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When It Doesn’t Go As Planned

When It Doesn’t Go As Planned

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No matter how hard we try to accomplish business goals, many stops, trips, stumbles, and redirects will come about. You can have an endless number of dreams, goals, and aims in life, but this does not mean they will come to be. Surely, having reached all of our dreams by the end of our lives would be magnificent (so we think), but sometimes that is just not how things will pan out. What can you do when it doesn’t go as planned?

While with a strong aim to create my future and continue to access many opportunities, I recently came to a big halt right in the middle of the Detroit airport. You see, for months I had been churning away at trying to find wanted speaking engagements to participate in. I had a few that I had been welcomed into, and this particular merry-go-round was surely to be a place of great opportunity and equally awesome impact. I was supposed to be going to Madison, WV for an occupational therapy conference as a speaker. I had everything in order: flight booked, room reserved, transportation planned, etc. Even with everything situated, I did not make it to my destination. I did not take the time to see how the disarray that I was to face had slowly started to unravel from the beginning.

This is the part of the story where I tell you to make sure you are paying attention so you don’t miss what can be. While I had planned everything out, none of that process came with ease. In fact, I hit walls everywhere I was turning but still, I wanted to keep fighting the good fight. After a hugely delayed flight and a missed connection, I knew I was not making it to this conference. I was a crying mess, right there in the terminal and I didn’t care who would see my tears. From my loved ones, I got a little push of wisdom, from strangers I got a series of kind messages about my clothing, and for my own good, I took a moment to find a book to read to reframe my mindset. I started writing a letter to my present self about all I had recently overcome in this whirlwind of a week, and about how proud I was of myself for facing it all and working to overcome it. Then, I ran across a book that would change my life and I couldn’t be more grateful for that. It told me so much more about the power of not stopping and things to do to propel via positive, wanted, and forward momentum.

Life is a bit funny sometimes and it will test your patience, judge your character, and push you to limits that you did not even know existed. However, if you are willing to just take a look at the world around you, there will be a light just beyond the storm. I can see it right now. Give yourself a chance to understand that not everything is meant to be and yet, what is to be, will be. It almost sounds too simple, but it is more than true.

On the forever-winding road of entrepreneurship, things will not always go your way and life will not be perfect. Challenges happen and plans change. However, there is one guarantee in it, and that is, if you really want your dreams to come true, all it takes is one more step. Who knows (I do), what you really need could be just beyond your fears, storms, and hopes. So, why not just keep going?

I will be a part of the very small percentage of people who actually live out their dreams – how do I know this, because little by little, this is already in motion and I can see it. Besides, I already know God has a plan for me, and I know that in His time, it will all come to pass; that is as perfect as life gets. I will take the time to be okay with mistakes, redirects, and perceived failures because I know all of those things do not control my destiny or outcomes – they are just a part of a past moment in time and I am creating a multitude of moments that I can forever be proud of.

Plans may change and redirects may occur in your business growth and constant evolution, but will you be prepared to face yourself and your options in the process?

Take control of your business and personal growth while you co-create and manifest a desired future by working with Dr. KayLa today.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is an International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach for Women, a Healthcare Leadership Development Consultant, a DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) Leader and Coach via Dear Mixed Girl, and an Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution/personal development by clicking the button below.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

What we place meaning on will not always mean something to others, and that’s okay. 

On any given day, you decide to define your life, and that can include your values, traditions, clothing, culture and so much more. 

It can be difficult to focus on the things that mean something to you when you have fears, doubts, or concerns about how others carry what you are sharing with the world. 

The joy of your life comes from what you need and how you make it happen. 

If you’re carrying your culture in everything you do, remember that many people do not understand what you are doing or why you are doing it. 

There are many times when you will feel like someone’s thoughts will make you question everything that you are.

 When that happens, understand that you must stand strong and continue to be yourself. 

Take a moment to think about what means something to you, write it down, and take joy in being wonderfully you. 

Don’t change your values for anyone; enjoy the life that you lead.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters (circa 12/27/2020)

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that shares experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. In these similarities, we can find individual truths and ways to become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client or hire Dr. KayLa for a Dear Mixed Girl ™(trademark filed and pending) speaking engagement? Contact Dr. KayLa via the contact page and sign up below using the button to start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

Do you understand the value and powerful potential that comes from learning and sharing your wisdom gained from overcoming challenges in your “mixed” journey? 

With every turn in the road and place where you find yourself growing and developing, you must learn something. 

There is no time in life when you have all the answers, but with a bit of support and dedication, there is a greater opportunity for smoother transitions and reached goals. 

Sometimes the missing piece to the puzzle of another person’s life is the moment of sharing that you can grant them from a meaningful place or space in time. 

Mixed girl, there are so many moments in your life where things may seem shaky, confusing, and difficult, but know that you will prosper. 

You have so many things you can give others in education and wisdom by repeatedly working through who you are and being the greatest version of yourself. 

There is hope in every today and promises in every tomorrow if you can remember to find the goodness around you and fight through the challenges that arise. 

Live through the fantastic value of who you are, and you will find that powerful way to give back to the world.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters, Letter Entitled “Sharing to Educate Others”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that shares experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. In these similarities, we can find individual truths and ways to become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client or hire Dr. KayLa for a Dear Mixed Girl ™(trademark filed and pending) speaking engagement? Contact Dr. KayLa via the contact page and sign up below using the button to start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

What does it mean for you to take claim of the life that you lead without clinging on to what tried to hold you back? 

Surviving the challenges of being a mixed girl is nothing that should be ignored or erased, but there is a meaning behind that. 

You have to learn that there will be so many seasons of learning and overcoming in your mixed life, but you will have to continue to grow in your wisdom and truth to claim your identity in this world. 

You have to be able to move beyond surviving the pain of what was hurting you or what tried to break you.

There is nothing that you cannot face without a bit of patience, courage, and strength. 

You have a world of love that you can always tap into with no limits and no judgments – it even exists right here in these letters. 

You are amazing, and you can become the essence of the power of diversity, the push for equity everywhere you go, and the epitome of inclusion if you push to find value in your difficult moments.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are more than what you face, and you are magnificent inside and out…don’t stop now.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters, Letter Entitled “Surviving the Survivory of Your “Mixed” Life”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individual truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client? Contact Dr. KayLa via the button below and start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

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Women Are Powerful

Women Are Powerful

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There are countless things that a girl or woman can achieve when she has freedom, rights, access to education, and the ability to be herself. Am I right ladies?

There is no limit as to what/whom a become when she envelopes herself in what she is capable of doing, who she knows herself to be, and every effort to become a greater version of herself. 

Life, experiences, culture, society, trauma, negative “judgment” from others and so many other things can teach us as girls as=nd women false narratives about who we are, were, or what we can/cannot be. However, it is our job and forever mission to understand and work hard to start changing the world by working on ourselves and finding that true power that lives within.

No matter what you have heard or experienced, if you have not heard this before or lately, let me be the first to say that you are amazing. Don’t just take my word for it – the depth of women’s empowerment and what you need to get from it starts with the work you will do. Write it down and put it on everything that is to be in front of your face – your phone, computer, your mirror, etc. The first step to your forever greatness starts now. 

Girls who see great women, learn from wise females, and are encouraged to be amazing as they are will flourish in every way possible. This is one of the best gifts that you can give – girl’s empowerment, especially when it is based on what you have learned and grown through.

Only when we can silence the doubts, be happy with who we are, and appreciate the strength in our voices can we make a difference in the world around us. We are all responsible for leaving a legacy behind, shaping history, and helping others rise; women, work hard for that starting by transforming yourself. 

Every day, you must ask yourself, “What can I do to make the most of today?” The answer to this question is not all about a task, it is about how you will treat yourself for the best version of your present and the future you aim to have.

While we do not have the answers to why things may not be perfect or easy from day to day, we do know that as women we can do anything that we work hard for and aim to do. 

If someone could examine the most common character descriptions of women, they would include words like strong, overcomers, highly capable, dedicated, diligent, wise, empathetic, emotional at times, intelligent, and compassionate beyond words. 

Never lose sight of who you are, what peace you can bring, are what you are capable of achieving. Look around you, seek guidance, wisdom, and support, and tap into your power especially when you are feeling down, doubtful, or confused.

Know that the reflection looking back at you in the mirror is so much more than what you have experienced, what you physically see, or what others may say. You are powerful, capable, and amazing! Never forget it.

Women’s empowerment is a tool and girl’s empowerment is a guide, but both start inside and blossom into something that can change the world!

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 

 
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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Do you know how much the world changes when parents understand their mixed child from the inside out at all phases of life? Many things will be faced as mixed people starting even before birth, and being prepared, educated, and aware can mean the difference between support being present and pain walking freely in. Now, there is no way to have all of the answers — understanding that the world is not kind and there will be a series of unfortunate events throughout a mixed person’s life is necessary for a parent to understand. This is a critical thing to realize before a child is brought into the world and throughout their entire life. Mixed girl, having that support and understanding of parents, guardians, godparents, etc., is essential, so don’t be afraid to speak up and share your truth. Parents (and those who guide and lead), it is your responsibility to learn, listen, and be there – it will not be easy (ever), but if you try to “get it” without judgment, your mixed child will be far better off. Understanding is not knowing exact feelings; it is putting yourself in a frame of mind to truly sympathize and empathize with another's heart, mind, and soul, and love makes this possible. Parenting a mixed child is an experience that is unlike any other, but if you are equipped to understand, engaged in educating yourself, and open to love through the pain and growth, it is a beautiful journey that will be a gift for everyone who will be directly and indirectly impacted.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen's "Dear Mixed Girl" Letters, Letter Entitled "Parents Who Understand"

Follow-Up Article Based on The “Dear Mixed Girl” Letter “Parents Who Understand”

Understanding Feelings

At the turn of every corner, so it will seem, a “mixed” child will have experiences ranging from identity concerns to being bullied for simply being who they are. As parents, caregivers, leaders, guardians, etc., you will have to understand what that means for the child, teen, young adult, etc., so that you can gather how that affect their feelings. These things that may seem minor in the moment can have a lasting imprint on a person’s life, especially if they are addressed and support in effective ways.

Understanding What The World Sees

To the world, a mixed person can be seen as beauty, evil, filthy, pride, privilege, and everything in between. Coupling any present issues of identity or lack of awareness within a child, there can be concerns that present themselves on the exterior as well. It is important to not only be aware of what the world sees, but know what that means for what will be face by a mixed person their entire life.

Preparing Your Mind and Heart For What Will Be Said

If you have a loved one in your life, a child, teen, or young adult that is “mixed” and of a diverse cultural/ethnic/racial background, your mind and heart need to be slightly on-guard, full of patience, and always ready prepared to listen with your heart. Pain inflicted with intent to someone who is simply being themselves can cut very deep; when you see or feel that pain in the sense of empathy, it may impact as well, but you must be prepared to offer support in whatever way is necessary and in order.

Leaving Judgment At The Door

No matter what a mixed person may express or share with you, you must leave any judgment at the door. Unless you have truly walked in their shoes, you will not fully understand what they are facing, and that is okay. You can try to get into a healthy mindset by being in-tune, educated, and emotionally enough to leave some of your biases behind. Jumping into attack or trying to speak about what you would have done or downplaying a situation that requires love and support will not help – just pay attention and seek outside assistance, as needed.

Being Dedicated To Helping Success and Happiness Be A Reality

Crafting a future is about a series of events lining up with grounded feet, wise counsel, personal transformation, emotional intelligence, internal joy, and sound awareness of identity (just to name a few things). When you are a part of shaping a mixed girl’s future, you must be dedicated to helping her find who she is and this takes a lot of work, dedication, and tailoring of a lifestyle. There is no one-size fits all and you will never have all of the answers. Being there to offer support and present how self-created success and happiness are possible, will make her life change forever, and that starts with how you show up.

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

How strong would you be willing to hold on to the person you know yourself to be? 

Give and take is how many things may work in life, but it does not have to be true for how you see and know yourself. 

You may see yourself fitting into many spaces because of your “vibe” and having different views or opinions, but this doesn’t mean you have to trade one part of yourself to fit into another space or place. 

Your identity and your freedom to be who you are within your culture, ethnicity, or race are not to be bargained with-you are for sale in any sense of the word.

If you understand that you are a treasure and your blended freedom to be all you are is golden, then you know that you cannot trade one part of who you are for anything else. 

There will not come a time when you have to become something you are not, so don’t think about what you must let go of. 

Stand strong in knowing who you are because you have no need to settle for the less than the fullness of that.

You are worthy of being all you are, and nothing is worth selling or trading your unique identity or freedom-not today, not ever. 

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “What Do You Trade for Your Freedom or Identity?”

 

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Do you know the value and beauty of the color of a mixed, loving relationship?

While you come from a combination of “color” and mixed racial/ethnic background, there is something so powerful and beautiful to recognize in that love. 

When we can love someone (in a “mixed” relationship) who may not look like us, that is wonderful, and it brings forth meaningful diversity and shared experiences at a different level. 

Recognize that you are a mixture of worlds, cultures, and loves that are limitless.

When you see the blood that comes out of your body, it is just as red as anyone else’s, right? 

You are no less than anyone else, nor are your parents or anyone you choose to love or spend your life with. 

Bringing together different perspectives, cultures, and lifestyles is how the world evolves and finds more ways to connect, so look at how amazing you are and how you are changing the world!

Whatever mixed relationship you may come from or create in the future, know that it is something beautiful, and it is to be appreciated for everything great that resides within it.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “The Color of Your Loving Relationship”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

Do you know that what you face is not always something you asked for or something you have to welcome?

Seeing the world around you for what it is can be a challenge as a person from a mixed-race/multicultural background. 

Knowing that what you may see does not have to be a part of your world or your future is a challenge that you can tackle. 

War may arise around you, but you are armed with courage, greatness, and unique power unlike any other.

Your identity may trigger feelings, conversations, or behaviors in others that are negative, but you do not have to accept them. 

The choices that you make will shape who you are and what your future will be. 

You are wonderful, kind, beautiful, and a force to be reckoned with, so you do not have to accept any negativity that may arise around you.

No war that grows like weeds along your path and attacks your perception of your identity or sits amid your truth is incapable of being cut back or eliminated with the power of your mind, joy in your spirit, and love within your heart.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “The War You Didn’t Welcome or Ask For”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Is it easy to acknowledge that life can be a race to be won if you work together and someone is there to help you when you fall?

When you are learning to understand who you are or gathering strength within yourself, it may be challenging to do this yourself. 

If you have someone by your side who understands the depth of who you are, you can embrace a new you with your truth intact. 

There is no need to go through life alongside those who will not be in your corner and there to support you in your uniqueness.

Seek to share your journey and heart in vulnerable spaces with those who really care about you. 

If you cannot stand with someone, friends or loved ones, who care about you, stand firm in your truth and grow in spaces where you flourish. 

You have power and greatness within yourself and who you are.

How you run your race of life in all that you are while deciding who will be by your side and who will lift you up when you stumble or fall is your choice.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled “Your Two-Legged Race”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

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