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Dear Mixed Girl

Dear Mixed Girl

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Dear Mixed Girl,

What we place meaning on will not always mean something to others, and that’s okay. 

On any given day, you decide to define your life, and that can include your values, traditions, clothing, culture and so much more. 

It can be difficult to focus on the things that mean something to you when you have fears, doubts, or concerns about how others carry what you are sharing with the world. 

The joy of your life comes from what you need and how you make it happen. 

If you’re carrying your culture in everything you do, remember that many people do not understand what you are doing or why you are doing it. 

There are many times when you will feel like someone’s thoughts will make you question everything that you are.

 When that happens, understand that you must stand strong and continue to be yourself. 

Take a moment to think about what means something to you, write it down, and take joy in being wonderfully you. 

Don’t change your values for anyone; enjoy the life that you lead.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters (circa 12/27/2020)

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that shares experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to reshape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves. Letters and other Dear Mixed Girl initiatives are also read aloud/shared online; check them out here.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. In these similarities, we can find individual truths and ways to become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth based on experiences and education and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact for those living the life of a “mixed” girl/woman.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs. Want to sign up as a coaching client or hire Dr. KayLa for a Dear Mixed Girl ™(trademark filed and pending) speaking engagement? Contact Dr. KayLa via the contact page and sign up below using the button to start the next part of your improved and embraced journey today.

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Meaningful Alignment

Meaningful Alignment

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Walking in disarray, creating dysfunction, having a pity party, wallowing in self-doubt, and seeking external validation in countless ways to fix your internal concerns are tangible and easy to do; sadly, many of us do these things in some way or another daily. Even if you found that one of those previously mentioned things hit home for you in a shocking way, what is to come below is what you need to apply to your life immediately. Meaningful alignment and leverage are created by design if only you regularly do a few things on purpose.

Manifestation of your future starts now. What you do, say, and are exposed to mentally, spiritually, and physically impacts everything else, as you know. However, what do you do when you are seeking an adjustment to reach alignment for your future? Every part of what you do and what is around you is contributing to the alignment of your future and purpose, so be mindful, completely satisfied, and intentional.

Mindfulness

The path ahead of you starts quite literally with what is ahead of and around you. Are you being mindful of what is right before your very eyes? When was the last time you counted your blessings and claimed true satisfaction and thankfulness for every small thing around you throughout an entire day? I bet at least one person can say they have never done this. Therefore, it is now time for you to start making this a new habit that will later become a regular part of your life. 

Alright…who is saying, “I don’t have time for that.” Do you have time for the success and wealth that you want? How can you be thankful for what you want in the future if you are not creating alignment and thankfulness starting in your journey right now? I bet you have time now…

Satisfaction

Really honoring and accepting the gift and blessing of what is around you creates meaningful alignment. Think about how much you have to be thankful for. Leveraging your life by using what you have is a grand opportunity, and you have to be able to do that in ways that make sense for you. You do not need to have a lot to make a difference, nor do you have to have a mansion to be thankful for your happy home and healthy family. Are you following me? 

Start doing the most with what you have now. Begin each day by being thankful. Say things out loud about what how you are happy with what you have inside yourself and in your external environment. Real satisfaction with deep meaning will solidify leverage in alignment and create shifts in your mentality. You will start to see that everything you are doing to continue improving your life is moving in a smoother flow and rhythm because you can always re-center your thoughts.

Intentionality

Do not let life just happen to you. You have a lot more control over things than you may think. This does not mean that you need to be overzealous and worried about everything. Rather, you need to be intentional with your actions and focused on what is necessary. Intentional relationships, mindset, education, interactions, time spent doing all things, the type of information and media you feed your mind, and how often you sit in silence all affect outcomes and your future. Do you understand?

Intentional actions are critical. While no one can follow you around and keep an eye on your every move while also paying attention to your every thought, you can choose to be intentional if you wish to have the future you desire and the successes that will impact everything around you.

Check-In Time

What are you learning from this? I hope you learned these things about and for yourself:

1. You have the power to create leverage in your meaningful alignment along your journey and for your future successes.

2. You are pre-destined for greatness, and your purpose, gift, and talents will make room for you if you first make room for them.

3. Dedication to your craft requires a shift in your path, mentality, and every element of your internal and external environments.

Be blessed and be at peace.

 – KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctor of Health Administration, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

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Setting Your Sights

Setting Your Sights

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Being able to view what you want is how you may be able to approve what you see into the vision set before you.

A set sight of destruction or a belief that has come from fear or doubt will be met with challenges.

A path of confusion or mismanagement may lead to a season of blundering.  Wandering around looking at a little of this and a little of that, stepping off of the path because something sounded nice or looked pretty, etc. may not be the wisest thing to do. You need a little bit of target practice!

There are no challenges that will be unmet. The real challenge is how you will show up and address what is before you.

Willfully centering yourself is when you shift from a level of clarity to a level of positioned elevation. 

When was the last time strategically focused on then released that which you really wanted? This practice may sound crazy or a bit ridiculous, but it is the reality of creating a vision and manifesting something by embodying what you really want.

Where is your sight set? If seeing something that may not be within reach at the moment without a few steps before it, you may need to re-adjust your plan. If you are thinking about things that are of your past and they no longer align with who you are today, you have some deep thinking to do about why this may be and what you need to do to get yourself back in “working order”. 

Are you thinking about success? Success is defined by only you, so if you have levels of success be mindful of how you may be addressing them with yourself at the core of it. Remember that when you are aiming for success, you are doing things for more than yourself. I always remind myself that God gave me the gift of who I am and what I am supposed to do so that I can bless others – that is powerful, and I am thoroughly grateful for it.

Are you only imagining possibilities? If the intention is to focus, how can you do so if there are only moments of daydreaming, hoping, or imagining. Surely, there must come a time when strategies, goals, seeking wise counsel, and making a plan must come into play.

Whatever your sights may be set on now, know that what you want in the future will depend on the building blocks you see right now.

Set your sights on a plan and be willing to gently shift so that you can clearly see what is there waiting for you.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

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Appreciate Life's Beauty

Appreciate Life’s Beauty

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Most of the things that we want in life are just beyond a sightline, fear, space of opportunity, or a dream. While it may sound simple enough, the typical thing that many of us do is cloud what could be with a fog of challenges and doubts. Having gratitude of what is right in front of you and appreciating life’s beauty is a gift to be withheld.

When was the last time that you took account of what you have in your life? 

Do you often look at what you have been blessed with on a regular basis?

Do you regularly take a moment to meditate on what you have today (as it is a manifestation of what you once dreamed of)?

What do you have that you have not recently looked deeply into and given a greater meaning to?

Giving ourselves empowerment when things are difficult can be so fulfilling and wonderful. It can equally feel amazing when our loved ones or friends give us the support that we may need from time to time. However, it is ultimately up to you to make a decision to create a different perspective on the life that you lead.

If I speak highly of what is ahead, and you walk backward into a field of beauty, you cannot expect to appreciate what is present. Opening your eyes and pushing yourself to shift your field of view is how you can learn to value what is in front of you; this is how you appreciate life’s beauty in all of its’ forms.

How can you truly be prepared for what you want in life if you cannot place a high value on what your life has already been blessed and gifted with in every season? 

Surely, there have been ups and downs, but there are countless moments of gratitude that must be counted and reflected upon.

What do you want in your life? 

What are you willing to do for and within yourself to create lasting shifts for a promising future?

How will you appreciate life’s beauty every day of your life?

No matter what future you are shaping or what your purpose may be, your goals start with you valuing the now with high regard and attention to gratitude.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner

 

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

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Try Now, Not When

Try Now, Not When

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Having goals is a wonderful thing, but if you find yourself constantly telling yourself that you will get to something or you will start something when you have accomplished something, you may miss out on something wonderful right now. Perfection may sound great and it may seem tangible, but it is neither practical or necessary when you have your purpose and passion intact.

Why is it that we tell ourselves that we must be perfect, 100% ready, in an ideal place, complete, fully accomplished, etc. to get something done? Who said to you in some space or time that you needed to seek perfection in who you are or what you do at all times?

A road of trying with some imperfections or incomplete “tasks”, could lead to positive outcomes, whereas not trying at all will lead to a dead end. 

Belief in yourself is one thing that you must hold onto when you think that you have to know all of the answers.

Belief in yourself is one thing that you must cherish when you do not understand how your dream will come to fruition, even though you putting in the necessary work right now.

Belief in yourself is what you can also hold in your heart and mind when doubts arise, fears are in the midst of your plans, and hopelessness tries to seep into your world.

There is nothing that you cannot obtain with some imperfections, flaws, “failures”, and stumbles as you try to make your dreams a reality with logic and wisdom in your toolbox. You must always believe in yourself, first and foremost.

Ladies, if you are not in a place financially where you can afford designer labels or high end clothing that you may desire, there are many things that you can do to shop on a dime and still look great. Ask me how I know… 🙂  I love a great thrift store find! Do well with what you have, and be beautiful from the inside out! People cannot deny your light.

People, if you are scared to try something new because you haven’t completed your degree or you don’t have a formal college education, and you think that no one will hear you or respect you, start off small and use what you have living inside of you. You can do a lot by just being the current and best version of yourself!

There is nothing that cannot be done without a bit of faith, hope, and a lot of effort – notice that I did not say perfection. You do not have to be perfect to accomplish anything.

Do not believe that any journey accomplished started off with 100% perfection or ease.

Speaking from experience, many people are not handed anything. I can guarantee you that if you are reading this and the message is hitting home for you, that most of the people in your circle had to work very hard to get where they are.

I was handed nothing. I had to fight for and work hard for everything that I have earned. If this sounds like you, in this, it is an amazing thing because no one can ever take your efforts, title, letters, degrees, etc. away from you. Now is your time to make the most of what you have. You must hold your head high and be proud of what you have accomplished, as it is no minor miracle that you have done what you done to make it to this great space in your life.

You are not walking on this Earth and living and breathing in your purpose to be someone else. You are to fit into someone’s timeline or description of your identity. 

Any idea of how things must be or thoughts on perfection, if they were placed into your mind by anyone or anything, that is something that you need to evaluate and walk yourself through, because this is not reality and it is certainly not you.

If you have a dream, vision, or something that you want to do – make it happen!

What’s wrong with being brave from time to time? What would happen if you stepped out on a little bit faith or a little dose or hope and you ended up changing the life of one person? Now what would happen if you didn’t try?

Start getting in the habit of telling yourself to try now and not when…

Try being a little unstoppable (over and over again) and tell me how things turn out.

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 
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Erase Self-Doubt

Erase Self-Doubt

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It takes a tremendous amount of effort to accomplish what you set out to do.

Presenting to yourself the ability to make a task, goal, or objective a part of your story of triumph is magnificent.

Although we often have dreams of what we want to do, we may face self-doubt. It is only when we can “erase” self-doubt that we find our true potential.

When doubts may arise, there are several things that you need to do:

1. Take a moment to sit with the doubt

2. Process all of your feelings in that given time

3. Think about, analyze, and acknowledge where the doubts came from

4. Work through the source of the doubt by addressing it effectively

5. Seek assistance to address the core of your doubts and how you will move forward

6. Let go and “erase” the doubt

One thing that you must always remember is that you are a limitless being with the potential to have absolutely anything that you want and work hard for. There are times that people put limits on themselves unnecessarily, but it can be avoided with a shift in their mindset.

How about an example? Have you ever found yourself in a situation in which you are leveling up, and you are surrounded by individuals who are more experienced and in that moment, you were feeling elements of imposter syndrome. Did you not work hard to get where you are? Did you not use your unique identity, gifts, and talents to be in the room, at the table, or in conversation with these individuals? So, how was imposter syndrome and self-doubt allowed to be present in the scenario?

I can say that I have faced moments of self-doubt in places of my transformation and evolution. However, I found my future self, beyond the doubts, by honing into my greatness and moving beyond what I was facing with the right tools in my toolbox.

No matter where you are in life, you have a responsibility and will face accountability for the future that you create. So, what will you do with the power, strength, amazing identity, intellect, and beauty inside of you?

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

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Remain In Character

Remain In Character

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Do you know who you are?

Okay…do you know who you are around your family and friends?

Well…do you know who you are in business spaces?

Let me ask again, do you really know who you are?

If your answer to those questions shifted in extreme ways, you may need to do a little reflecting on the role you are playing in your life.

As an individual that is choosing to evolve your life consistently, you are leading in a way that many people never do, do not know how to do, or they think they do not have to do. No matter what type of leader you may be, your good character is of added value to what you do and for the growth of others, so it must be appreciated – that starts with you.

Value of yourself starts inside as does your identity, character, and sense of worthiness. While elements of you should adjust slightly depending on what you are facing, your character should not change.

When faced with life, your well-being, or anything that is at the center of your universe you must recall who you are and there is no room for you to change that definition for the sake of others.

If you do not remain in your true character amongst others and choose to play a role, you will not succeed and will not look the same as what you see in the mirror. The things that you want to have in your life and in what you do will only be possible if you are tapped into who you are, and you are elevating the power of yourself inside and out.

Conforming to meet a standard or become what you think others want to see in you will only give you what others want. True success and happiness are things that only you can grant yourself. So, if you are detached from the truth how can walk in your truth and be a beacon on light in the spaces that only you can walk in?

Your awareness of self and your well-being play a significant role in becoming the next version of yourself, so they must be in alignment. Do you understand what that really means? There are no changes to your heart and soul that must be changed if you are being a good person and you are staying along the path that you want to be on. 

Only when you add a bit of sparkle and strength to the truth of your greatest self while honoring how hard you are working in your evolution, can you become success in a sustainable manner.

Seasons change and your mindset should as well, but you as a whole must remain the same at heart. People will love and cherish you for you. Keep working hard, learning, leveling up, and loving yourself, it will all pay off. 

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 
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The Mission Is Possible

The Mission Is Possible

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When you set your mind on a vision, it is exciting, and it can be so vivid in your mind. That which we see in our mind as a vision can be both clear and present in the physical realm if we understand that it is a mission to be executed with a plan of action.

A mission can lead you down a treacherous and confusing road, and it may even lead you to a metaphorical dead end.

Understand that every mission is possible, and unknown obstructions will appear along the road; you just need to have a vision and a strategic plan for reaching the next milestone.

Having the wherewithal about yourself and the fortitude to push yourself to achieve a mission is what it will take to understand your abilities. 

There is nothing that you cannot achieve with some effort, hope, and faith. Planning out a logical goal with set objectives over some time is a mission of focus and dedication, and it is something that can be done.

On two different ends of a spectrum, there are missions that are indeed possible.

1. A busy person with a full-time life looking to tap into their passion vs. 2. A person who is starting to envision a different way of living 

While you may have a lot on your plate or other obligations, this does not mean that you cannot make time for your passion. There may be further challenges, but planning, having an environment that works for creativity and work efforts, and a good support system are vital for you to make things happen.

If you are in the space of wonder and thought, you can make those thoughts and visions become goals by beginning with geared and processed planning on paper. You can work through your visions and make them useful at entirely different left by wisely shifting your perspective and planning.

While no set of circumstances will equal an easy mission, you can guarantee that at every turn, you will learn and grow so that when you reach the next milestone, you will be better prepared for the obstacles in the road.

I have been challenged in so many ways as a woman, black/brown individual, and leader in society, education, and business. Still, I have not met a challenge that I could not shift and turn into a mission that was indeed possible to achieve.

May you find the support you need, make wise decisions, and challenge yourself beyond what you already know to become what you envision.

Be blessed and be at peace.

 -KayLa’s Positivity Corner

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, National Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.


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Strength Is Tough

Strength Is Tough

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Finding your way through difficult situations and maintaining a sense of strength within yourself takes strength, but it is tough in more than one way.

Completing a task or making something happen is only one part, the external part, of creating a reality. 

Some of the most difficult work to be done happens within yourself when strength may not be enough to get something done.

Things that are worth having and things that you really want in life will not fall into your lap with ease. 

You will be met with tears, trips and falls, lies and false judgment, naysayers, bias, and everything in between when you are trying to do great things and be a good person.

Strength is not something that is only important from a physical standpoint; it must be developed from the inside out if you aim for it to hold a lasting and meaningful value.

You are a multifaceted person that has been met with many sets of circumstances, obstacles, and missions throughout your life, so how could your element of strength be one dimensional? It isn’t. There are many parts to it.

Your strength requires you to be a whole person. You must be working on your health from the inside out. You must understand that you will not always be working from a place of 100% and that is okay just as well.

Being strong is a part of who you are, it is not an identity, so keep that in mind.

No matter what you may face in life, your strength may need to be present so that you can accomplish your goals but that does not mean that you cannot be gentle, human, or “soft” at times.

Be yourself. Be patient. Practice self-empathy. Work hard to find the balance that you need in your life, and you will walk into the life that you deserve.

Life will be met with trials and storms, but you will be the determining factor in how your strength will show up.

Even if the odds seem like they are stacked against you or if many things seem to be going terribly wrong, one thing is for sure, you are so much stronger than you think. 

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, National Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

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Don't Sway In The Wind

Don’t Sway In The Wind

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Being a stronghold in your world as life switches, twists, and turns is a valuable and key part of becoming successful and the next version of who you are supposed to be.

Getting caught in the wind and flowing with the breeze, no matter which way it may turn, is not only going to deter your path, but it may also stop you from reaching your destination.

Having your feet firmly planted in life can be difficult, but readjusting when that difficulty arises may be the key to ensuring your next steps can be taken.

When life is grand and simple, we can run, skip, jump, and maybe twirl along the path because there may not be any obstacles along the way. In this space, enjoy every moment and take advantage of the opportunities set before you. There will be many times like this, and it is up to you to acknowledge that you have this exceptional and rare time in front of you. 

However, when life is not so easy, you must remember that you are in control even still.

For me, God is the stronghold in my life and always will be. Many times, I could have rolled along like tumbleweed or swayed in the wind like a tree in the forest, but I didn’t do that. I understood that God had something greater for me, so I could not walk in that path because if I did, I could not become who I am now nor who I am called to be. 

Swaying in the wind not only affects you, it affects everyone and everything around you. 

Always know that you are a person, being, entity, brand, and visionary that is Earth-shaking, life-changing, and a gift to so many people if only you tap into and hold firm to everything that makes you who you are and multiply that times infinity.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, National Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

 
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