Tag: Empowerment

A - Allowing Life to Happen

A – Allowing Life to Happen

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


We often get caught up in our own webs, visions, and plans; becoming  entangled in these spaces is not necessarily a good thing.  When we choose to think about a path that we have set forth for ourselves, we subconsciously block opportunities for other (better for us) outcomes to come forth.


Rolling through the “if I could”, and “I wish I could” phases in our lives can blind us and bring shadows in front of us.  When this happens we can not see some of the amazing things that are happening right in front of our faces.


As difficult as it may seem, sometimes you just have to allow life to happen. Those difficult times that we encounter and those trying storms that we endure can simply happen. We are regular people living regular lives no matter what our bank accounts say, and because of this we have to remember that life happens.


When we are able to realize that our sense of perfect timing is not actually perfect, and God’s divine timing is essential for our lives we revamp our opportunities and we challenge the way that we see the world.


Allowing life to happen does not mean that we sit back and watch things fall apart but it does mean that things can happen and we are not always in control.


You must learn to accept that things are not going to always happen the way that you want them to. You will not always be in control. There will always be people and circumstances that come about that may not seem to be in line with your vision, and that’s okay.


In every part of your life there’s a reason and a season. In every part of your life, there is a reason for the journey that you’re taking. In every part of your life, there are new mercies and opportunities. In every part of your life, there will be good and bad days. In every part of your life, as long as there’s breath in your body there is an opportunity for better days.


Oh, those dark days can seem so difficult… but remember that last storm that you made it past? Hold strong, allow God’s plan to work itself, it’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to be worried. It’s okay to have moments of anger. It’s okay to have fear about what is coming in the future. It’s okay to be sad at times.


Proverbs 13:12
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Even if you have moments when the rain of your storm blocks your vision, do whatever you can to capture a glimpse of your rainbow. 
I say all this to say whenever a storm is raining directly over your head get your rain gear, suit up and be prepared to endure the store. There is a reason that you go through storms and it is not your job to understand the how, the when and the why. It is, however, your job to keep pushing forward no matter what you face.


Allow the good to come and the bad to exit.  Allow change and evolution to occur in your life. Allow people to leave if they want to leave. On the same token, don’t try to force things to stay when really it is time for them to go.


Often times you can’t see the direction that God is going and that’s alright too. As long as you continue to take steps forward, continue climbing, and continue reaching for those stars, you’re on the right path. Try to think deeply: the universe is activating steps and plans for you- imagine what would happen if you continued to block yourself from greatness because of pride or needing to have control over everything. 


1 Peter 2:15 “For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish people.
Not all advice is sound advice. Sometimes advice that comes from people that you “respect” is not the advice that is for you to hear. Use your knowledge, wisdom, and experiences to make sound decisions for your life. Don’t allow what someone else thinks is best for you to overtake your judgment. This may mean if someone says, maybe you should just wait to do something, maybe actually you should be taking steps instead of sitting still.


Sometimes you will have to think outside of the box, and that’s a good thing. No matter what you do, allow life to happen; allow mistakes to occur.


You deserve to lead a life of happiness, success, pure joy, peace, wonder, adventure, and love; these are not things that someone can make you have- you find these things inside of you.


Be blessed and at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight*** Adenovirus
Symptoms: cold-like symptoms, sore throat, bronchitis, pneumonia, diarrhea and pink eye
Spread of Infection: personal contact, air droplets, touching surfaces then touching mouth, nose, or eyes
Prevention: wash hands with soap and water, cover mouth when coughing or sneezing, avoid contact with others when ill, do not sharing drinking glasses or eating utensils, avoid kissing.
Prevalence: there is no exact prevalence as it can vary
Treatment: no specific treatment as most infections as mild
-Seek help when you need it, help your fellow neighbor, know that people care about your well-being.




Growth, Challenges, Chances, Overcoming, Opportunity, Life, God, Change, Universe, Barriers, Mental Health, Living, Public Health, Empowerment, Epidemiology


Overcoming Fear

Overcoming Fear

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


Your voice is your power. Your story is your wisdom. Your truth is your freedom.
No matter what anyone tells you, those three statements will forever ring true.


The world and time will reveal to you the character and morals of everyone that you encounter or see displayed in the media and in your life.


Your fear of the world and what others will say are essentially figments of your imagination. Your job in life is to follow your passion, not to hide from the world.


Think about a time when you learned something new. Was it easy? Were you scared of what people would say? Were you there standing strong to learn that new thing? Did you hide from the world, never to learn that thing?


Let’s roll the dice of life….ready, set, shake…
Roll 1: You only learn about something from a distance
Roll 2: You learn behind closed doors
Roll 3: You learn only around family
Roll 4: You take a moment to learn about that new thing and how you can become good at it
Roll 5: You learn to the best of your ability but fear the world
Roll 6: You learn, grow, strengthen your mind and abilities, and show the world what you’re made of.


The dice reference can be thought about like this: You can shake it up and take a chance and land on any of those numbers and they all mean different things. All that matters is that you take the chance!


So what if you fall?! So what if you can only take one step at a time?! You are still doing better on your roll 6 by doing everything that you can without fear!


If you speak up and only get your voice and/or story heard by 5 people, that’s more than the mirror and more than your tears. Those people can tell 5 more people and that effect could keep rolling along. Look at how much you can do by just letting go of fear and being open to the world around you.


Deuteronomy 31:8 “He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” God gave you so much more than a mind of fear. You have everything that you need inside of you. Having a fear of the world will only cause fear to live inside of you. Fear is not real. Fight back! Use what you have and all that you are to change your life and bless many others.


Psalms 27:1 “The Lord is my light and my salvation-whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life-of whom shall I be afraid? Those against us will use fear, mockery, and belittlement tactics to break us down. Imagine what we could do if we grew strong enough to overcome that. If someone has caused you to feel this way, it is your mind and your accomplishments that can and will change all of that if you let it happen. God can give you perfect peace. The Universe will work in your favor…what are you putting into your prayers and your visualizations? You can eliminate fear, one step and one lesson at a time.


Grow into who you were called to be.


Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Dengue (endemic, but pandemic-prone) : A viral infection/disease caused that is mosquito-borne (via Aedes aegypti). There are millions of infections annually in many areas including suburbs, poor areas, and tropical countries; the disease is endemic-in over 100 countries. It is a leading killer of children and adults in Asian and Latin American countries. Within 2-7 days the infected person develops a fever (WHO). Common symptoms include: high fever, severe headache, rash, joint pain, severe eye pain, mild bleeding, and muscle pain. Warning signs include abdominal pain, black stool, cold/clammy skin, and difficulty breathing. Prevention: eliminate areas that hold water around your home, use repellent, wear long sleeves and pants, secure windows and screens (no holes), and use a bed net when needed. There is no specific treatment, but pain medication (with acetaminophen- no aspirin or ibuprofen), hydrating, resting and consultation of a physician are all mandatory (CDC). Take care of yourself and your family is the key to a long, happy, and healthy life.





Overcoming, Fear, Light, God, Universe, Empowerment, Global Health, Public Health, Challenges, Epidemiology, Growth, Strength
Overcoming & Eliminating Self-Pity

Overcoming & Eliminating Self-Pity

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


Most of us have been at the root of a problem or situation, but how often do we really take the time to acknowledge faults or words that should not have been spoken?


Even if you feel that you have not been a part of a problem, you have likely witnessed a friend or loved one experience this.


Yes, you surely can take the time to go through a “woe is me” phase. Along with that you can also sit an have a pity party for weeks on end. The real question is will your “woe is me” time or your pity party bring you to an absolute answer that will create a shift in your world? The answer is probably no.


You can’t move forward and go beyond internalizing a problem if you cannot accept your faults and grow from them. 


No matter what you face in life, if you feel that you had a place in the breakdown of events then you need to do some reflection. Maybe the fault is on you…maybe not…you need to understand this clearly.


Pitying yourself will only cause a domino effect and a roller coaster of emotions. 


Take it step by step. Write it down. Look at what happened and how you may have added to it. Understand your position in the problems that you may face.


To heal and grow, you must take must personal inventory. Do you really know who you are? Do you know how you behave in an argument? Are you an effective communicator? Do you find it easier to avoid and runaway than to face an issue?


You must be able to look inside of yourself and have a real answer to all of these questions. Once you know the answers to these questions only then can you truly see who you are and grow from your mistakes or problems faced.


Think about it this way, could you ever learn how to do something like tie your shoes if at first you were not taught or did not make a mistake? No.


There are elements in life that you must face and self-pity is not one of those things.


If things are not as you may want them to be, stop and go a different direction or try a different option. 


To have a happy and healthy life you must dig inside of yourself and spread your wisdom to others; in this you must also be open enough to listen to and understand life lessons taught by others.


2 Timothy 1:7 ” For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.” You must be able to understand what is faced and go through a period of self-evolution. God gave your a brain and He teaches you lessons along your journey through life; it is up to you to be wise enough to take those lessons and use them for your good. You are fully-equipped to be a warrior and a blessing to the world around you, so make the best of every moment and every situation. The Universe is a part of your core being; you can have an be all things that you aspire to have and work diligently to be. God and the Universe are on your side, so choose your thoughts and behavior wisely. Grow up and choose self-esteem over self-pity.


Romans 12:3 “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.” You are not perfect and if you are facing a problem with someone else, they aren’t perfect either. You need to face what is beyond the mirror and become all that you are called to be. 


If you can accept your flaws, you can grow from what may be holding you back. You can become anything/anyone, so suit up, stop weeping, let go of that horrible anger, and put on your armor.


You have all that you need inside of you…don’t be stubborn.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Psittacosis: A disease linked to the bacteria C. psittaci. The bacteria affects birds often, but it can infect people in the form of the disease Psittacosis. The disease is caused by a respiratory tract infection. The types of birds connected to this disease can include household pets like parrots and cockatiels, and can branch out to poultry.  Dust particles from dried secretions can be breathed in; birds can also infect people via bites and beak-to-mouth contact. It is not generally spread person-to-person. The symptoms linked to this disease include: fever, headache, and a dry cough. The illness could possibly lead to pneumonia; rarely it can lead to death. The people at risk: adults, those in contact with pet birds, aviary and pet shop employees, poultry workers, and veterinarians. Diagnosis via blood testing to detect antibodies and/or sputum swabs to detect bacteria (CDC). Treatment is via antibiotics will lead to quick improvements. Be mindful of your surroundings and the needs of your body, and as always seek the help of a trusted physician or healthcare whenever needed (there are many budget-friendly physicians).


Self-Pity, Self-Esteem, Overcoming, Evolution, Challenges, Problems, Mental Health, Global Health, Public Health, Empowerment, God, Universe, Epidemiology



Overcoming Judgment Against You

Overcoming Judgment Against You

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


From birth until the end of the human existence, there will always be someone judging you. These people can be your family, friends, supporters, coworkers, significant others, and everyone in between.


The people that judge us are out on a mission, but what that mission is isn’t for us to understand or break apart. 


Although judgment can be painful when on the receiving end, how you move beyond it is so much more important.


People can see things and choose to make their own opinions about you without trying to understand the actual meaning of what they see…and that’s perfectly fine.


Your job in all of this is to remember that you are more than what you seem to be to others. You must remember that you are made in God’s image; you are uniquely made and full of beauty and love. 


If someone makes you out to be someone that you aren’t, you just need to remain true to yourself.


Like many say ‘let your haters be your motivators’… you can take that pain or disappointment that you feel and use it for something greater. Allow that pain to give you power and a better vision of who you really are. You matter and all that you bring to the world is wonderful and perfect, just as it is.


No matter how loud the roar of negativity from others’ false judgment is, treat it as though it is even louder applause for the amazing person that you are becoming and/or have become.


The universe is in you, the higher power that you believe in (God, in my case) is within you…do you know what that means? No judgment formed based on evil/negativity can be housed within you-unless you let it. You encompass power, strength, love, inner beauty, and so much more.


Romans 8:28 
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” You have favor in and on your life: God has granted you so many beautiful things, there is nothing that any negativity can do to you if you believe in the power surrounding you and the positivity in your corner.  Every thing can and will work in your favor if you keep pushing forward and learn from what others’ negativity is presenting to you.


Proverbs 14:7-8
“Stay away from a fool, for you will not find knowledge on their lips. The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.” If you allow a person to house your power and your happiness because of what they say and/or feel about your or anything in life, then they win. It is up to you to challenge that negativity in your mind and walk away from the person releases that negativity into your environment. 


I encourage you to take a moment to look deeper into who you are and who you are called to be. Remember that there will continue to be evil-doers that seem to seep into your world. You must have strength inside of yourself to oversee it all and not allow it to shake your life.


You overcome this judgment by knowing who you are. You overcome this judgment by remembering that the words from others can be merely a reflection of their own insecurities/issues. You overcome this judgment by becoming even better than what you already are.


If judgement comes your way, simply say this in your mind: Judge me if you must, but know that your thoughts/opinions will not deter my path toward greatness, successes, prosperity, or abundance. I have favor in every aspect of my life and you cannot dim my light.


Let the negativity be blown away by your growth and understanding of who you are called to be. 


***Health Spotlight***
Hepatitis A: This foodborne illness is a liver infection caused by the Hep A virus. Food and/or water can contain the virus via the presence of human waste. The illness can last between a few weeks and several months. There is a vaccine to prevent this, but there are thousands that are still affected by Hep A annually in the U.S. Some people get Hep A when doing out of the country traveling. Symptoms include abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, dark urine, yellow skin/eyes, tiredness, and fever. Hepatitis A is highly contagious and it can be spread even if symptoms are not physically present. Wash your hands thoroughly and often. There are two doses required to prevent Hep A. Pay attention to what your body is telling you and get the help that you need when you need it-sooner than later.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner





Empowerment, Challenges, God, Universe, Public Health, Global Health, Epidemiology, Determination, Favor, Growth, Overcoming, Prosperity, Success


Overcoming "Hidden" Emotions

Overcoming “Hidden” Emotions

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


There are times when we find ourselves silenced, be it because of someone or something. It can be a challenge finding your voice, your place, and your position, however it must be done.


Silence is not always “golden”, in fact it can be the deepest shade of black imaginable. It can take you to an unhealthy place, if it takes over your mind. 


Silence can literally shut down your vision.
It can shut down your mind.
It can shut down your power.


The most important thing to do is to realize that everything that you have to say has a meaning.


Do not let anyone tell you that what you have to say does not matter. When you do this you allow them to take away your happiness and power.


Your emotions have this power at multiple levels and they are very important.


How you feel impacts your life. It can be difficult to let these emotions come out when you have learned/taught yourself to hide them. You must find a way to reclaim your life and your emotions.


Sweeping your emotions under the rug or being forced to shove them into a closet is completely unhealthy. A can of soda once shaken will only explode after opened. 


To overcome “hidden” emotions, you have to look inside of yourself and understand what they mean. You need to get to the root of your emotions and analyze why you have hidden them. 


You deserve to express your emotions and you have a right to feel the way that you do. The way that you express them matters, as well. Pay attention to your delivery when expressing them and be mindful of your words.


Heal those emotions by first understanding, then analyzing them, expressing them in a healthy way, and evolving the way that you think and value yourself.


You matter. You are enough. Your thoughts and emotions are important.


Proverbs 15:33 
“A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is crushed.” I am not saying that everyday and everything should be all sunshine, however I am saying it is much healthier and much more productive to be happier and feeling that your emotions, views, and your voice matters. God/Higher Beings/The Universe dwell within you, when things become altered or overshadowed it affects every other part of your life. Clearing away the fog changes everything.


2 Timothy 1:7
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” Your emotions are yours, you should not feel shunned, shut-out, or constrained because of someone else or something. You are a strong person with brilliant ideas, intimate emotions, and unique gifts and talents; learning what they mean, how to handle them and their importance are some of the best gifts that you can ever give yourself.


Know your value and your worth, this is key is overcoming these emotions that you have hidden. Let the light shine in and allow yourself to speak again…it will change your life.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Cholera- Although this is not a prevalent disease in the U.S.,  it is important to think about it as travelers to areas with a cholera epidemic may contract it. This disease still occurs in many places such as Haiti and Southeast Asia. This disease can be prevented and treated.  It is a diarrheal illness and other symptoms may or may not be present, but they can be severe. Approximately 10% of people are infected with Cholera (CDC). Diagnosis is reached via a stool sample. An oral rehydration solution may be the treatment route for Cholera; some require an IV for fluid replacement. Prevention: access to clean water, sanitation, and basic hygiene needs. Be mindful and take good care of yourself. Seek a physician or trusted provider whenever you need to or feel that something isn’t right.


Emotions, Evolving, God, Universe, Challenges, Voice, Epidemiology, Global Health, Public Health, Empowerment, Strength
Overcoming Unhealthy Eating

Overcoming Unhealthy Eating

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


We all have our cravings and things that we LOVE to eat, but do we really think about what we are consuming and how they can affect our bodies?


When you indulge (if you must), you must have balance and do so sparingly.


Yes, you can eat what you want, but you cannot do it all the time and expect to lead a healthy life. You cannot eat bread every day, day and expect it to not lead to health issues. As much as you may love your sweets, you cannot have them every day, multiple times a day.


With everything in your life, the only way to be happy and healthy is to have balance.


How To Overcome This Problem:
To overcome healthy eating, know that it starts inside of your mind.
You have to acknowledge where the problems lie before you can think of making next steps.
Make baby steps if you cannot completely change your habits immediately.
Create a schedule for yourself and limit your eating.
Eliminate fatty, greasy, heavy, sugary, processed foods.
Eat more greens, veggies, fruits, and grains.
Drink lots of water every day.


Be mindful of your eating habits.


Healthy eating is not always expensive! Poor healthy is more expensive.



You are not necessarily bound by traditions. We choose to do things including our eating habits.


Just like many other things, treating yourself is okay and you deserve it but think about it first.


Be happy in the skin that you are in, but do whatever it takes to lead a healthy life- your body and your family will thank you for taking care of yourself, setting a good example, and extending your life. 


The challenge in this life is to do what is right; the same applies to your life and what you consume. Your family and those that you are blessing are counting on you to live your best life.


You get one body and no tomorrow’s are not guaranteed, but wouldn’t you rather live a healthy life than an unhealthy one?


Love yourself from the inside out and watch how things change.


If you are not prepared to live your best life how do you expect great things to happen in your life?


1 Corinthians 3:16-17 
“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple”.  You are an amazing part of something beyond your knowledge and your imagination. God made you in his image and you are supposed to take care of yourself; this means inside and out. You one beautiful part of this universe and the universe is inside of you, you must be mindful of this and live a good life.


Proverbs 10:17
“The road to life is a disciplined life; ignore correction and you’re lost for good”. Motivation will not always come easy and you must do what it takes to lead a disciplined life; it is in your best interest. If someone shows you or teaches you something that is good for you, it can only benefit you…


I want you to live a long, happy, healthy life, so do whatever it takes to have that.


Know that you do not need to follow any fads or common diets, and do not starve yourself. Smaller portions and regulated eating schedules will change your life. There are many methods of healthy eating, you have the world at the tips of your fingers; use the sound knowledge that you find on the internet. If you have any true questions, find a nutritionist or health provider that you trust. 


All that you want and dream of can happen if you take care of yourself and if you are consistent in all that you do.


I believe in you and I want you to be healthy from the inside out. Put in the work, you deserve it.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLa’sPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Heart Disease- This disease and many others are linked unhealthy eating. There are over 600,000 people that die of heart disease and it is a leading cause of death for men and women. Annually, there are over 700,000 heart attacks in America (CDC). Pay attention to discomfort, shortness of breath, nausea, lightheadedness, and upper body pain. Listen to your body’s signs of heart disease and physical sickness. If you are eating poorly, change it while you still can; it is much easier to prevent than it is to treat. Think wisely. Make the changes that you can, and do whatever you can to create natural healing. As always, seek the help of a physician when you are in need.





Change, Challenges, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Global Health, Goals, God, Universe, Bible, Growth




Overcoming Abuse

Overcoming Abuse

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
©KayLaN.Allen


This is one that truly hits home for me, as I endured physical and mental abuse in my past. I saw this blog as an opportunity to be completely open and vulnerable with you. I know that you may be experiencing this now, or may be moving beyond that pain and I am going to give you some insight, love, and support during this time.


Feeling pain from physical abuse, mental/emotional abuse, or verbal abuse can hurt and plague your life with stress, anxiety, depression, and countless triggers. I know your pain and I know your feelings, and I want to help you get through it and help you take back your life.


If you are still in an abusive relationship/friendship or in a seemingly abuse work relationship, you need to take inventory on your life. 


Abusive Personal Relationships
Intimate: Although a person may say that they did not mean it or it will not happen again, remember that it should not have happened at all. Don’t let them take you out of character or make you change your view of yourself. Remember that you are made in God’s image and you can be anything that you want to be in life; don’t let anyone’s thoughts/behaviors hold you hostage. If someone says that no one else will want you, remember that there are billions of other people in the world and if you were only meant to be with one person you would have been assigned them/physically connected to them at birth. You are handsome/You are beautiful and there are many others who would feel lucky to have someone like you to love because of all that you have to offer (internally) and your wonderful spirit.


People that hurt us with no remorse, do not need to be in our lives. Fight back in whatever way you can to leave; analyze your situation and be prepared to leave safely. Call the police and report it. If you have a friend/family member you can trust have them help you move out. I promise, no matter how much your partner may pull you away from your family/friends someone still cares and loves you. 


A person should not speak negatively to you: yelling at you, cursing at you, calling you out of your name, etc. If your significant other is showing you signs of a high temper, uncontrollable anger/behavior, pay attention and know that you cannot change someone who does not see a problem with what they are doing. Even if they say that it is not their normal behavior and they do not know where it came from, know that their words are more than likely not the truth. Anger doesn’t come out of nowhere, nor does abuse. Being under the influence is not an excuse, either. Pay attention and believe what you are shown.


Be mindful of patterns.


Never forget: You did not make them do it.


There are foundations, organizations, shelters, etc. to support you if you need it. If you need help finding one, let me know and I will assist you in every way humanly possible. I care and I want to help you.


Friends
Yes, friends can abuse you. If they make fun of you “jokingly”, use you, only call when they need something, take and never give, etc. they do not need to be in your life. People will only do what they are allowed to do. If your “friend” is only there for selfish reasons, show them the nearest exit. Stand up for yourself and demand what you deserve or leave if it is not within your friendship. Be kind and still pay attention; do not be blinded by history or false sense of friendship.


Work
If your superiors/coworkers are using you for their benefit and do not support you, encourage you, offer you room for growth, etc. you may not belong there. You have to realize that you have special gifts and talents that you can offer the team/business and those gifts have a significant value. 


Do not let others misuse you, abuse you, cause you pain, break your spirit, degrade you, attack you, etc.  If either person in a relationship is not wanting to be in the relationship anymore, step away. If problems only get bigger and voices only get louder, it is time to go.


Brokenness can be re-shaped. You must be able to look within yourself and see your value and your worth (yes, the two are different). You have something special about yourself that cannot be taken away from you and that is what you must focus on when overcoming these abusive relationships. 


You need to do something with your time that is productive. Get back in school, get a hobby, do volunteer work; do all of these things for yourself. You can heal inside, but it will take time. Yoga, meditation, silent retreats, sound psychological counseling, prayer, support groups, etc. can all be amazingly beneficial things for you to do. You have to do what works for you, and you do not need someone to do these things with you.


The most important thing for you to do after you have gotten away from your abusive past is to not look back. You left for a reason and you faced something that you should have never had to deal with. I know that there may be a lingering feeling trying to remember a piece of good/some happy memories, but I promise you it is not worth revisiting the pain.


You have a strength inside of yourself that you must tap into, and believe me you can do it.


The Universe nor God want you to endure abuse of any sort, so it is time to heal as best as you can. 


Psalms 147:3
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” You are hurting or you are still hurting, but know that there is a healing unlike any other coming your way. Seek help and pray about your situation. There is a better life/person for you. This wound needs more than a band-aid, this is definitely a surgery type of situation, so do what it takes to overcome and get stronger. God can heal you in a way that no other can; whatever higher power you connect to is with you and cares about you. You can look inside of yourself, gain wisdom/knowledge via teachings, meditation, and yoga to re-train your brain. Whatever way works for you, you need to do it starting right now.


Isaiah 40:29-31
“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”  You will heal, with time and faith. It will take effort, simply waiting and believing will not get you out of your situation; you have to muster up the strength and reach inside of yourself to overcome abuse. Once you find that peace and your happiness, never let anyone take it away.


The truth of the matter is that yes you may currently be a victim, but you can become a survivor and a significant blessing with someone else, with new friends (or none at all) or by working elsewhere. You may feel weak right now but take it from a survivor-turned-warrior, you will find your strength.


Remember, you are not alone. I’ll listen to you, cry with you, pray with you, empower you, and help you in any way that I can.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner







***Health Spotlight***
STD’s the prevalence of is increasing with time. Please remember that your body is your own and you have the option to say no and that is good enough; if someone sees a problem with that they can leave and you can tell them you are no longer interested. According to the CDC: there were approximately 2.3 million cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea & syphilis last year (more than 200,000) than the previous year. Get tested regularly, even if you are not in a relationship. There is free help at most community health clinics. Do not be scared to seek help, if you need it. You can experience many horrible symptoms and beyond if you do not get medical help. Protect yourself and others by doing the right thing.




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Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Overcoming Relationships of Every Sort

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

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Throughout life, we meet and get to know people on many different levels.


The passing of time, change in vision of life, different goals, broken hearts, etc. can all be reasons that these relationship must come to an end.


Making the decision to overcome a relationship can be one of the most difficult things to do. However, this very decision can be one of the best things that you can do for yourself, your family, or your career.


Let’s look a little deeper at intimate relationships, friendships, and career relationships.


Intimate Relationships
When dating (typically at the beginning), many people experience feelings of joy, excitement, butterflies, love, lust, etc., but we must remember that those things don’t always last nor do they have to. 


Of course, you should work hard in your relationships and love the one you are with, but if things have gone sour and either of you are experiencing dysfunction or unhealthy behaviors it may be beyond time to cut ties.


You know what you deserve in a relationship and what you need; if your significant other is unwilling to work on those things, don’t you think that maybe you need to rethink the relationship? 


Don’t you think that maybe you should be with someone who is willing to put in the effort and build a strong, faithful, and loving relationship with you? 


Let me say this: you do not have to stay with someone who cheats on you or mistreats you. You need to get your head on straight and think through your relationship and make the decision to overcome any negativity within it; if that means you need to leave, so be it. 


Keep this at the forefront of your mind: staying in a relationship just for the kids will hurt you, your significant other, those God meant for you, and your children (as they will mimic and be susceptible to what you have shown them/allowed them to be a part of). Do the right thing.


Friendship
At various stages of our lives we meet people that we may find a connection with, someone that likes the same things, or someone that we simply have things in common with and they become friends that we hold close to our hearts. 


We do things together, talk regularly, and even buy each other gifts. Those relationships are not always meant to travel with you for life, in fact it can be more unhealthy than anything to allow people that do not have the same goals, those without an aim for growth, or someone without the same beliefs as you. 


Proverbs 18:24
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” A friend is a blessing, but sometimes you have to let them go so that you can grow and find your happiness. One of the greatest friends and the most dependable friend can be found in God.


Friendship is a beautiful thing, but sometimes those relationships are only for a season; you learn the lesson then it’s time to move forward. You must be willing to see through the memories, time spent, etc. and realize that growth and change are mandatory in life…even when it comes to friends. Overcome that relationship by realizing the value in it and remembering that your journey through life and your success do not require everyone that you encounter and/or befriend.


Career Relationships
A brand new job comes up and we get excited about it look forward to everything that we will do, etc. Over time, you may get bored, want more money, gain a degree, or get tired of the commute, etc. and that is perfectly fine.  There are many people that stick to one job or one career for their entire life and that is okay, but that does not have to be the case. 


If you are feeling stuck or unfulfilled and there is no room for growth, perhaps you need to overcome that career relationship.  You need a challenge, you need to feel that you are making a difference and that you are being appreciated; if that is not how you feel you need to be appreciative of what you have learned and the opportunity and redirect your life.


Ecclesiastes 3: 1 & 5
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.” Knowing the value of any relationship (family included) is important, but it is equally important to recognize if someone/something is causing you to feel truly unhappy. If there is no way to mend it or the person is intentionally causing you emotional pain, you need to overcome that relationship.


It can hurt to leave people behind, but wouldn’t you rather forgive, try to mend, and overcome if it is necessary. You deserve to be happy within yourself; few things/people can give you that except God, looking into your soul, acknowledging what the Universe is blessing you with, and you.


Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
There have been over 100 measles cases and 8 outbreaks of the measles in the U.S. this year(CDC). The majority of people with measles contract it because they are not vaccinated. Physical symptoms may appear in about 10-14 days after exposure, but people are contagious after 4 days with the virus. Fever is the early symptom of the measles, they can reach up to 105 F; this is accompanied by malaise, cough, and conjunctivitis. The rash spreads from the head-down (CDC). High risk people are infants, adults over 20, pregnant women, and those with compromised immune systems. Airborne spread and droplets are the methods of transmission; it can remain in the air for two hours. There is no antiviral treatment, but medical care is necessary; hospitalization is hospital. As always, if you suspect an illness seek medical attention.




Labels: Overcoming, Growth, Relationships, Friends, Change, Empowerment, Epidemiology, Faith, Healing




Overcoming Situations & Facing Others’ Negativity

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH
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Making a choice to overcome vs coping is entirely up to you, but remember you must be prepared to face the outcome.

Being stuck in a situation, or simply feeling stuck, is never a healthy place to be. It will fog your mind, cause confusion, and bring on levels of stress unlike any other. (Ask me how I know…)

So, you’ve made the choice to overcome…what can you do with the negativity that may come your way because of it?

Oh yes sir and yes ma’am, there will be those who are out to rain on your parade, and those who want to make you feel bad for your choice to claim your power…but you must be ready.

Choose, in your mind, to stand firm in your decisions. If you have made the choice to overcome, you can make the choice to find happiness in your new journey.

Those directly attached to you may not understand your choice and they may not know your new walk…but guess what…it isn’t for them to understand.


You see, others gain power only when you allow them to do so. You must stand up for yourself, and be aware of all that you are.

God has an amazing plan and purpose for your life…why else would you be here? Why else would you be reading this? 
The universe is molding this amazing life for you, and energy is being activated. Why else would you have chosen to overcome? Why else would you be diligently working toward achieving something better?

You are doing what it takes to create a navigation system for your life. If you choose to allow someone else’s evilness and negativity to creep in, guess where you’re headed…a dead end, and we know that road leads to nowhere.

You better be ready for whatever comes your way. Don’t be fearful, because you are never alone, and greatness is coming your way.


Ephesians 6:11
“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.” Evil and negativity come in many forms, be prepared for what others may say or try to do. Remember who you are, turn the other cheek whenever possible, and do not be afraid of stepping on the toes of those who mean you no good.  Your courage is internal as is the plot of those do who evil things; you have the power and the ball is in your court. What you do and what you allow into your life is up to you. Overcome it, stand firm, and believe in yourself. God is with you every step of the way. The universe is connected to you, so do what is best for you and do not let go of your strength.

John 3:20 
“Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.” From me directly to you: You do whatever it takes to pour sugar on your circumstances and over others instead of dishing out revenge and violence. Your blessing is coming. Those who are evil see no problem in what they are doing, in fact they find a sense of responsibility/comfort in doing what they do. If you throw back what they give you that does not make the situation better, you are giving them your power and allowing them to put a shade over your light.

When someone decides to treat you like trash after you make that choice to do good things or choose a better path for your life, remember this…the problem is not you, it is buried deep inside of them. You cannot change them, so the best thing for you to do is be happy with your choice and keep choosing the be on the side of what is right and good.

Negativity is like that of the darkness, it remains still and it lingers until someone turns on the light. Be the light.

Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner

***Health Spotlight***
Meningitis can be caused by bacteria, virus, fungus, parasite, or an amoeba. It affects approximately 4000 people annually. It can lead to severe medical issues or death if not treated quickly.  The brain and spinal cord are severely affect. Person-to-person transmission is possible as is a spread through contaminated food, during birth, droplets, and via improper hand washing. As with many other diseases, those with a compromised immune system, younger/older, or are pregnant are at an increased risk of contracting the disease. Symptoms appear within 3-7 days after exposure; they include nausea, vomiting, confusion, and photophobia (CDC, 2017). You need to seek a physician for antibiotic treatment. Take good care of yourself and maintain healthy habits.  


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What Does It Mean To Overcome?

What Does It Mean To Overcome?

Posted on by KayLa's Positivity Corner by KayLa N. Allen, MPH

©KayLaN.Allen


You climb your mountain and miss a step, but catch yourself.
You drive your car in the rain and slide a bit, but you get back on track immediately.
You face your scars and remember that you are a beautiful product of your life experiences.


Overcoming means to:
Move beyond, gain control, or defeat something. This definition can be different for each person and in every situation. The key is to understand what it means to you.


A person can talk to you for hours about overcoming and not truly understand what it means to you.


The real definition is inside of yourself.


Maybe overcoming means taking back your power.
Maybe overcoming means getting out of a bad relationship for yourself and your family.
Maybe overcoming means that you learn to clearly see how the universe is working in your favor.
Maybe overcoming means that you step out of your comfort zone and into the realm that you are supposed to be in.  
Maybe overcoming means getting control of the chaos in your life.
-Whatever it means to you, it is up to you to look deeper into what it would mean to make that change, overcome that battle, or climb that new hill.


Understanding what it means to overcome is how you can prepare to do it.


You find meaning and value in life and your journey by taking the time to truly look inside of yourself and allow change and evolution to occur.


Challenge yourself to take a moment and write down what is truly bothering you. This is the beginning of facing what is bringing problems to your life. 


Job 8:7
“…Though your beginning was small, your latter will be great.” You may not be where you dream of being, but it is surely coming- it has been promised to you. The universe is in full-creation mode and is bringing opportunities your way that you did not know existed. God has a blessing and vision for your life. 


Proverbs 2:12-15
“Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways, who delight in doing wrong and rejoice in the perverseness of evil, whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways.”  Taking the time to do the work, writing it all down, facing the problem and understanding what it means to overcome your storm is the first step in developing a new area of wisdom.  This wisdom could be the key to your success or in finding true happiness within yourself. What would it mean to defeat the storm in your life?


Are you able to open the doors of promise and opportunity now? Do you still have some preparation to do? If you aren’t ready, that is okay for now…but you need to get ready. You need to stop just dealing with it and start preparing to change.


Now that you understand the basic meaning of overcoming, you are ready to learn to make it happen. Buckle up, it may be a bumpy ride.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


***Health Spotlight***
Chickenpox can cause extreme problems for people of all ages.  The virus that it is linked to it, VZV, can spread via touching, breathing in particles, and possibly through droplets. Getting the vaccine is the best protection; you can still get chickenpox but the severity will be decreased, you will have fewer blisters and less of a fever. It is essential that you do your part to take care of yourself and your family. Calamine and colloidal oatmeal baths are a go-to to relieve itching, and acetaminophen over-the-counter may help reduce fever as well. Although there has been a decline in the number of people with a VZV virus over the past two decades, it is still affecting over 3 million people a year according to the CDC. Seek the care of a physician or any medical provider; there is affordable care available. 


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