Tag: Change

F - Face Your Truth

F – Face Your Truth

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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In life, you know that who you are, what you believe in, and your character stands the test of time.  This is equally true for your emotional presence even when you are going through a season of difficulties and transition. 

If you make mistakes, you have a chance to correct them, ask forgiveness when possible, and express remorse. If you feel yourself stumble in life, you are allowed the space and time in your physical and mental environment to dust yourself off and put forth a correction or redirection in your steps.

As a beautiful silver teapot set, even when the world may try to tarnish your truth or identity, you are still magnificent – face that truth!

Don’t deny yourself the ability to be true to you. What is your truth? Are you walking in your truth and working through it?

In this season of my life, I am facing my truth. There are days where fears, anxiety, and even disappointment arise, however, it is those days of heavy storms where I dig even deeper and keep pushing to find my rainbow.

If you are not yet where you want to be what is stopping you? Is it you?
If you aren’t challenged, what is bringing limits to your life?

Perhaps these questions, seasons, and areas of confusion mean that it is time for you to take off your blinders and face your truth so that you can make lasting changes.

Facing your truth can bring tears, joy, and countless emotions. Without your truth (unfiltered and raw) you cannot become who you or anyone else needs.

Bible & Spiritual Connection
John 8:32 & 1 Corinthians 2:13
Your truth can truly set you free in mind, body, and spirit. When we can release ourselves from lies, shadowed realities, and blocked internal light life alters in every way possible. Even when we face temptation, God will deliver us and provide us a way of endurance and escape. Isn’t it great that we can turn to God in any season of our lives, face our truths, and He will always be at our side? Hold strong to your truth even if you trip or fall, as it will lead you to new heights and wisdom that was formerly untapped.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner

I- Intrinsic Motivation

I- Intrinsic Motivation

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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When you think about motivation, if you are anything like me, you think of that “go-getter” attitude with a little added pep in your step right? That vision on how motivation “should be” may be true in many situations, but it won’t be all that you need to step into the next phase of whatever you are working on. The motivation of this sort may be linked to many things, but it is not bound to the daily realities of life.

Something that you may or may not be familiar with is intrinsic motivation. For many people, there are reasons that they connect to their motivation and they are outcome-driven; while this could be beneficial, taking an internal route may be more beneficial in the long-run.  Things like better pay, a leaner body, and accolades from completing a task can be linked to motivation, but once you have achieved them what do you have left? 

I find motivation in defining my steps and given a reason to why I set goals and aim for greatness in all that I do.  When this happens the mission is bigger than myself and the outcomes will be more than favorable because I took my ego, pride, and fleeting situations out of the scenario.

When we can grant ourselves the meaning and reasoning for an outcome and greater purpose, motivation can become something that we own. Motivation can be a part of a lifestyle when we understand that any mission or goal that is worth having is worth fighting for. Intrinsic motivation lives in you, not through an external mission, outside noise, or outcomes that will be achieved in one place in time then be gone.

Motivation is not just words; it is the value that you place on your purpose and the greatness that lives inside of your mind, so look deeper to find it.

Bible & Spiritual Connection

James 1:2-4 & 1 Corinthians 15:58

This journey toward your destiny is one of the greatest battles that you will ever face. The fight was going to come at some time or another, but we all must realize that the process is what matters most. If you allow “noise” to cloud your mind, your outcomes will be limited. God has a promise on your life if you are willing to take His hand and let Him lead the way. Allow perseverance and purpose to make a home inside of your heart, mind, and soul, and know that goodness in you will be gifted with further goodness within you and as a gift to others.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner





H - Human Condition

H – Human Condition

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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The human condition brings together everything that makes a person who they are. Things such as culture, health, desires, beliefs, education, and much more help to define the human condition. One of the most important things to value within yourself is the quality of your life.

Circumstances can define a person’s reality, but there is an alternative side to that as well.

When you go beyond the perception of your reality, you can learn to define the current space that you are in. Perhaps this means that you are 100% happy with the depth of your life as it is. It can also mean that you are becoming aware of areas in your life that are needing to be changed.

I may not be where I want to be, but I am aware of the spaces that help to define my “human condition”. 

Since I know where I am and where I want to be, I know what it may take to reach my destiny.

Don’t let life pass you by and don’t be fooled into thinking that you cannot have any better than what you have now. You may not be perfect and you don’t have to be, just be aware, emotionally intelligent and in-tune of what may possibly be.

The human condition is a composition of who you are, but several of those components can change throughout your lifetime. As it is with most things, what you put in and what you are willing to positively evolve is equal to what you will get in return. 

External Readings:

1.)https://chopra.com/articles/how-to-evolve-yourself-throughout-your-life
2.)https://www.flfe.net/personal-evolution/
3.)https://search.proquest.com/openview/f422dccb63b1d7f826da7d1333a0b98b/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=1059


Bible Reading & Spiritual Connection

Proverbs 28:25 & Galatians 6:7


You have the chance to make the most out of your life, each day that you are graced and blessed to have breath in your lungs and the sun shining in your face. If you are not taking the time to sow seeds into your field, you cannot expect a harvest. In all that we do, we cannot work in evil ways, greed, or internal “ugliness”. When we are gifts and lights to the world, that which we are faced with grows into something much more valuable and worth residing in. You have the exact key that you need for the door of your destiny, so enjoy the journey toward claiming your victory.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner



F - Failure Is Semi-Real

F – Failure Is Semi-Real

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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The act of failing is something that I would like to call a pit stop. Although you may not have made it to the destination once hoped for, you now have a moment to reflect, make changes, and get back out on the road.

“Failure is a pit stop before reaching some of your goals; pause, reflect, make changes and get back on the road.”

Real “Failure”
Failure can only become real, debilitating, or discouraging when you allow it to be a valid strain in your life. I understand that there are situations where failure could come about such as in a grading system, but even then it is not the end of the world unless you keep doing the same things and are not willing to evolve.  People “fail” when they do not understand why/how something has happened and they get stuck in that moment of sorrow or regret.

Overcoming the Shadow of “Failure”
Of course, people do make mistakes, but the only way to challenge and
overcome those mistakes is to let go of what did not work and make room
for success. Looking for the quick and easy route to doing things will
not serve you well. We must all accept that many plans of ours will not
go in our favor.

You Will Survive & Thrive
I have had to overcome much to reach my goals, but even when my days grew dark I still found the courage to keep believing that better days were coming if only I would keep trying.

If you believe in yourself, no amount of perceived/semi-real failure can stop you from being successful. Your job when “failure” comes about is to turn it into a lesson and grow from it. When watered a mental lesson become a mental garden.

Remember, every outcome is not your final destination.

Turn failure into success:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-turn-failure-into-success/

Becoming Dr. KayLa_Fear and Disappointment (Afraid to Fail or Succeed?):
https://youtu.be/BobyqW2P7NU

Failure Doesn’t Actually Exist: Here’s Why:
https://www.inc.com/nicolas-cole/failure-doesnt-actually-exist-heres-why.html

A Celebration of “Failure”:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3974547/

Spiritual Check-In
Joshua 1:9 & James 2:24
Courage can be found and owned when you realize and keep in mind that you are not alone. God is always with you; even when you may think He has let you down. Do what you can for yourself and be prayerful knowing that faith and works go hand in hand. If you see yourself winning, failing, succeeding, or anything in between know that you have so much to be thankful for. Evil beings want and would thrive off of us living in “failure” or disappointment. Hold strong and know that through love, patience, hard work, and the willingness to become more like God and aim to serve others with what He has uniquely blessed you with will change your life at every level; in that you will undoubtedly know that failure cannot be allowed to be real.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner
#BecomingDrKayLa

Y-You're Not Always Your Problem

Y-You’re Not Always Your Problem

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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We can count on all of our fingers and toes the concerns that we face on any given day.

We sometimes even find that our problems are bigger than us. This isn’t to say that sometimes you aren’t what is blocking your path, though.

Think about how many obstacles get in the way daily. Are they are always easy to solve? Surely not.

Are you always the reason for your problems? No. 

In the grand scheme of things, although we may not be the main source of our problems, we do play a role in them.

You see, doubt, fears, disappointment, anger, frustration, and everything in between get housed internally even if they originate from an outside source.

Take your time to learn that and don’t brush it off; that lesson will change your mood, day, and life.

It may take several adjustments within yourself, but don’t let your problems outweigh your potential.

What if the very thing that we perceive to be a problem is actually a fear that has been overgrown by weeds that we’ve allowed to grow?

You have to work to understand what situations mean. It does not always make sense to go with your gut; sometimes meditating, talking about it, or praying for clarity is a better solution. Sometimes your heart/gut can lead you in the wrong direction, so you need to understand your contribution of the unselfish truth of the matter.

You’re not always your problem, sometimes it’s other’s negativity, fears, doubts, lack of understanding, or some type of internal brokenness. If we don’t understand this, we can easily get hurt by something that should not have had a negative impact, to begin with.

John 16:33
“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”  You may sometimes think that you have all of the answers, but you may also be holding the weight of many concerns. Take courage and know that you are not living this life to be in sorrow or disappointment. Our heavenly father bore it all and he will give us perfect peace when we need it most if we seek him first, have faith, and do His will.

Proverbs 12:10
“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.” Anxiety is real and can be difficult to manage, but we can do something about it. Learning, love, having healthy conversations, and spiritual guidance can shift things in ways you couldn’t imagine. 

There are things that are greater/bigger than us that could be holding us back from greatness. Let nothing or no one stop you from reaching your destiny.


***Health Spotlight*** 
Yersiniosis
Symptoms: fever and abdominal pain are common; rash and joint pain are possible as well.
Prevalence: thousands are infected every year and children are more infected by adults; the infection is common in the winter
Treatment: antibiotics can be used if necessary.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner



Keywords/Labels: Encouragement, Challenge, Problems, Determination, Holistic Health, Bible, Epidemiology, Public Health, Empowerment, Motivation, Faith, Change, Wisdom





P- Painting Your Picture

P- Painting Your Picture

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Even if you know absolutely nothing about painting, you can acknowledge and understand the importance of starting with a blank canvas.


Whatever you face in your life can shape and mold your future if you believe that you can change. Beginning a new journey is likened to a starting a paint from the stage of a blank canvas.


Picking your paint and choosing your brushes is the next step; this step is equal to you deciding the next level or next step that you are wanting to take.


Each day you make a choice to take certain actions; let’s consider making each action the same as a stroke of the brush.


Keep in mind that aiming for the future is a beautiful thing in life, but it can’t be possible if you are missing steps.


Every time you take a step you are adding to your future and beautifully painted picture.


If you are sitting idle or doubting your growth it is almost like smudging your work. You have to constantly make the choice to paint your picture.


Think about how you want your future life and painting to look. Now, think about what you are contributing right now.


Your current actions or lack thereof will affect everything and everyone around you (both in your present and future), so be mindful of that. 


Be mindful of the colors that you choose to paint your life’s picture. Should you choose to rush through your life’s painting you will negatively alter the outcome. However, if you pace yourself, think logically about next steps, and process what your passion is and how to properly execute your purpose, your picture will be more beautiful than you can imagine.


God is my favorite artist. Think about what He has created and painted in your life’s picture. There are some pictures that are full of light and vibrant colors and some that are gloomy but passionate. 


If you have any chance to change your life for the better, start from the inside out. Be a master painter for yourself and your family. 


Think about what you are feeding your family; you can shop on a small budget and still eat healthy meals (if you need advice on how, please feel free to ask me because I know very well how to eat on a budget). Images or actions that bring about negativity, evil thoughts or poor behavior are not what you should tune into.


Think about what you are exposing your family/children to; what your children see will affect many parts of their lives. Be mindful and think clearly about the picture you are painting.


Think of what you are showing yourself and what you are feeding your soul.


Don’t limit yourself; know that higher beings (God, for me) and/or the Universe is the visionary and the implementer, but also remember you are the painter of your life’s picture and you are holding the easel of every color imaginable. I can’t wait to see how beautiful your picture will be! Please do share it with me. 🙂


Genesis 1:27
“God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” If you know that you are a creation and God blessed you with uniqueness, doesn’t that make you an artist in life?  You are full of gifts and talents that no one else has, doesn’t that make you an artist? Yes, definitely!!


Proverbs 4:23
“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” What you create, speak on, and think about shape your life. If you are an artist of your life, which you are, live in positivity as best as possible. Correct when you have made a mistake. Grow beyond your comfort level. You are in charge.


I know that you want amazing things in your life, so let’s start painting this beautiful life picture!


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight*** Plague – A disease that affects humans and other mammals; a bite from a rodent flea can infect people with the plague.
Symptoms: depends on the type but can range from fever, headache, and chills, to swollen and painful lymph nodes (bubo), shock, shortness of breath, and bloody/watery mucous.
Treatment: antibiotics; full recovery is possible if the disease caught early.
Prevalence: human cases in the US are common in New Mexico, Arizona, Colorado, Oregon and Nevada; plague epidemics have occurred in Africa, Asia, and South America. 80% of cases are of bubonic form. People of all ages can get the disease.
Prevention: reduce rodent habitat around you, remove clutter, brush, rock piles, and pet/wild animal food. Wear gloves when handling potentially infected animals.


Achievement, Beauty, Change, Clarity, Courage, Determination, Empowerment, Epidemiology, God, Happiness, holistic health, mental health, Positivity, public health, Wisdom, Universe, Strength, Self-Worth, Self-Love


H - Housing Your Problems

H – Housing Your Problems

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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It is certain that we all face adversity and trying days, but the question that I’d like to ask you is how much are you charging your “mental tenants”?


Take a serious moment to make a list of your mental tenants…
What have these tenants (people/things) done to reserve their space?

Sometimes, it is much easier to allow those problems to stay in your mental housing unit that they are renting…but at what cost?

No matter how big or small, is that cost worth your time and energy?

Sure, the problems hurt and put weight on you but how long will you allow the tenants to stay in your mental space?

The longer that painful thing stays, the longer it will hurt you and hold you back from what you could have.

If you really think about it, what and/or who you house internally makes it’s way out – there will be an exerted physical presence.  This presence can be tears, missed opportunities, needless arguments with people that care about you or something else.

Even when it seems difficult, you have got to come back to this 3-part “trick” …
1.  You are in charge, so don’t allow those tenants to trash your mental home.
2.  Eliminate what no longer needs to be in your space.
3.  Cry it out if you need to, then dry your eyes so that you can see all that you can have, live in, and accomplish.

Do you learn to become the best version of yourself by holding on to and housing problems or obstacles? Certainly not my dear!

Your house ideal “home” can only survive with a strong foundation- so think about what you are putting into your home and make wise decisions.

The longer you hold on to your pain and problems, the longer it will take to reach maximum success.

You deserve to live a life that is not clouded by “unwanted tenants”. 

So the last question you should ask yourself is when are you sending out the eviction notice? You are not forced to nor obligated to keep things or people that hurt you (fight to get out of that bind that you may be in). 

Whether you believe in God or not, in teachings and verses there is truth. Always try to take a note from the words that you read.

1 Corinthians 15:33
“Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.””
Think about those in your space and all that they need do; people and things affect your life, your finances, your happiness, and your successes. Imagine or take a step back and look at how much of problem those negativity-causing tenants are causing. Do not allow anything in your space that will hurt you. God favors you; he never promised a life of pain or disappointment; seek Him and know that the battle that you may be fighting internally is not yours to fight. Pray about your issues, take inventory and do not be afraid the put out those eviction notices for your “mental tenants”.

Proverbs 13:20
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” If you are to become like those around you, make the most of your circle and all that is around you. Welcome wisdom, love, kindness and peace into your mental home; trust me, you will be much happier that way. 

The Universe is on your side; surely you can imagine how much good can come from your letting go of pain and things that are not meant to be for your best life. Value the space that you are in and remember that what you put out you also receive in return. Giving negative tenants swift “permission” to exit may be the best thing for your life.

***Health Spotlight*** Hypertension
Symptoms: No signs nor symptoms; many people do know that they have the disease.


Prevalence: Approximately 75 million people in the U.S. are living with hypertension; only about 50% of them have it under control.  CDC 


Treatment (controlling the disease): Medication plus healthy diet- low in salt, fat and cholesterol; high consumption of fruits and vegetables. Be active. Do not smoke. Not controlling this disease can lead to problems in the heart, brain, and kidneys.


Prevention: Make healthy choices.


Housing a disease and not working towards a healthier life is not what you should do. Given opportunities, health options, treatment options, etc. you should take them and make the most of your choices and life. Take good care of yourself; it is the only way to lead a happy, healthy life. Don’t house your problems, let someone help you and don’t be afraid to ask for help.


Be blessed and be at peace. 


#KayLasPositivityCorner


Change, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Global Health, Holistic health, Law of Attraction, Mental Health, Physical Health, Public Health, Self-Love, Wisdom


A - Allowing Life to Happen

A – Allowing Life to Happen

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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We often get caught up in our own webs, visions, and plans; becoming  entangled in these spaces is not necessarily a good thing.  When we choose to think about a path that we have set forth for ourselves, we subconsciously block opportunities for other (better for us) outcomes to come forth.


Rolling through the “if I could”, and “I wish I could” phases in our lives can blind us and bring shadows in front of us.  When this happens we can not see some of the amazing things that are happening right in front of our faces.


As difficult as it may seem, sometimes you just have to allow life to happen. Those difficult times that we encounter and those trying storms that we endure can simply happen. We are regular people living regular lives no matter what our bank accounts say, and because of this we have to remember that life happens.


When we are able to realize that our sense of perfect timing is not actually perfect, and God’s divine timing is essential for our lives we revamp our opportunities and we challenge the way that we see the world.


Allowing life to happen does not mean that we sit back and watch things fall apart but it does mean that things can happen and we are not always in control.


You must learn to accept that things are not going to always happen the way that you want them to. You will not always be in control. There will always be people and circumstances that come about that may not seem to be in line with your vision, and that’s okay.


In every part of your life there’s a reason and a season. In every part of your life, there is a reason for the journey that you’re taking. In every part of your life, there are new mercies and opportunities. In every part of your life, there will be good and bad days. In every part of your life, as long as there’s breath in your body there is an opportunity for better days.


Oh, those dark days can seem so difficult… but remember that last storm that you made it past? Hold strong, allow God’s plan to work itself, it’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to be worried. It’s okay to have moments of anger. It’s okay to have fear about what is coming in the future. It’s okay to be sad at times.


Proverbs 13:12
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Even if you have moments when the rain of your storm blocks your vision, do whatever you can to capture a glimpse of your rainbow. 
I say all this to say whenever a storm is raining directly over your head get your rain gear, suit up and be prepared to endure the store. There is a reason that you go through storms and it is not your job to understand the how, the when and the why. It is, however, your job to keep pushing forward no matter what you face.


Allow the good to come and the bad to exit.  Allow change and evolution to occur in your life. Allow people to leave if they want to leave. On the same token, don’t try to force things to stay when really it is time for them to go.


Often times you can’t see the direction that God is going and that’s alright too. As long as you continue to take steps forward, continue climbing, and continue reaching for those stars, you’re on the right path. Try to think deeply: the universe is activating steps and plans for you- imagine what would happen if you continued to block yourself from greatness because of pride or needing to have control over everything. 


1 Peter 2:15 “For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish people.
Not all advice is sound advice. Sometimes advice that comes from people that you “respect” is not the advice that is for you to hear. Use your knowledge, wisdom, and experiences to make sound decisions for your life. Don’t allow what someone else thinks is best for you to overtake your judgment. This may mean if someone says, maybe you should just wait to do something, maybe actually you should be taking steps instead of sitting still.


Sometimes you will have to think outside of the box, and that’s a good thing. No matter what you do, allow life to happen; allow mistakes to occur.


You deserve to lead a life of happiness, success, pure joy, peace, wonder, adventure, and love; these are not things that someone can make you have- you find these things inside of you.


Be blessed and at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight*** Adenovirus
Symptoms: cold-like symptoms, sore throat, bronchitis, pneumonia, diarrhea and pink eye
Spread of Infection: personal contact, air droplets, touching surfaces then touching mouth, nose, or eyes
Prevention: wash hands with soap and water, cover mouth when coughing or sneezing, avoid contact with others when ill, do not sharing drinking glasses or eating utensils, avoid kissing.
Prevalence: there is no exact prevalence as it can vary
Treatment: no specific treatment as most infections as mild
-Seek help when you need it, help your fellow neighbor, know that people care about your well-being.




Growth, Challenges, Chances, Overcoming, Opportunity, Life, God, Change, Universe, Barriers, Mental Health, Living, Public Health, Empowerment, Epidemiology


Overcoming Unhealthy Eating

Overcoming Unhealthy Eating

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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We all have our cravings and things that we LOVE to eat, but do we really think about what we are consuming and how they can affect our bodies?


When you indulge (if you must), you must have balance and do so sparingly.


Yes, you can eat what you want, but you cannot do it all the time and expect to lead a healthy life. You cannot eat bread every day, day and expect it to not lead to health issues. As much as you may love your sweets, you cannot have them every day, multiple times a day.


With everything in your life, the only way to be happy and healthy is to have balance.


How To Overcome This Problem:
To overcome healthy eating, know that it starts inside of your mind.
You have to acknowledge where the problems lie before you can think of making next steps.
Make baby steps if you cannot completely change your habits immediately.
Create a schedule for yourself and limit your eating.
Eliminate fatty, greasy, heavy, sugary, processed foods.
Eat more greens, veggies, fruits, and grains.
Drink lots of water every day.


Be mindful of your eating habits.


Healthy eating is not always expensive! Poor healthy is more expensive.



You are not necessarily bound by traditions. We choose to do things including our eating habits.


Just like many other things, treating yourself is okay and you deserve it but think about it first.


Be happy in the skin that you are in, but do whatever it takes to lead a healthy life- your body and your family will thank you for taking care of yourself, setting a good example, and extending your life. 


The challenge in this life is to do what is right; the same applies to your life and what you consume. Your family and those that you are blessing are counting on you to live your best life.


You get one body and no tomorrow’s are not guaranteed, but wouldn’t you rather live a healthy life than an unhealthy one?


Love yourself from the inside out and watch how things change.


If you are not prepared to live your best life how do you expect great things to happen in your life?


1 Corinthians 3:16-17 
“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple”.  You are an amazing part of something beyond your knowledge and your imagination. God made you in his image and you are supposed to take care of yourself; this means inside and out. You one beautiful part of this universe and the universe is inside of you, you must be mindful of this and live a good life.


Proverbs 10:17
“The road to life is a disciplined life; ignore correction and you’re lost for good”. Motivation will not always come easy and you must do what it takes to lead a disciplined life; it is in your best interest. If someone shows you or teaches you something that is good for you, it can only benefit you…


I want you to live a long, happy, healthy life, so do whatever it takes to have that.


Know that you do not need to follow any fads or common diets, and do not starve yourself. Smaller portions and regulated eating schedules will change your life. There are many methods of healthy eating, you have the world at the tips of your fingers; use the sound knowledge that you find on the internet. If you have any true questions, find a nutritionist or health provider that you trust. 


All that you want and dream of can happen if you take care of yourself and if you are consistent in all that you do.


I believe in you and I want you to be healthy from the inside out. Put in the work, you deserve it.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLa’sPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Heart Disease- This disease and many others are linked unhealthy eating. There are over 600,000 people that die of heart disease and it is a leading cause of death for men and women. Annually, there are over 700,000 heart attacks in America (CDC). Pay attention to discomfort, shortness of breath, nausea, lightheadedness, and upper body pain. Listen to your body’s signs of heart disease and physical sickness. If you are eating poorly, change it while you still can; it is much easier to prevent than it is to treat. Think wisely. Make the changes that you can, and do whatever you can to create natural healing. As always, seek the help of a physician when you are in need.





Change, Challenges, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Global Health, Goals, God, Universe, Bible, Growth




Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


Throughout life, we meet and get to know people on many different levels.


The passing of time, change in vision of life, different goals, broken hearts, etc. can all be reasons that these relationship must come to an end.


Making the decision to overcome a relationship can be one of the most difficult things to do. However, this very decision can be one of the best things that you can do for yourself, your family, or your career.


Let’s look a little deeper at intimate relationships, friendships, and career relationships.


Intimate Relationships
When dating (typically at the beginning), many people experience feelings of joy, excitement, butterflies, love, lust, etc., but we must remember that those things don’t always last nor do they have to. 


Of course, you should work hard in your relationships and love the one you are with, but if things have gone sour and either of you are experiencing dysfunction or unhealthy behaviors it may be beyond time to cut ties.


You know what you deserve in a relationship and what you need; if your significant other is unwilling to work on those things, don’t you think that maybe you need to rethink the relationship? 


Don’t you think that maybe you should be with someone who is willing to put in the effort and build a strong, faithful, and loving relationship with you? 


Let me say this: you do not have to stay with someone who cheats on you or mistreats you. You need to get your head on straight and think through your relationship and make the decision to overcome any negativity within it; if that means you need to leave, so be it. 


Keep this at the forefront of your mind: staying in a relationship just for the kids will hurt you, your significant other, those God meant for you, and your children (as they will mimic and be susceptible to what you have shown them/allowed them to be a part of). Do the right thing.


Friendship
At various stages of our lives we meet people that we may find a connection with, someone that likes the same things, or someone that we simply have things in common with and they become friends that we hold close to our hearts. 


We do things together, talk regularly, and even buy each other gifts. Those relationships are not always meant to travel with you for life, in fact it can be more unhealthy than anything to allow people that do not have the same goals, those without an aim for growth, or someone without the same beliefs as you. 


Proverbs 18:24
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” A friend is a blessing, but sometimes you have to let them go so that you can grow and find your happiness. One of the greatest friends and the most dependable friend can be found in God.


Friendship is a beautiful thing, but sometimes those relationships are only for a season; you learn the lesson then it’s time to move forward. You must be willing to see through the memories, time spent, etc. and realize that growth and change are mandatory in life…even when it comes to friends. Overcome that relationship by realizing the value in it and remembering that your journey through life and your success do not require everyone that you encounter and/or befriend.


Career Relationships
A brand new job comes up and we get excited about it look forward to everything that we will do, etc. Over time, you may get bored, want more money, gain a degree, or get tired of the commute, etc. and that is perfectly fine.  There are many people that stick to one job or one career for their entire life and that is okay, but that does not have to be the case. 


If you are feeling stuck or unfulfilled and there is no room for growth, perhaps you need to overcome that career relationship.  You need a challenge, you need to feel that you are making a difference and that you are being appreciated; if that is not how you feel you need to be appreciative of what you have learned and the opportunity and redirect your life.


Ecclesiastes 3: 1 & 5
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.” Knowing the value of any relationship (family included) is important, but it is equally important to recognize if someone/something is causing you to feel truly unhappy. If there is no way to mend it or the person is intentionally causing you emotional pain, you need to overcome that relationship.


It can hurt to leave people behind, but wouldn’t you rather forgive, try to mend, and overcome if it is necessary. You deserve to be happy within yourself; few things/people can give you that except God, looking into your soul, acknowledging what the Universe is blessing you with, and you.


Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
There have been over 100 measles cases and 8 outbreaks of the measles in the U.S. this year(CDC). The majority of people with measles contract it because they are not vaccinated. Physical symptoms may appear in about 10-14 days after exposure, but people are contagious after 4 days with the virus. Fever is the early symptom of the measles, they can reach up to 105 F; this is accompanied by malaise, cough, and conjunctivitis. The rash spreads from the head-down (CDC). High risk people are infants, adults over 20, pregnant women, and those with compromised immune systems. Airborne spread and droplets are the methods of transmission; it can remain in the air for two hours. There is no antiviral treatment, but medical care is necessary; hospitalization is hospital. As always, if you suspect an illness seek medical attention.




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