Tag: Self-Love

Putting Yourself First

Putting Yourself First

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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Doubt– When little voices creep in asking us if we are doing the right thing we decide if we listen or challenge them. Doubt can make us question absolutely everything that we do and break us down if we give in to any negative aspect that comes in. Putting ourselves first means that we have to be able to not only understand the doubts that arise but also be able to overcome them so that we can reach our highest potential.

Fear– the fear of what if…the fear of judgment…the fear of not reaching goals…
All of these are real (ask me how I know). I have dealt with fears in many aspects of life. It can be difficult to have a stronghold over fears, but it can be done. Strength in vision, self, faith, and direction are all necessary in trying to overcome embedded fears.

Worth– You’re value is not determined by the world. It is established by God and to be understood and upheld by you. When someone challenges that, it hurts, right? It can even make you feel like maybe you aren’t worth what you said you are worth. We cannot allow others’ opinions, blocked/biased views, or internal problems to shift our worth.

Am I Enough?
Yes, you are. You may not be perfect and you may not have become all that you are called to be in your life YET, but you are enough. We all have space to grow and evolve. No one came into this world having all the answers, thank goodness! You can use what you have inside to make the most of your present; you just have to look beyond the surface and take inventory. Let nothing cause you to change what you think of yourself. How you view yourself and carry yourself is how others will treat you, so be careful.

Why can’t we channel our success but we can be extreme givers for anyone else?
First…Not okay. You need to understand why you are doing what you are doing…so, here we go…

Write it all down!

Ask yourself what would happen if you put yourself first.
Look internally and decide if what you are doing for others is proof that you can do even greater things in your own life.

Why can’t we be busy with our own growth?
You can be. You first must choose to do so. It is hard to put myself first in many instances, but I realize that if I don’t I am only hindering my growth. We can find hundreds of other things to be doing besides evolving ourselves. Sure that may be okay in the temporary, but we will hurt ourselves and be depriving ourselves in the long run.

Without putting yourself first and making sure that you are healthy, safe, and positively evolving, those around you will in some way suffer.

You are wonderfully made and a gift to this world.

Discover and love yourself. Don’t let the world try to break God’s mold (you).

If you can dream it you can have it. Don’t cheat yourself.

You are destined for greatness, and there is nothing nor any outside person that can do something to make God’s promises on your life not come into fruition in the physical realm.

She knows very well that eating alone is a part of her journey. Even when she is into her success, that table should still not be filled as she knows that evil and negativity will still be lurking. Her independence and strength are internal to all that she is. She is courage. She is greatness. She is on her way to her destiny.
She is you.
She is me.



Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


T - Time by the Moment

T – Time by the Moment

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Time will never stop passing and you will never have 100% control of the seconds that keep ticking by.


Past:
Your experiences came with lessons, some good some bad. However you choose to look at it, you can’t help but to know that you found truths and wisdom in what you learned.


You can take the time to cry and release whatever you faced. No one can judge you for that. In truth, that may be exactly what you need to move forward.


Crying from the heart and soul brings the mind clarity.


Present:
Although the present can seem difficult or overwhelming, one of the most important things that you can do is continue to fight. One swing at a time. One step at a time. You must keep pushing and understand the value of this very moment.


As you must with a fruiting tree, you have to first plant a seed into your mental garden before you can grow.




Future:
The future can be whatever make it out to be. How you use the lessons of your past and appreciate the “gift” of your present will determine how successful, fulfilled, and happy you will be in your future.


Every step of your journey will look different and that is a good thing. This is because with every new step you grow and evolve. 


When was the last time that you thought about a previous space of emptiness? If you are taking more than a few seconds to remember, stop and do it right now. Remember those feelings, but pay attention to how far you have come.


Ecclesiastes 3:11
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from the beginning to end.” Mind your steps and know that your efforts will bring forth a beauty that is beyond your wildest dreams.


Proverbs 21:5
“The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.” Your present, this very moment, if you aren’t doing anything to get to where you want to be, it won’t happen. You must be active in making your dream a reality. God has given you the tools that you need, but you have to put in your own effort.


What you want in your life is not bound, in fact you have the opportunity to truly live a limitless life. The Universe is working in your favor. God sees all that you work hard for and He knows what you need and deserve.


Learn from your past, work hard and have faith in your present, and live the best future!


***Health Spotlight***
Trichinellosis (also known as Trichinosis) – CDC
https://www.cdc.gov/parasites/trichinellosis/


This disease can being harmful. It is contracted by eating raw or uncooked meat from an animal that has a tiny parasite called Trichinella.
Hogs raised outdoor that may come in close contact with rodents and other wildlife have a higher  risk of becoming infected.
Across the world there are approximately 10,000 cases annually. 
To treat Trichinella, there are safe prescription drugs.In prevention, make sure that you cook meat to safe temperatures, wash your hands thoroughly when handling raw meat, clean any areas that come in contact with raw meat, and do your research if you need specifics on handling, storage, or cleaning.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner



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P- Painting Your Picture

P- Painting Your Picture

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Even if you know absolutely nothing about painting, you can acknowledge and understand the importance of starting with a blank canvas.


Whatever you face in your life can shape and mold your future if you believe that you can change. Beginning a new journey is likened to a starting a paint from the stage of a blank canvas.


Picking your paint and choosing your brushes is the next step; this step is equal to you deciding the next level or next step that you are wanting to take.


Each day you make a choice to take certain actions; let’s consider making each action the same as a stroke of the brush.


Keep in mind that aiming for the future is a beautiful thing in life, but it can’t be possible if you are missing steps.


Every time you take a step you are adding to your future and beautifully painted picture.


If you are sitting idle or doubting your growth it is almost like smudging your work. You have to constantly make the choice to paint your picture.


Think about how you want your future life and painting to look. Now, think about what you are contributing right now.


Your current actions or lack thereof will affect everything and everyone around you (both in your present and future), so be mindful of that. 


Be mindful of the colors that you choose to paint your life’s picture. Should you choose to rush through your life’s painting you will negatively alter the outcome. However, if you pace yourself, think logically about next steps, and process what your passion is and how to properly execute your purpose, your picture will be more beautiful than you can imagine.


God is my favorite artist. Think about what He has created and painted in your life’s picture. There are some pictures that are full of light and vibrant colors and some that are gloomy but passionate. 


If you have any chance to change your life for the better, start from the inside out. Be a master painter for yourself and your family. 


Think about what you are feeding your family; you can shop on a small budget and still eat healthy meals (if you need advice on how, please feel free to ask me because I know very well how to eat on a budget). Images or actions that bring about negativity, evil thoughts or poor behavior are not what you should tune into.


Think about what you are exposing your family/children to; what your children see will affect many parts of their lives. Be mindful and think clearly about the picture you are painting.


Think of what you are showing yourself and what you are feeding your soul.


Don’t limit yourself; know that higher beings (God, for me) and/or the Universe is the visionary and the implementer, but also remember you are the painter of your life’s picture and you are holding the easel of every color imaginable. I can’t wait to see how beautiful your picture will be! Please do share it with me. 🙂


Genesis 1:27
“God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” If you know that you are a creation and God blessed you with uniqueness, doesn’t that make you an artist in life?  You are full of gifts and talents that no one else has, doesn’t that make you an artist? Yes, definitely!!


Proverbs 4:23
“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” What you create, speak on, and think about shape your life. If you are an artist of your life, which you are, live in positivity as best as possible. Correct when you have made a mistake. Grow beyond your comfort level. You are in charge.


I know that you want amazing things in your life, so let’s start painting this beautiful life picture!


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight*** Plague – A disease that affects humans and other mammals; a bite from a rodent flea can infect people with the plague.
Symptoms: depends on the type but can range from fever, headache, and chills, to swollen and painful lymph nodes (bubo), shock, shortness of breath, and bloody/watery mucous.
Treatment: antibiotics; full recovery is possible if the disease caught early.
Prevalence: human cases in the US are common in New Mexico, Arizona, Colorado, Oregon and Nevada; plague epidemics have occurred in Africa, Asia, and South America. 80% of cases are of bubonic form. People of all ages can get the disease.
Prevention: reduce rodent habitat around you, remove clutter, brush, rock piles, and pet/wild animal food. Wear gloves when handling potentially infected animals.


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H - Housing Your Problems

H – Housing Your Problems

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It is certain that we all face adversity and trying days, but the question that I’d like to ask you is how much are you charging your “mental tenants”?


Take a serious moment to make a list of your mental tenants…
What have these tenants (people/things) done to reserve their space?

Sometimes, it is much easier to allow those problems to stay in your mental housing unit that they are renting…but at what cost?

No matter how big or small, is that cost worth your time and energy?

Sure, the problems hurt and put weight on you but how long will you allow the tenants to stay in your mental space?

The longer that painful thing stays, the longer it will hurt you and hold you back from what you could have.

If you really think about it, what and/or who you house internally makes it’s way out – there will be an exerted physical presence.  This presence can be tears, missed opportunities, needless arguments with people that care about you or something else.

Even when it seems difficult, you have got to come back to this 3-part “trick” …
1.  You are in charge, so don’t allow those tenants to trash your mental home.
2.  Eliminate what no longer needs to be in your space.
3.  Cry it out if you need to, then dry your eyes so that you can see all that you can have, live in, and accomplish.

Do you learn to become the best version of yourself by holding on to and housing problems or obstacles? Certainly not my dear!

Your house ideal “home” can only survive with a strong foundation- so think about what you are putting into your home and make wise decisions.

The longer you hold on to your pain and problems, the longer it will take to reach maximum success.

You deserve to live a life that is not clouded by “unwanted tenants”. 

So the last question you should ask yourself is when are you sending out the eviction notice? You are not forced to nor obligated to keep things or people that hurt you (fight to get out of that bind that you may be in). 

Whether you believe in God or not, in teachings and verses there is truth. Always try to take a note from the words that you read.

1 Corinthians 15:33
“Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.””
Think about those in your space and all that they need do; people and things affect your life, your finances, your happiness, and your successes. Imagine or take a step back and look at how much of problem those negativity-causing tenants are causing. Do not allow anything in your space that will hurt you. God favors you; he never promised a life of pain or disappointment; seek Him and know that the battle that you may be fighting internally is not yours to fight. Pray about your issues, take inventory and do not be afraid the put out those eviction notices for your “mental tenants”.

Proverbs 13:20
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” If you are to become like those around you, make the most of your circle and all that is around you. Welcome wisdom, love, kindness and peace into your mental home; trust me, you will be much happier that way. 

The Universe is on your side; surely you can imagine how much good can come from your letting go of pain and things that are not meant to be for your best life. Value the space that you are in and remember that what you put out you also receive in return. Giving negative tenants swift “permission” to exit may be the best thing for your life.

***Health Spotlight*** Hypertension
Symptoms: No signs nor symptoms; many people do know that they have the disease.


Prevalence: Approximately 75 million people in the U.S. are living with hypertension; only about 50% of them have it under control.  CDC 


Treatment (controlling the disease): Medication plus healthy diet- low in salt, fat and cholesterol; high consumption of fruits and vegetables. Be active. Do not smoke. Not controlling this disease can lead to problems in the heart, brain, and kidneys.


Prevention: Make healthy choices.


Housing a disease and not working towards a healthier life is not what you should do. Given opportunities, health options, treatment options, etc. you should take them and make the most of your choices and life. Take good care of yourself; it is the only way to lead a happy, healthy life. Don’t house your problems, let someone help you and don’t be afraid to ask for help.


Be blessed and be at peace. 


#KayLasPositivityCorner


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C-Chasing Away Personal Monsters

C-Chasing Away Personal Monsters

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Your monsters come in every shape and form. Monsters big or small can wreak havoc, throw stones at you, break your pride, and dim your light…..if you let them.


When you grow into your strengths, live in your purpose, and push to become that which you are called to be even the biggest of monsters can be chased away.


For some, their monsters are people
…these people have caused pain, brokenness, confusion, frustration, and loss of self. These people are essentially spirit-breakers; when they find the space and place to bring on the pain and heartbreak they lay it on hard. 


The challenge for you is to see beyond your tears and not allow those pain-evoking people to crush you from the inside-out. Do not allow these people into your circle and certainly do not allow anyone to stay in your life should they exhibit ugliness, evil, or any type of negativity. Stand up, shine your light, and chase away those who do not belong with you on your journey.

For others, their monsters may be things/places
…these things are what you truly have control over at every moment. Whether your monster in this sense is a habit that is hard to break, a place that you need to grow apart from, or a space that is no longer serving you as it should- you have got to pay attention and do whatever it takes to chase away this monster.


Even still another type of monster can be your emotions. You are most definitely entitled to your emotions and no one can take them away from you or force you to feel differently. The most important thing with this type of monster is to not allow it to take over your life. Emotions change according to environment and many other things around you. No matter how much this monster tries to chase and/or tackle you, you have got to keep pushing forward.


2 Peter 1:5-9
“For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For whoever lacks these qualities is so nearsighted that he is blind, having forgotten that he was cleansed from his former sins.” No matter what you face, there is a way to cover it in love and prosperity. Chasing away your monsters does something that is so important and that is: give you more space to grow, be happy, and be at peace.


Clutter of your monsters must be cleaned up so that you can welcome what is going to bless your lives. The Universe brings forth more of what you put into it; if you are welcoming and/or allowing the negative to stay you are hurting yourself, all around you, and your chance for opportunities.


Proverbs 12:16
“Fools shows their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult.” If your monsters hurt you, you have to do what works best for you and get rid of them. This doesn’t mean that you fight fire with fire; you will receive a blessing unlike any other if you are kind (with your strength and voice intact). 


As you know, and I have said several times before, nothing is life is easy and it shouldn’t be. Think about how much stronger you would be if you chased away your monsters. Think about the power and the fire inside of you that will only grow when that place, space, or thing no longer belongs in your are gone. 


Don’t you deserve a beautiful smile on your face and to live in happiness and peace?


Don’t you deserve success in life?


Don’t you deserve all that you imagine and beyond?

…Of course you do!


Take the time to learn about your monsters and do what it takes to chase them completely out of the scene. You deserve that!


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivity Corner


***Health Spotlight*** Chikungunya- a mosquito transmitted virus
Symptoms: fever, headache, rash, swelling, and joint pain
Treatment: unfortunately, there is no vaccine to prevent or treat the infection; most feel better after a week, so drink fluids take Tylenol and get some rest.
Prevention: use mosquito netting, wear long sleeves, and use repellent
Prevalence: a global impact; last year there were about 150 reported cases of chikungunya in the U.S. (CDC), but thousands more affected across the world
– Chasing away monsters with this disease means so much more than taking care of yourself; it means plugging into your family, community, and the world. There is so much that we can do in our own communities; it takes a village and our impact can be great if only we use what we have to make a change. Think about how blessed you are and never forget how underserved so many others are; do your part, let’s change the world for the better by chasing away the monsters that so many people face.






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Overcoming the Storms in Your Life

Overcoming the Storms in Your Life

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

What if you had the chance to step away from the depths of your despair?
What if you could overcome your darkest hour?
What if you could eliminate the very thing that plagues you?
What if God showed you that it could be done?…Would you do it?


Often we find ourselves questioning “What if?”
Our lives and our blessing are not built on what ifs and what abouts
We are not meant to live lives that are impacted and defiled by evil people and negative thoughts.
We are meant to lead blessed and abundantly lives that in-turn bless other people.


Ephesians 4:18 “They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart.”



Why would you block your own blessings by consistently living in fear, pain, confusion and mediocrity?
Why you keep thinking that you already know the answer to your issue, when you have living a cycle of sadness, anger, and doubt?
You keep praying asking God to give you a sign and yet when that very sign is completely bright in neon lights flashing right in front of your face you ignore it.


Although the storms in your life may bring the thunder and rain, know that you will overcome them because you’ve already proven that you can.


2Timothy 2:23-24

“Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. 
And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.”
Stop arguing with those who taunt, bring negativity, and hurt you! You are only allowing it and hurting yourself. You know that you deserve better than that. So stop!!


Remember when you allowed someone to dim your light?
Remember when you let your significant other tell you that your dreams were too big?
Remember when you got that degree and how you kept getting denied a job?
Remember when that person showed you who they were and you made excuses for them?
Remember when you lost every material thing that you owned?
Remember when you lost that person that you loved so dearly, to death?
Remember when you spent your last dime so that your child could eat?


Everything that has plagued you have risen above it!
God has blessed you over and over again!
Do you see the signs now? 
Do you see how your circumstances or a situation clouded everything?


God helps you through every situation. Why are you denying that you can break away from the very thing that is hurting you?


1 Peter 5:7
“Cast all of your anxiety on him because he cares for you”
Don’t you see? Everything that He has done for you before, in some way He will do it again if only you have faith and do what He calls you to do.

As I keep saying, please making excuses. You are not helping anyone by doing that, and you are stifling your life, your blessings, and the growth of your family.

Change your mindset so that you can change your life.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Overcoming storms in health means that you will have to fight and never give up. Everyone faces different struggles in their lives, but the key in healthcare is to not give up. If you don’t know the answer to something, ask until you get the answer. You can overcome anything put on your path, do what you can to help everyone around you. Health care can be difficult to access, so do what you can to help others get the help that they need.





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F-Forgiveness

F-Forgiveness

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Forgiveness- how to do it, why you
should do it, and what comes from forgiving yourself and others.
We’re human, we make some poor choices, and we all have to be able to forgive
those faults whether we are the dealer or we’re on the receiving end.

How
to forgive…
Self:
you face yourself in the mirror and say, yes I made the mistake of… or yes I
did that crazy thing, but I now realize that it was wrong, childish, stupid,
ridiculous and I forgive myself for the act and what happened because of it…
then you do whatever it takes to NEVER DO IT AGAIN. 

For those that believe in a higher power: take it to God (or whomever you believe in) in prayer and ask for forgiveness. He/she sees all and knows your heart. The universe sees all that you go through and recognizes your thoughts and words as stepping stones for your life; by forgiving yourself and adjusting your thoughts, you change your future before you physically see.

Simple
acts of owning your mistakes and relieving yourself of any pain or sadness
connected to it may be the best thing that you could do for yourself, your
life, your children, your spouse, family or business. We may sometimes get into a
mode where we are ready to crawl inside of a hole because of something that
we’ve done or didn’t do… but think about it, what good will that do? You need
to stand up again, move beyond that time, grow from it and use your lesson as a part of a living testimony to save someone else. Forgive yourself, you deserve it.

Others:
Yes, so many of us have been let down, “burned” by, abused by, hurt
by others…many times by those who we thought loved us. Guess what though… if you can’t forgive them for whatever they have done you will only hurt
yourself and block your blessings. Now, I’m not saying that you should forgive
them and let them back in or allow them to hurt you over and over again. Forgive, but do not become a pawn in their game and allow it to reoccur.

Forgiving others does not mean that they have to apologize! You go into your
mind, in prayer, in meditation and pan through the problem or occurrence in
your mind; you forgive by not allowing it to take over your life, keep hurting
you, etc. You say “I forgive you for… that you did to me, my family,
etc”. God forgives us, you need to forgive others and yourself for your own inner peace, calmness,
clarity, and growth.

Never
take revenge!
Romans 12:19 “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the
righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will
pay them back,” says the LORD.”
Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”  It is not your job to go toe-to-toe and hurt someone because they hurt you; again, this will only hurt you in the end. Speak kindly, do what you can to overcome the pain, and walk away if it is at all possible. How you respond to certain words/situations can deeply affect your life.
You
are not perfect nor are those who have harmed/hurt you!!!

Forgiveness
in the Bible
Matthew
6:14-15
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also
forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will
your Father forgive your trespasses.  You need to have a heart and mind that forgives; your life and all within it benefits when you can forgive.
Ephesians
4:32
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ
forgave you. You have a part of your that is filled with love and kindness, even when it hurts you have to try to remember that. 

What
happens when you forgive?
You can smile, laugh, love, and be happy again. You can reclaim your power,
your joy and your many present and coming blessings… you can live again!

Unlock
your doors, break down those walls and forgive! No, it’s not always that
easy… but it can be done. Yes, you may lose some “friends” or have
to love some family only from a distance… but that’s ok.
I’m
praying for any of you that may be going through a rough patch, have just gone
through something or those who may be living in confusion, pain, depression
because of a negative situation. I love you with the love of the Lord, and more
importantly God loves you and He will never leave you.
If you need to talk, I’m always around.



In
the meantime, get to work so that you can change your life.

Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight*** Fascioliasis
Symptoms of this parasitic infection: fever, nausea, swollen liver, rashes, and abdominal pain  (WHO)
Prevalence: Over 2 million people (approximate total over time) in more than 70 countries have been infected with the infection. (WHO)
Treatment: After stool specimen/blood work diagnosis, oral medication is available through the CDC under investigational protocol
Prevention: No eating raw watercress and other water plants, avoid food and water that is contaminated, protect animals, and thoroughly cook food.
Your health is they key to enjoying your life to the fullest. Know that so many people public health leader and advocates such as myself care about you, your family, your well-being, and your life.



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