Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl,

Do you understand the value and powerful potential that comes from learning and sharing your wisdom gained from overcoming challenges in your “mixed” journey? 

With every turn in the road and place where you find yourself growing and developing, you must learn something. 

There is no time in life when you have all the answers, but with a bit of support and dedication, there is a greater opportunity for smoother transitions and reached goals. 

Sometimes the missing piece to the puzzle of another person’s life is the moment of sharing that you can grant them from a meaningful place or space in time. 

Mixed girl, there are so many moments in your life where things may seem shaky, confusing, and difficult, but know that you will prosper. 

You have so many things you can give others in education and wisdom by repeatedly working through who you are and being the greatest version of yourself. 

There is hope in every today and promises in every tomorrow if you can remember to find the goodness around you and fight through the challenges that arise. 

Live through the fantastic value of who you are, and you will find that powerful way to give back to the world.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters, Letter Entitled “Sharing to Educate Others”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that shares experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. In these similarities, we can find individual truths and ways to become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client or hire Dr. KayLa for a Dear Mixed Girl (trademark filed and pending) speaking engagement? Contact Dr. KayLa via the contact page and sign up below using the button to start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

Meaningful Alignment

Walking in disarray, creating dysfunction, having a pity party, wallowing in self-doubt, and seeking external validation in countless ways to fix your internal concerns are tangible and easy to do; sadly, many of us do these things in some way or another daily. Even if you found that one of those previously mentioned things hit home for you in a shocking way, what is to come below is what you need to apply to your life immediately. Meaningful alignment and leverage are created by design if only you regularly do a few things on purpose.

Manifestation of your future starts now. What you do, say, and are exposed to mentally, spiritually, and physically impacts everything else, as you know. However, what do you do when you are seeking an adjustment to reach alignment for your future? Every part of what you do and what is around you is contributing to the alignment of your future and purpose, so be mindful, completely satisfied, and intentional.

Mindfulness

The path ahead of you starts quite literally with what is ahead of and around you. Are you being mindful of what is right before your very eyes? When was the last time you counted your blessings and claimed true satisfaction and thankfulness for every small thing around you throughout an entire day? I bet at least one person can say they have never done this. Therefore, it is now time for you to start making this a new habit that will later become a regular part of your life. 

Alright…who is saying, “I don’t have time for that.” Do you have time for the success and wealth that you want? How can you be thankful for what you want in the future if you are not creating alignment and thankfulness starting in your journey right now? I bet you have time now…

Satisfaction

Really honoring and accepting the gift and blessing of what is around you creates meaningful alignment. Think about how much you have to be thankful for. Leveraging your life by using what you have is a grand opportunity, and you have to be able to do that in ways that make sense for you. You do not need to have a lot to make a difference, nor do you have to have a mansion to be thankful for your happy home and healthy family. Are you following me? 

Start doing the most with what you have now. Begin each day by being thankful. Say things out loud about what how you are happy with what you have inside yourself and in your external environment. Real satisfaction with deep meaning will solidify leverage in alignment and create shifts in your mentality. You will start to see that everything you are doing to continue improving your life is moving in a smoother flow and rhythm because you can always re-center your thoughts.

Intentionality

Do not let life just happen to you. You have a lot more control over things than you may think. This does not mean that you need to be overzealous and worried about everything. Rather, you need to be intentional with your actions and focused on what is necessary. Intentional relationships, mindset, education, interactions, time spent doing all things, the type of information and media you feed your mind, and how often you sit in silence all affect outcomes and your future. Do you understand?

Intentional actions are critical. While no one can follow you around and keep an eye on your every move while also paying attention to your every thought, you can choose to be intentional if you wish to have the future you desire and the successes that will impact everything around you.

Check-In Time

What are you learning from this? I hope you learned these things about and for yourself:

1. You have the power to create leverage in your meaningful alignment along your journey and for your future successes.

2. You are pre-destined for greatness, and your purpose, gift, and talents will make room for you if you first make room for them.

3. Dedication to your craft requires a shift in your path, mentality, and every element of your internal and external environments.

Be blessed and be at peace.

 – KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctor of Health Administration, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl,

What does it mean for you to take claim of the life that you lead without clinging on to what tried to hold you back? 

Surviving the challenges of being a mixed girl is nothing that should be ignored or erased, but there is a meaning behind that. 

You have to learn that there will be so many seasons of learning and overcoming in your mixed life, but you will have to continue to grow in your wisdom and truth to claim your identity in this world. 

You have to be able to move beyond surviving the pain of what was hurting you or what tried to break you.

There is nothing that you cannot face without a bit of patience, courage, and strength. 

You have a world of love that you can always tap into with no limits and no judgments – it even exists right here in these letters. 

You are amazing, and you can become the essence of the power of diversity, the push for equity everywhere you go, and the epitome of inclusion if you push to find value in your difficult moments.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are more than what you face, and you are magnificent inside and out…don’t stop now.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters, Letter Entitled “Surviving the Survivory of Your “Mixed” Life”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individual truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client? Contact Dr. KayLa via the button below and start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

Women Are Powerful

There are countless things that a girl or woman can achieve when she has freedom, rights, access to education, and the ability to be herself. Am I right ladies?

There is no limit as to what/whom a become when she envelopes herself in what she is capable of doing, who she knows herself to be, and every effort to become a greater version of herself. 

Life, experiences, culture, society, trauma, negative “judgment” from others and so many other things can teach us as girls as=nd women false narratives about who we are, were, or what we can/cannot be. However, it is our job and forever mission to understand and work hard to start changing the world by working on ourselves and finding that true power that lives within.

No matter what you have heard or experienced, if you have not heard this before or lately, let me be the first to say that you are amazing. Don’t just take my word for it – the depth of women’s empowerment and what you need to get from it starts with the work you will do. Write it down and put it on everything that is to be in front of your face – your phone, computer, your mirror, etc. The first step to your forever greatness starts now. 

Girls who see great women, learn from wise females, and are encouraged to be amazing as they are will flourish in every way possible. This is one of the best gifts that you can give – girl’s empowerment, especially when it is based on what you have learned and grown through.

Only when we can silence the doubts, be happy with who we are, and appreciate the strength in our voices can we make a difference in the world around us. We are all responsible for leaving a legacy behind, shaping history, and helping others rise; women, work hard for that starting by transforming yourself

Every day, you must ask yourself, “What can I do to make the most of today?” The answer to this question is not all about a task, it is about how you will treat yourself for the best version of your present and the future you aim to have.

While we do not have the answers to why things may not be perfect or easy from day to day, we do know that as women we can do anything that we work hard for and aim to do. 

If someone could examine the most common character descriptions of women, they would include words like strong, overcomers, highly capable, dedicated, diligent, wise, empathetic, emotional at times, intelligent, and compassionate beyond words. 

Never lose sight of who you are, what peace you can bring, are what you are capable of achieving. Look around you, seek guidance, wisdom, and support, and tap into your power especially when you are feeling down, doubtful, or confused.

Know that the reflection looking back at you in the mirror is so much more than what you have experienced, what you physically see, or what others may say. You are powerful, capable, and amazing! Never forget it.

Women’s empowerment is a tool and girl’s empowerment is a guide, but both start inside and blossom into something that can change the world!

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 

 

Dear Mixed Girl


Do you know how much the world changes when parents understand their mixed child from the inside out at all phases of life? Many things will be faced as mixed people starting even before birth, and being prepared, educated, and aware can mean the difference between support being present and pain walking freely in. Now, there is no way to have all of the answers — understanding that the world is not kind and there will be a series of unfortunate events throughout a mixed person’s life is necessary for a parent to understand. This is a critical thing to realize before a child is brought into the world and throughout their entire life. Mixed girl, having that support and understanding of parents, guardians, godparents, etc., is essential, so don’t be afraid to speak up and share your truth. Parents (and those who guide and lead), it is your responsibility to learn, listen, and be there – it will not be easy (ever), but if you try to “get it” without judgment, your mixed child will be far better off. Understanding is not knowing exact feelings; it is putting yourself in a frame of mind to truly sympathize and empathize with another's heart, mind, and soul, and love makes this possible. Parenting a mixed child is an experience that is unlike any other, but if you are equipped to understand, engaged in educating yourself, and open to love through the pain and growth, it is a beautiful journey that will be a gift for everyone who will be directly and indirectly impacted.

Follow-Up Article Based on The “Dear Mixed Girl” Letter “Parents Who Understand”

Understanding Feelings

At the turn of every corner, so it will seem, a “mixed” child will have experiences ranging from identity concerns to being bullied for simply being who they are. As parents, caregivers, leaders, guardians, etc., you will have to understand what that means for the child, teen, young adult, etc., so that you can gather how that affect their feelings. These things that may seem minor in the moment can have a lasting imprint on a person’s life, especially if they are addressed and support in effective ways.

Understanding What The World Sees

To the world, a mixed person can be seen as beauty, evil, filthy, pride, privilege, and everything in between. Coupling any present issues of identity or lack of awareness within a child, there can be concerns that present themselves on the exterior as well. It is important to not only be aware of what the world sees, but know what that means for what will be face by a mixed person their entire life.

Preparing Your Mind and Heart For What Will Be Said

If you have a loved one in your life, a child, teen, or young adult that is “mixed” and of a diverse cultural/ethnic/racial background, your mind and heart need to be slightly on-guard, full of patience, and always ready prepared to listen with your heart. Pain inflicted with intent to someone who is simply being themselves can cut very deep; when you see or feel that pain in the sense of empathy, it may impact as well, but you must be prepared to offer support in whatever way is necessary and in order.

Leaving Judgment At The Door

No matter what a mixed person may express or share with you, you must leave any judgment at the door. Unless you have truly walked in their shoes, you will not fully understand what they are facing, and that is okay. You can try to get into a healthy mindset by being in-tune, educated, and emotionally enough to leave some of your biases behind. Jumping into attack or trying to speak about what you would have done or downplaying a situation that requires love and support will not help – just pay attention and seek outside assistance, as needed.

Being Dedicated To Helping Success and Happiness Be A Reality

Crafting a future is about a series of events lining up with grounded feet, wise counsel, personal transformation, emotional intelligence, internal joy, and sound awareness of identity (just to name a few things). When you are a part of shaping a mixed girl’s future, you must be dedicated to helping her find who she is and this takes a lot of work, dedication, and tailoring of a lifestyle. There is no one-size fits all and you will never have all of the answers. Being there to offer support and present how self-created success and happiness are possible, will make her life change forever, and that starts with how you show up.

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Setting Your Sights

Being able to view what you want is how you may be able to approve what you see into the vision set before you.

A set sight of destruction or a belief that has come from fear or doubt will be met with challenges.

A path of confusion or mismanagement may lead to a season of blundering.  Wandering around looking at a little of this and a little of that, stepping off of the path because something sounded nice or looked pretty, etc. may not be the wisest thing to do. You need a little bit of target practice!

There are no challenges that will be unmet. The real challenge is how you will show up and address what is before you.

Willfully centering yourself is when you shift from a level of clarity to a level of positioned elevation. 

When was the last time strategically focused on then released that which you really wanted? This practice may sound crazy or a bit ridiculous, but it is the reality of creating a vision and manifesting something by embodying what you really want.

Where is your sight set? If seeing something that may not be within reach at the moment without a few steps before it, you may need to re-adjust your plan. If you are thinking about things that are of your past and they no longer align with who you are today, you have some deep thinking to do about why this may be and what you need to do to get yourself back in “working order”. 

Are you thinking about success? Success is defined by only you, so if you have levels of success be mindful of how you may be addressing them with yourself at the core of it. Remember that when you are aiming for success, you are doing things for more than yourself. I always remind myself that God gave me the gift of who I am and what I am supposed to do so that I can bless others – that is powerful, and I am thoroughly grateful for it.

Are you only imagining possibilities? If the intention is to focus, how can you do so if there are only moments of daydreaming, hoping, or imagining. Surely, there must come a time when strategies, goals, seeking wise counsel, and making a plan must come into play.

Whatever your sights may be set on now, know that what you want in the future will depend on the building blocks you see right now.

Set your sights on a plan and be willing to gently shift so that you can clearly see what is there waiting for you.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl,

How strong would you be willing to hold on to the person you know yourself to be? 

Give and take is how many things may work in life, but it does not have to be true for how you see and know yourself. 

You may see yourself fitting into many spaces because of your “vibe” and having different views or opinions, but this doesn’t mean you have to trade one part of yourself to fit into another space or place. 

Your identity and your freedom to be who you are within your culture, ethnicity, or race are not to be bargained with-you are for sale in any sense of the word.

If you understand that you are a treasure and your blended freedom to be all you are is golden, then you know that you cannot trade one part of who you are for anything else. 

There will not come a time when you have to become something you are not, so don’t think about what you must let go of. 

Stand strong in knowing who you are because you have no need to settle for the less than the fullness of that.

You are worthy of being all you are, and nothing is worth selling or trading your unique identity or freedom-not today, not ever. 

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “What Do You Trade for Your Freedom or Identity?”

 

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Caregiving Is A Two-Way Street

When we have the opportunity to give support in meaningful ways, there are duties and outcomes that are beyond what can be seen. You are giving love, support, kindness, and grand gift of positive outcomes for more than one person, if you really think about it.

Have you ever been faced a difficult season in your life and needed the care or support of someone else? I’m sure that the answer is yes.  Now, think about why you leaned on a particular person or team and how your “person”, spouse, favorite physician/provider, or loved one made you feel while they were supporting you. What did it take and what did they do to make that a reality?

There are countless moving parts when it comes to your well-being but know that caregiving at its best is a two-way street. The way that you are being served/supported and the way that you are giving sharing your heart/receiving support work hand in hand.

In my doctoral research (Doctor of Healthcare Administration) I have been working looking through the lens of healthcare leadership and family/spouse cancer caregivers, so let’s shine a light on the importance of both and how they can and should work together.

Leaders in healthcare who are effective, compassionate, and competent who also have clear guidance and balanced support from administration can position themselves, physicians, nurses, management, patients, and families to thrive. Mutual benefit of medical caregivers and patients is how outcomes can be positive and reach levels that are wanted.

On the opposite end of the spectrum of caregivers, people who are loved one of someone who needs support whether throughout an illness or in a life battle can find balance when there is an understanding of the needs of both parties. Having a give and take structure accompanied with balance, compassion, and competence when you are caring for someone is how a caregiver (clinical or informal) and individual can thrive.

Medical and informal cancer caregivers in cancer care and many other fields of health care have the unique opportunity to work together effectively when there is awareness, high quality systems in place, resources shared, physical presence of transformational health care administration, and competence present.

We, as caregivers and leaders, must finds ways to strategically create a space where we can provide care while we also care for ourselves. So, what can you do to make that happen?

Start taking inventory of what you have within yourself so that you can understand how you can transform yourself and level up.

Place a high value on the care that you give and who you are providing the care to, at all times.

Understand that you do not know all of the answers so you can work to bridge present gaps in care or understanding.

Seek patience within yourself and your environment as you are ultimately in charge of your well-being.

Speak up if you need guidance, re-direction, support, or some sort of an adjustment for yourself or who you are supporting.

If you are a caregiver, I applaud the work that you do. Know that you are as important as what you do. Challenge yourself to be well and do well in the support you provide, and you will soon learn that your evolution matters and caregiving truly is a two-way street.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 

Dear Mixed Girl

Do you know the value and beauty of the color of a mixed, loving relationship?

While you come from a combination of “color” and mixed racial/ethnic background, there is something so powerful and beautiful to recognize in that love. 

When we can love someone (in a “mixed” relationship) who may not look like us, that is wonderful, and it brings forth meaningful diversity and shared experiences at a different level. 

Recognize that you are a mixture of worlds, cultures, and loves that are limitless.

When you see the blood that comes out of your body, it is just as red as anyone else’s, right? 

You are no less than anyone else, nor are your parents or anyone you choose to love or spend your life with. 

Bringing together different perspectives, cultures, and lifestyles is how the world evolves and finds more ways to connect, so look at how amazing you are and how you are changing the world!

Whatever mixed relationship you may come from or create in the future, know that it is something beautiful, and it is to be appreciated for everything great that resides within it.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “The Color of Your Loving Relationship”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Appreciate Life’s Beauty

Most of the things that we want in life are just beyond a sightline, fear, space of opportunity, or a dream. While it may sound simple enough, the typical thing that many of us do is cloud what could be with a fog of challenges and doubts. Having gratitude of what is right in front of you and appreciating life’s beauty is a gift to be withheld.

When was the last time that you took account of what you have in your life? 

Do you often look at what you have been blessed with on a regular basis?

Do you regularly take a moment to meditate on what you have today (as it is a manifestation of what you once dreamed of)?

What do you have that you have not recently looked deeply into and given a greater meaning to?

Giving ourselves empowerment when things are difficult can be so fulfilling and wonderful. It can equally feel amazing when our loved ones or friends give us the support that we may need from time to time. However, it is ultimately up to you to make a decision to create a different perspective on the life that you lead.

If I speak highly of what is ahead, and you walk backward into a field of beauty, you cannot expect to appreciate what is present. Opening your eyes and pushing yourself to shift your field of view is how you can learn to value what is in front of you; this is how you appreciate life’s beauty in all of its’ forms.

How can you truly be prepared for what you want in life if you cannot place a high value on what your life has already been blessed and gifted with in every season? 

Surely, there have been ups and downs, but there are countless moments of gratitude that must be counted and reflected upon.

What do you want in your life? 

What are you willing to do for and within yourself to create lasting shifts for a promising future?

How will you appreciate life’s beauty every day of your life?

No matter what future you are shaping or what your purpose may be, your goals start with you valuing the now with high regard and attention to gratitude.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner

 

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.