aiming to bring goodness to the world.


Be blessed and be at peace.



C-Conscious Thinking

C-Conscious Thinking

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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The way that we envision our lives can be much different than our typical thought processes. From some, that may not be a big deal, but for others it could significantly deter a path to success. We can shift from ideas to deep thoughts and feasible actions by being more conscientious with how we think.


Dreamers and optimists see life with a different set of eyes than others, and that sets them apart from every day thinkers and doers. We must always choose how we think and carry out our actions. This may be difficult, but it can determine outcomes, level of understanding, and personal growth.


Shifting my thoughts when I am discouraged, disappointed, angry and even in a phase of hyper-optimism can be trying. What if we were to determine our own mental control. What if you could eliminate negative, unproductive thinking? The good news is we can. Work hard at it and don’t give up. This positivity leads to clarity and an altered lifestyle.

Popular/Well-Read:
https://www.choprafoundation.org/articles/how-reality-is-made-the-play-of-consciousness/

Psychology:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/conscientiousness 


Scholarly:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/what-is-consciousness/


Proverbs 14:15


Spiritual Connection:
Are you keeping your spirit “in-check”? We are all filled with a purpose and we often create missions for our lives. We have been gifted spiritually to do anything that we can imagine if it is for good. If we choose to lean solely on the possibility of a miracle, we may miss out on greater things due to faulty thinking. Create a newness in yourself and your future by using what you have been granted in your heart and mind by your creator – God. Treat your mind like the mental garden that it is. Water your seeds and watch them grow; choose to do this over and over again. Make consciousness a mindset that is a part of your lifestyle and I guarantee, from proof via my own experiences, your live will continue to reap and see increase.