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Overcoming Abuse

Overcoming Abuse

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
©KayLaN.Allen


This is one that truly hits home for me, as I endured physical and mental abuse in my past. I saw this blog as an opportunity to be completely open and vulnerable with you. I know that you may be experiencing this now, or may be moving beyond that pain and I am going to give you some insight, love, and support during this time.


Feeling pain from physical abuse, mental/emotional abuse, or verbal abuse can hurt and plague your life with stress, anxiety, depression, and countless triggers. I know your pain and I know your feelings, and I want to help you get through it and help you take back your life.


If you are still in an abusive relationship/friendship or in a seemingly abuse work relationship, you need to take inventory on your life. 


Abusive Personal Relationships
Intimate: Although a person may say that they did not mean it or it will not happen again, remember that it should not have happened at all. Don’t let them take you out of character or make you change your view of yourself. Remember that you are made in God’s image and you can be anything that you want to be in life; don’t let anyone’s thoughts/behaviors hold you hostage. If someone says that no one else will want you, remember that there are billions of other people in the world and if you were only meant to be with one person you would have been assigned them/physically connected to them at birth. You are handsome/You are beautiful and there are many others who would feel lucky to have someone like you to love because of all that you have to offer (internally) and your wonderful spirit.


People that hurt us with no remorse, do not need to be in our lives. Fight back in whatever way you can to leave; analyze your situation and be prepared to leave safely. Call the police and report it. If you have a friend/family member you can trust have them help you move out. I promise, no matter how much your partner may pull you away from your family/friends someone still cares and loves you. 


A person should not speak negatively to you: yelling at you, cursing at you, calling you out of your name, etc. If your significant other is showing you signs of a high temper, uncontrollable anger/behavior, pay attention and know that you cannot change someone who does not see a problem with what they are doing. Even if they say that it is not their normal behavior and they do not know where it came from, know that their words are more than likely not the truth. Anger doesn’t come out of nowhere, nor does abuse. Being under the influence is not an excuse, either. Pay attention and believe what you are shown.


Be mindful of patterns.


Never forget: You did not make them do it.


There are foundations, organizations, shelters, etc. to support you if you need it. If you need help finding one, let me know and I will assist you in every way humanly possible. I care and I want to help you.


Friends
Yes, friends can abuse you. If they make fun of you “jokingly”, use you, only call when they need something, take and never give, etc. they do not need to be in your life. People will only do what they are allowed to do. If your “friend” is only there for selfish reasons, show them the nearest exit. Stand up for yourself and demand what you deserve or leave if it is not within your friendship. Be kind and still pay attention; do not be blinded by history or false sense of friendship.


Work
If your superiors/coworkers are using you for their benefit and do not support you, encourage you, offer you room for growth, etc. you may not belong there. You have to realize that you have special gifts and talents that you can offer the team/business and those gifts have a significant value. 


Do not let others misuse you, abuse you, cause you pain, break your spirit, degrade you, attack you, etc.  If either person in a relationship is not wanting to be in the relationship anymore, step away. If problems only get bigger and voices only get louder, it is time to go.


Brokenness can be re-shaped. You must be able to look within yourself and see your value and your worth (yes, the two are different). You have something special about yourself that cannot be taken away from you and that is what you must focus on when overcoming these abusive relationships. 


You need to do something with your time that is productive. Get back in school, get a hobby, do volunteer work; do all of these things for yourself. You can heal inside, but it will take time. Yoga, meditation, silent retreats, sound psychological counseling, prayer, support groups, etc. can all be amazingly beneficial things for you to do. You have to do what works for you, and you do not need someone to do these things with you.


The most important thing for you to do after you have gotten away from your abusive past is to not look back. You left for a reason and you faced something that you should have never had to deal with. I know that there may be a lingering feeling trying to remember a piece of good/some happy memories, but I promise you it is not worth revisiting the pain.


You have a strength inside of yourself that you must tap into, and believe me you can do it.


The Universe nor God want you to endure abuse of any sort, so it is time to heal as best as you can. 


Psalms 147:3
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” You are hurting or you are still hurting, but know that there is a healing unlike any other coming your way. Seek help and pray about your situation. There is a better life/person for you. This wound needs more than a band-aid, this is definitely a surgery type of situation, so do what it takes to overcome and get stronger. God can heal you in a way that no other can; whatever higher power you connect to is with you and cares about you. You can look inside of yourself, gain wisdom/knowledge via teachings, meditation, and yoga to re-train your brain. Whatever way works for you, you need to do it starting right now.


Isaiah 40:29-31
“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”  You will heal, with time and faith. It will take effort, simply waiting and believing will not get you out of your situation; you have to muster up the strength and reach inside of yourself to overcome abuse. Once you find that peace and your happiness, never let anyone take it away.


The truth of the matter is that yes you may currently be a victim, but you can become a survivor and a significant blessing with someone else, with new friends (or none at all) or by working elsewhere. You may feel weak right now but take it from a survivor-turned-warrior, you will find your strength.


Remember, you are not alone. I’ll listen to you, cry with you, pray with you, empower you, and help you in any way that I can.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner







***Health Spotlight***
STD’s the prevalence of is increasing with time. Please remember that your body is your own and you have the option to say no and that is good enough; if someone sees a problem with that they can leave and you can tell them you are no longer interested. According to the CDC: there were approximately 2.3 million cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea & syphilis last year (more than 200,000) than the previous year. Get tested regularly, even if you are not in a relationship. There is free help at most community health clinics. Do not be scared to seek help, if you need it. You can experience many horrible symptoms and beyond if you do not get medical help. Protect yourself and others by doing the right thing.




Abuse, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Global Health, Healing, Overcoming, Public Health, Relationships, Strength
Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Throughout life, we meet and get to know people on many different levels.


The passing of time, change in vision of life, different goals, broken hearts, etc. can all be reasons that these relationship must come to an end.


Making the decision to overcome a relationship can be one of the most difficult things to do. However, this very decision can be one of the best things that you can do for yourself, your family, or your career.


Let’s look a little deeper at intimate relationships, friendships, and career relationships.


Intimate Relationships
When dating (typically at the beginning), many people experience feelings of joy, excitement, butterflies, love, lust, etc., but we must remember that those things don’t always last nor do they have to. 


Of course, you should work hard in your relationships and love the one you are with, but if things have gone sour and either of you are experiencing dysfunction or unhealthy behaviors it may be beyond time to cut ties.


You know what you deserve in a relationship and what you need; if your significant other is unwilling to work on those things, don’t you think that maybe you need to rethink the relationship? 


Don’t you think that maybe you should be with someone who is willing to put in the effort and build a strong, faithful, and loving relationship with you? 


Let me say this: you do not have to stay with someone who cheats on you or mistreats you. You need to get your head on straight and think through your relationship and make the decision to overcome any negativity within it; if that means you need to leave, so be it. 


Keep this at the forefront of your mind: staying in a relationship just for the kids will hurt you, your significant other, those God meant for you, and your children (as they will mimic and be susceptible to what you have shown them/allowed them to be a part of). Do the right thing.


Friendship
At various stages of our lives we meet people that we may find a connection with, someone that likes the same things, or someone that we simply have things in common with and they become friends that we hold close to our hearts. 


We do things together, talk regularly, and even buy each other gifts. Those relationships are not always meant to travel with you for life, in fact it can be more unhealthy than anything to allow people that do not have the same goals, those without an aim for growth, or someone without the same beliefs as you. 


Proverbs 18:24
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” A friend is a blessing, but sometimes you have to let them go so that you can grow and find your happiness. One of the greatest friends and the most dependable friend can be found in God.


Friendship is a beautiful thing, but sometimes those relationships are only for a season; you learn the lesson then it’s time to move forward. You must be willing to see through the memories, time spent, etc. and realize that growth and change are mandatory in life…even when it comes to friends. Overcome that relationship by realizing the value in it and remembering that your journey through life and your success do not require everyone that you encounter and/or befriend.


Career Relationships
A brand new job comes up and we get excited about it look forward to everything that we will do, etc. Over time, you may get bored, want more money, gain a degree, or get tired of the commute, etc. and that is perfectly fine.  There are many people that stick to one job or one career for their entire life and that is okay, but that does not have to be the case. 


If you are feeling stuck or unfulfilled and there is no room for growth, perhaps you need to overcome that career relationship.  You need a challenge, you need to feel that you are making a difference and that you are being appreciated; if that is not how you feel you need to be appreciative of what you have learned and the opportunity and redirect your life.


Ecclesiastes 3: 1 & 5
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.” Knowing the value of any relationship (family included) is important, but it is equally important to recognize if someone/something is causing you to feel truly unhappy. If there is no way to mend it or the person is intentionally causing you emotional pain, you need to overcome that relationship.


It can hurt to leave people behind, but wouldn’t you rather forgive, try to mend, and overcome if it is necessary. You deserve to be happy within yourself; few things/people can give you that except God, looking into your soul, acknowledging what the Universe is blessing you with, and you.


Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
There have been over 100 measles cases and 8 outbreaks of the measles in the U.S. this year(CDC). The majority of people with measles contract it because they are not vaccinated. Physical symptoms may appear in about 10-14 days after exposure, but people are contagious after 4 days with the virus. Fever is the early symptom of the measles, they can reach up to 105 F; this is accompanied by malaise, cough, and conjunctivitis. The rash spreads from the head-down (CDC). High risk people are infants, adults over 20, pregnant women, and those with compromised immune systems. Airborne spread and droplets are the methods of transmission; it can remain in the air for two hours. There is no antiviral treatment, but medical care is necessary; hospitalization is hospital. As always, if you suspect an illness seek medical attention.




Labels: Overcoming, Growth, Relationships, Friends, Change, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Faith, Healing




Overcoming Situations & Facing Others’ Negativity

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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Making a choice to overcome vs coping is entirely up to you, but remember you must be prepared to face the outcome.

Being stuck in a situation, or simply feeling stuck, is never a healthy place to be. It will fog your mind, cause confusion, and bring on levels of stress unlike any other. (Ask me how I know…)

So, you’ve made the choice to overcome…what can you do with the negativity that may come your way because of it?

Oh yes sir and yes ma’am, there will be those who are out to rain on your parade, and those who want to make you feel bad for your choice to claim your power…but you must be ready.

Choose, in your mind, to stand firm in your decisions. If you have made the choice to overcome, you can make the choice to find happiness in your new journey.

Those directly attached to you may not understand your choice and they may not know your new walk…but guess what…it isn’t for them to understand.


You see, others gain power only when you allow them to do so. You must stand up for yourself, and be aware of all that you are.

God has an amazing plan and purpose for your life…why else would you be here? Why else would you be reading this? 
The universe is molding this amazing life for you, and energy is being activated. Why else would you have chosen to overcome? Why else would you be diligently working toward achieving something better?

You are doing what it takes to create a navigation system for your life. If you choose to allow someone else’s evilness and negativity to creep in, guess where you’re headed…a dead end, and we know that road leads to nowhere.

You better be ready for whatever comes your way. Don’t be fearful, because you are never alone, and greatness is coming your way.


Ephesians 6:11
“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.” Evil and negativity come in many forms, be prepared for what others may say or try to do. Remember who you are, turn the other cheek whenever possible, and do not be afraid of stepping on the toes of those who mean you no good.  Your courage is internal as is the plot of those do who evil things; you have the power and the ball is in your court. What you do and what you allow into your life is up to you. Overcome it, stand firm, and believe in yourself. God is with you every step of the way. The universe is connected to you, so do what is best for you and do not let go of your strength.

John 3:20 
“Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.” From me directly to you: You do whatever it takes to pour sugar on your circumstances and over others instead of dishing out revenge and violence. Your blessing is coming. Those who are evil see no problem in what they are doing, in fact they find a sense of responsibility/comfort in doing what they do. If you throw back what they give you that does not make the situation better, you are giving them your power and allowing them to put a shade over your light.

When someone decides to treat you like trash after you make that choice to do good things or choose a better path for your life, remember this…the problem is not you, it is buried deep inside of them. You cannot change them, so the best thing for you to do is be happy with your choice and keep choosing the be on the side of what is right and good.

Negativity is like that of the darkness, it remains still and it lingers until someone turns on the light. Be the light.

Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner

***Health Spotlight***
Meningitis can be caused by bacteria, virus, fungus, parasite, or an amoeba. It affects approximately 4000 people annually. It can lead to severe medical issues or death if not treated quickly.  The brain and spinal cord are severely affect. Person-to-person transmission is possible as is a spread through contaminated food, during birth, droplets, and via improper hand washing. As with many other diseases, those with a compromised immune system, younger/older, or are pregnant are at an increased risk of contracting the disease. Symptoms appear within 3-7 days after exposure; they include nausea, vomiting, confusion, and photophobia (CDC, 2017). You need to seek a physician for antibiotic treatment. Take good care of yourself and maintain healthy habits.  


Evil, Overcoming, Positivity, Negativity, Change, Evolving, Global Health, Healing, Public Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Achievement, Kindness


What Does It Mean To Overcome?

What Does It Mean To Overcome?

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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You climb your mountain and miss a step, but catch yourself.
You drive your car in the rain and slide a bit, but you get back on track immediately.
You face your scars and remember that you are a beautiful product of your life experiences.


Overcoming means to:
Move beyond, gain control, or defeat something. This definition can be different for each person and in every situation. The key is to understand what it means to you.


A person can talk to you for hours about overcoming and not truly understand what it means to you.


The real definition is inside of yourself.


Maybe overcoming means taking back your power.
Maybe overcoming means getting out of a bad relationship for yourself and your family.
Maybe overcoming means that you learn to clearly see how the universe is working in your favor.
Maybe overcoming means that you step out of your comfort zone and into the realm that you are supposed to be in.  
Maybe overcoming means getting control of the chaos in your life.
-Whatever it means to you, it is up to you to look deeper into what it would mean to make that change, overcome that battle, or climb that new hill.


Understanding what it means to overcome is how you can prepare to do it.


You find meaning and value in life and your journey by taking the time to truly look inside of yourself and allow change and evolution to occur.


Challenge yourself to take a moment and write down what is truly bothering you. This is the beginning of facing what is bringing problems to your life. 


Job 8:7
“…Though your beginning was small, your latter will be great.” You may not be where you dream of being, but it is surely coming- it has been promised to you. The universe is in full-creation mode and is bringing opportunities your way that you did not know existed. God has a blessing and vision for your life. 


Proverbs 2:12-15
“Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways, who delight in doing wrong and rejoice in the perverseness of evil, whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways.”  Taking the time to do the work, writing it all down, facing the problem and understanding what it means to overcome your storm is the first step in developing a new area of wisdom.  This wisdom could be the key to your success or in finding true happiness within yourself. What would it mean to defeat the storm in your life?


Are you able to open the doors of promise and opportunity now? Do you still have some preparation to do? If you aren’t ready, that is okay for now…but you need to get ready. You need to stop just dealing with it and start preparing to change.


Now that you understand the basic meaning of overcoming, you are ready to learn to make it happen. Buckle up, it may be a bumpy ride.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Chickenpox can cause extreme problems for people of all ages.  The virus that it is linked to it, VZV, can spread via touching, breathing in particles, and possibly through droplets. Getting the vaccine is the best protection; you can still get chickenpox but the severity will be decreased, you will have fewer blisters and less of a fever. It is essential that you do your part to take care of yourself and your family. Calamine and colloidal oatmeal baths are a go-to to relieve itching, and acetaminophen over-the-counter may help reduce fever as well. Although there has been a decline in the number of people with a VZV virus over the past two decades, it is still affecting over 3 million people a year according to the CDC. Seek the care of a physician or any medical provider; there is affordable care available. 


Overcoming, Balance, Empowerment, Growth, Public Health, Epidemiology, Global Health, Positivity, Wisdom, Mental Health, Strength, Success
Cope, Hide, Overcome, Run or Escape? (C.H.O.R.E.)

Cope, Hide, Overcome, Run or Escape? (C.H.O.R.E.)

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So, you’ve had a bad day…
Your kids are driving you mad…
You’re feeling stuck…
You can’t answer the “what if” question….
Life is sending you on the roller coaster of your life…


No matter what storm you go through, you have options to choose from.
Each one will get you an end.
Each one will have a consequence.
Each one can take you out of your situation.


Which do you choose?
Will you cope, hide, overcome, run, or escape?


If the answer doesn’t come to you immediately, then you have some work and thinking to do. 


No more crying, no more pity party, no more hiding.


Burdens that arise in our lives stress our minds, bodies, and spirits…look at the power that we can give those things.   (Scary…)


In the midst of a breakdown in anything from your finances to your spirit, you must make the choice to cope with what happened, run, escape, and overcome…hiding and sitting on your butt whining and complaining will only give you more of the same. No matter the choice you make, be sure that you are prepared to live with the outcome.


You need to shape your mind, evolve your thinking, and make a decision sooner than later…because little do you know you are affecting everyone around you while you live in that storm. You are causing pain and destruction to yourself and your future; you deserve clarity, peace, and happiness…so choose wisely.


Though the pressure may seem high, you have to do your C.H.O.R.E. If you need support or somewhere to turn, I promise it is much closer than you think. You have friends, love, and family (even those who aren’t related) that care about you…I PROMISE. I care 100% and I am here for you.


You must be willing to do the work. Are you ready?


Getting beyond your circumstances will start in the mind. You have to step out of your element to see beyond the fire in your eyes or the flame circling your situation. 


John 16:33
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”  God can deliver you from your circumstances if and only if you believe, and if you put in the REQUIRED effort. Things will not change on their own nor will they magically disappear. You can have the peace that you desire, but it may take time.


Please, know that you are not the only one dealing with a tough time; also know that you can are the master of your life. It is okay to choose to cope with your situation if it the best thing for you and/or your family; you have to step back and answer the question on your own, no one else can make that decision for you. Be wise, think, and weigh your option; comb through your situations with a fine tooth comb.


1 Peter 3:9-11
“Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For, Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.” 
I know that you may have a deep hurt inside of yourself because of something that someone else said or did, and yes you should stand up for yourself. Remember this though, you need to do what you can to mend the situation; in every other area simply be kind- no matter how difficult that may be. 


To briefly cover a powerful conversation that included the Dalai Lama- He said that if you are living with anger/negativity inside of yourself that is selfishness; you must realize that what you are seeing is simply that and nothing more- it is not really what is happening. You have to be able to look deeper at your situation and inside of yourself to make changes and evolve from your current position.


It is time to take drastic measures. Shape it up and shake it off; push for change and try your best not to question your decision after it has been made.


Though challenges may present themselves, you must make a healthy choice. The words you speak, the choices you make, and the space that you reside in affect your life in every way. 


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
As we know, stress can be linked to many kinds of illnesses and disorders varying from something as “simple” as a migraine to PTSD and Heart Disease. It is important to understand the impact that events in your life can have on your mind and body. Be careful and pay attention to what your body tells you. If you are experiencing stress do what it takes to find true, lasting peace; it may just save your life. 



Cope, Overcome, Strong, Growth, Empowerment, Mental Health, Public Health, Kindness, Global Health, Healing, Positivity


Z-Zest

Z-Zest

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If you combine your passion, your appetite for success, spirit, and fire inside of you and that is your zest.


What puts that light in your eyes? What fuels your flame? What drives your energy? What makes your heart happy? What seemingly makes your forget/overcome your struggles in you life?


Be Zesty (“lively and pleasing”). 


Let’s say that there are 1000 other people going for the same job that you are going for…would you walk into your interview knowing that you are just another applicant? No, don’t do that. Sparkle, glisten, and show your passion because that will make you stand out. 


God gave you gifts and talents; He gave you something that no one else has. He gave you a zest for what you are passionate about. Dark days and those who are against you do not matter. 


Be active and energetic every day, no matter what happens and you’ll realize that you have so much to be thankful for. For those who choose to sit in sorrow, they will feel that everything is going wrong and nothing will ever change. If you encounter that person, let them know that two things that are guaranteed are the passing of time and change.


As much as we would like to control every part of our days, it is not always that easy. We do have the option to be full of zest and we do have the option to change the outcome of our days. 


If you are feeling sad or discouraged, know that your zest in life is still connected to your heart and mind. The universe is constantly at work for you; be happy in every moment, as best as you possibly can- it is worth it. God knows and sees your dreams and He is shaping your path, be full of zest and be prepared for all of the good that is coming your way.


You see, as we challenge what seems likely to break us down we reveal zest for whatever our heart desires. If you are feeling stuck in a box because of your finances and you want to make a change, but that change requires finances, you need to change your thinking and take every step with a breath of zest. 


There is not always going to be a door open for you, sometimes you have to build your own door and push it open. 


A painting of clouds could seem dreary and boring, but if you add flowers, sunshine, and children playing you reveal happiness and zest…the same can be applied to your life. 


Be enthusiastic and full of zest in all that you do and dream of. Your drive, compassion, vigor, and light inside of you are all that you need to succeed. 


Mark 9:50
“Salt is a good thing; but if it has lost its zest, how can it be seasoned again? You should have salt within yourselves and peace with one another.” Be fervent in your beliefs, never lose sight of your dreams, and be filled with a zest for life. Work diligently to find peace within yourself and gain a high-spirit in life. Seek peace with others, one moment in anger is a moment that could be spent in resolution, clarity, and happiness; fix it, for you and those you love.


Romans 5:5
“And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” You must allow yourself to be filled with hope and joy in order to ready to receive all that has been promised to you by God. The universe reacts to what you are putting out in feeling and thought, so you need to live as though you have already manifested what you want in your life. 


Have a complete zest for life and you will change the way that the see the world, and the way that things turn out.


***Health Spotlight***
Zoonotic Diseases: These infections link humans and animals. Although people come in close contact with their pets on a regular basis, there are germs/bacteria that can be carried by animals. Approximately 6 out of 10 infectious diseases are spread via animals. Thousands of people, annually, will get sick because of germs spread between humans and animals (CDC). Germs can be spread from direct contact, indirect contact, via an insect, or from contaminated food. Children under 5, the elderly, and those with weakened immune systems are at higher risk of a zoonotic disease. Prevention tips include: proper hand washing, staying safe around pets, prevent mosquito, tick and flea bites, safe food handling, and avoiding scratches or bites from animals. Depending on the type of disease, the incubation period can vary from hours to weeks and the symptoms vary, as well. Use your medical support system, they care and so do I.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner

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Y-Yearn

Y-Yearn

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Struggles and storms mean next to nothing if your heart and mind yearn for nothing better and nothing more. 


You yearn for what you want and what you deserve; that is directly connected to all you are.


If something shakes your drive or your climb to reach your goal, then maybe you push isn’t strong enough, you need to change some aspect, or you need to rehabilitate your mind.


Sure, we all have our struggles; even those who seem like they have it all may have had to claw their way up to the level that they have reached. Even celebrities experience difficulties in their lives; no one is perfect. 


To yearn is go beyond a want or desire, it is essentially craving something with extreme determination; it is knowing and feeling that nothing can block you from reaching a goal/dream.


If you are a person that is walking around hoping and wishing, you aren’t doing enough. Cut the talk and start the walk.


If you have any dream of becoming successful, you have to yearn for it so much that every step up the ladder becomes a part of every fiber of your being.


You need to wake up with positive thoughts, envisioning yourself and every detail of your goals. You need to take steps every day and make a fervent effort to be prosperous in all that you do. Go to sleep thankful for all that you have accomplished, all that you want for your life, and the blessings all around you.


You need to feel that happiness. You need to be willing to fight for it. You have to taste it with every breath that you take. 


What is the part of your vision of success that makes you want it so badly? Is it the abundance in life? Is it the ability to change the world? Is it the joy that takes over you when you learn more and more about it? Take all of those thoughts and feelings and embed them into your heart- that is yearning.


There will be those who don’t believe in you, lie about you, shut doors in your face, and try to speak evil into your life…but they can’t affect you unless you let them.


Whatever you dream to be or dream to have, do it to the best of your ability. If you want to be a stylist, a doctor, a singer/songwriter, an artist, a fashion designer, a plumber, an electrician, an astronaut…whatever, it does not matter and it will not happen if you are not putting in an effort and you do not yearn to have what you dream come into your reality.


Whatever you yearn and strive for, you can have. What are you waiting for?


Need some motivation? Here you go. For every moment that you are wasting, someone else is building and shaping their future; use your time wisely. The longer you wait, the longer someone else has to wait for your blessing to reach them. Be hopeful.


Romans 15:13
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” Be prayerful and also know that the Universe and God have favor on your life. When you are able to be in-tune with your subconscious you can make things that seem like miracles occur via frequent thoughts, visions, and meditation. The hope that lives inside of you is not in vain, if you are craving your goals.


Ephesians 1:18
“Having the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know what is the hope to which he has called you, what are the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints.”

God has given you all that you could ever want, it is living inside of you…make the most of all that you have been blessed with. You have been put together like a unique puzzle of amazing and perfect pieces; your puzzle pieces are your gifts and talents which make a beautiful picture and bring forth magnificent blessings.


I dream of a world where we all reach our goals, surpass them and live in peace, great health and prosperity. I believe in you, I’ll always encourage you to do great things, and I care about your success; surround yourself with people who feel the same way.


***Health Spotlight***
Yersiniosis- This is a type of infection that is linked to consumption of raw/uncooked pork that is contaminated with Yersinia enterocolitica bacteria. This is an infection that affects over 100,000 people in the U.S. annually (CDC). Symptoms appear between 4-7 days after exposure to the bacteria, and they can be similar to that of appendicitis. Prevention: cook pork and all foods to an appropriate temperature, practice proper hand washing, and use separate cutting boards. Special testing is needed for diagnosing, and it typically goes away on its own or with antibiotics if someone has a severe infection (CDC).  As always, if something doesn’t feel right, seek medical attention. Take good care of yourself and your family.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


Yearn, Goals, Determination, Favor, Gifts, Empowerment, Public Health, Global Health, Epidemiology, Meditation, Universe, God, Dreams, Mental Health, Positivity

X- Xenodochial

X- Xenodochial

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Where is your heart and love for your fellow man? Do you know that with one word or one smile you can insight growth/change?


Xenodochial, not a common word for the every day vocabulary simply means being friendly to strangers.


How many times have you been wrapped up in your own little world and walked right past someone who may have been smiling at you or may have said something kind to you?  I know that I have a few times, and it can make the giver/receiver feel horrible inside.


How many times have you said “Good morning”, given a compliment or said “Have a nice day” to someone with no response given back? I bet it’s more than a few times.


First off, don’t automatically expect someone to be kind to you; if you do, you will set yourself up for disappointment.


What I want you to do is realize your place in this world, all of your experiences, and all that you have to offer. You need to be concerned with your behavior, even to strangers.


You may be that person whose smile will save a life. You may be that person that is very kind to someone on the elevator and a few minutes later find out that very person is the CEO of the company you are being interviewed at. You may be that person lightens up someone’s day every time you go to the store, salon, etc. just because you bring your radiated light and kindness in with you. You may be the person that a little girl/boy thinks they look like and they admire you. All of these things and more could be inside of you.


Be xenodochial, it is very easy.


Even if someone is not so kind to you, you can pay them back with a friendly word or kind gesture. God sees all that you do and all that is inside of your heart. Your friendliness can be the blessing that someone needs, you never know.


Now, do not go around thinking that you are the king/queen of the world and all must bow down to you and treat you like royalty.
Do not allow someone to intentionally treat you poorly, either.


You have power, love, light, beauty, kindness, and joy inside of you why shouldn’t you share it with the world?


Think about it like this, for every year of your life you have learned at least one thing. From these lessons, trials, storms, and moments of happiness you have evolved.


Be mindful that some stranger, somewhere in the world needs you. They may need you to learn how to grow, evolve, become educated, leave an unhealthy relationship, prepare for the working world, become more spiritual, become in-tune with themselves/God/Universe.


You learn for a reason. If you are learning and you have something to offer the world, do it.


Being kind to a stranger is a great place to start spreading joy and light.


There are days when you may feel full of sadness, anger, confusion, etc. but know that still you must stand strong and keep your faith…someone needs you.

1 Peter 3:8-9
“…you must all have the same attitude and the same feelings; love one another, and be kind and humble with one another. Do not pay back evil with evil or cursing with cursing; instead, pay back with a blessing, because a blessing is what God promised to give you when he called you.” 
—-Do not take it personally if someone is unkind to you, just do your part and be friendly to everyone around you. God has embedded you with love…give it back to the world. The Universe holds love as the foundation of all things, it is your job to build from it a life and world of love and blessings.


1 John 4:6-8
“We are from God. Whoever knows God listens to us; whoever is not from God does not listen to us. That is how we know the Spirit of truth and the spirit of deception. Beloved, let us love one another, because love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.…”
—-You were not put on this Earth to do things solely for yourself. You are a being of love and created by love. It is your job to spread love. What is one the most beautiful and pure ways to love? Friendship. Friendship starts by being friendly, caring for someone, and offering light. You start off as strangers to one another and through heart-to-heart connection you bless the world and generate love.


Be xenodochial (friendly to strangers), not just with your words but with all of your actions. You never know, there may be someone who needs you in one moment or that very person could be an angel.


Take advantage of every moment and do good things.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner




***Health Spotlight***
XDR TB (Extensively Drug-Resistant Tuberculosis)- According to the CDC, this is a rare form of TB that is caused by an organism that is resistant to the two most potent TB drugs. This type of TB is spread just as Drug-susceptible TB is spread; bacteria is spread via the air when a person coughs, sneezes, shouts, or sings. A person who is not properly taking their TB medication can also develop XDR TB (WHO). The bacteria can remain in the air for hours and when someone inhales the TB bacteria-infected air they can become infected. Those who are immuno-compromised are at a higher risk of infection than those who are healthy. Education and medical support are important in prevention of this disease. Practice good hygiene. As always, if you feel like something is wrong with your body seek the care of a physician. Practice good hygiene


Friendly, Kindness, Character, Love, Joy, Empowerment, Faith, Global Health, Mental Health, Epidemiology, Public Health, Nurturing, Smile, Healing



W-Worthy

W-Worthy

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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No matter what obstacles you face in your life, you are worthy of the great things that you want for yourself.


What does it mean to be worthy? How do you know if you are worthy?


Worthiness inside of you means that you are deserving, it is as simple as that. You know that you are worthy of all that life, God, and the Universe have to offer you if you are leading a kind, compassionate, thriving, humble, determined, prosperous, and goal-driven life. 


Every one of us has a story to tell, a testimony to share and spread, and some element of pain attached to a part of us; it is all about what we do with those lessons and moments that will show us that we are living in our purpose and we are worthy to be great. 


I always mention living in your purpose, and it is important to do so no matter what is happening in your life. 


If you are sad in a moment or angry at someone, guess what? You need to think about it in the moment and then let it go. Remember that you are worthy of happiness and pure joy. You are not perfect and you may have some growing to do, but you are still worthy.


Worthiness is not something that can be shoved into your mind, though. You must be in tune with yourself and be able to look in the mirror at more than the image being reflected back to you.


Show and remind yourself that you are worthy by taking care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. 


Even if you aren’t going anywhere for the day, even if your kids are driving you crazy, even if your job is draining you…get yourself together physically; get healthy, cut out your bad habits that are damaging your body and your life. You deserve to look well-groomed, polished and like the worthy being that you are.


Even if the storms in your life are turning into what seem to be disasters, be prayerful and meditate. If you are not taking care of your thoughts and what you put out into the Universe, how can you expect to live out your biggest dreams or achieve your highest goals. You deserve and are worthy of a healthy mental state. Do what is best for you.


Even if you are feeling depressed, anxious, broken, or lost remember that worthiness and happiness are embedded inside of you. You are an amazing and blessed being that is unlike any other and you have so much to offer the world. You are worthy of love, kindness, compassion, and so much more.


Even if you don’t go to church, if your faith is shaken, or if you have lost hope in the Universe know that your spirit is still intact and you are worthy of strength in your faith. You have everything that you need to be spiritually strong within you, but you must tap into it and be consistent.


Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” God knew that you were worthy before you were even created, don’t block yourself from all that He has promised.
The Universe is aware of your needs and wishes, don’t be blind to all that it is working out for you and all that it has to offer you.


Ephesians 2:10
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Greatness is what you are made of and from, so doesn’t that mean that you are directly destined for and worthy of greatness? You were made of all that is love from He and what is love, therefore you are worthy of love and all that is made for you.


Blessings are flowing all around you and you are worthy of each one. Stop letting things (or people) block you from receiving what you are worthy of. Make the changes that are necessary for you to grow and become all that you are worthy of. 


Do you think are worthy now? The answer should be and needs to be YES!!!


***Health Spotlight***
West Nile Virus- A common virus caused by mosquitoes; approximately 1 in every 150 people with the infection develop a serious illness and 1 in 5 develop symptoms, according to the CDC.  The virus has a regular transmission cycle and can affect humans and other mammals. It is found in North America, Africa, the Middle East, Europe and West Asia, according to the WHO. Use EPA registered insect repellent and follow the application directions. Further protect yourself by wearing appropriate clothing. There are small things that you can do to protect yourself and your little ones. Failing to prepare could be detrimental, so do what is necessary to take care of your family.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


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V-View

V-View

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Our sight gives us a sense of understanding, but what if we are missing the bigger picture because of what we perceive to be true?


There is true beauty in the world, just as there is evil and ugliness. Often we tie our past to our current lives and circumstances because of fear, similarities, confusion and brokenness.
We can’t allow what seems to be real to become real, if it is not for our good.


Perception vs. A Clearer View- What You (think you) See vs. What You Could See
“I hate being single and I need to have someone in my life so that I can feel good and look happy like everyone else.” Vs. “I would like to have someone to share my life with, but I know that I need to work on myself and reconnect with who I am… who cares about what others think.”
“I wish that I was rich so that I would could buy whatever I want and not have to worry about anything.” Vs. “I want to live a prosperous and abundant life, so I am going to work hard to get where I want to be and I will live without fear of mediocrity or failure.”
“Everyone that comes into my life is toxic and I can’t take it anymore.” Vs. “I need to take inventory on my life, eliminate negativity and change my circle of friends for my personal growth.”
These are just a few examples of what you may perceive vs what you could actually see.
It is important that you take the time to not only fight back in your toughest storms, but actually figure out what they mean in the bigger picture. There is a lesson in all things.


Many things that we are faced with make us question our reality, but it is up to us to create changes and shifts in our lives. 


If you see that things are not the way you need them to be change your view, shift your reality, or change your scenery.


If you have been making excuses for someone else’s behavior, snap out of it and change your view. Provide yourself with what you deserve.


Instead of seeing evil and ugliness in the world, change your view and see opportunity for change and be the person to create beauty in your circle; by changing your immediate view you instantly change the world. Don’t hold on to pain and disappointment.


Proverbs 15:3
“The eyes of the Lord are everywhere, keeping watch on the wicked and the good.” Let God and the universe help you, heal you, and guide you; don’t take on more than you can bear. The Lord sees all things and knows your pain, keep your eyes on Him. 


Instead of complaining about what is going on in your life, why don’t you try looking it with a different pair of eyes…from a different point of view?


Ecclesiastes 2:14
“The wise person has his eyes in his head, but the fool walks in darkness.” Be wise in your judgment and thinking, don’t become subject to negativity of the mind because you are walking around with your blinders on. Pay attention and act accordingly.


Life is not perfect, but you have the power and the ability to change your surroundings and your view on life.


Stop thinking that it is your job to seek revenge, pay back evil with evil, fix everybody’s issues, and dwell in everything that is negative.


It’s time to use a new set of eyes and pay attention to what is in view….not just a perception.


God and the universe offer you limitless opportunities to view newer heights, achieve greater things, and bless those around you. If you are choosing to be blind, you will miss out.

***Health Spotlight***
Vaccinations and regular doctor visits are important in more ways that one. We have seen what they can do and they bring hope for the future. Vaccination is a controversial topic and it likely will be for a long time, but if you choose not to vaccinate you may put yourself and or your family in danger. Take the time to do real research on vaccines and learn how to protect your family. It may mean life or death. This is also men’s health week, so I encourage you to encourage the men in your life to take care of themselves and see a physician regularly. It is our job to care for ourselves and those we love. Are you doing your part?

Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner

 
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