T-Trust

©KayLaN.Allen


Many of us have experienced something that has “made/forced” us to re-evaluate who we are, who we’ve allowed to stay in our circle, and how we could ever trust again.


Trusting yourself can be one of the hardest things to do. We often compare ourselves to others in various capacities and we occasionally doubt ourselves. 


The important thing that we must always remember is that we must make trusting ourselves a priority…so let’s address that first.


No matter what has come your way, you must be able to look inside of yourself and see the real you. It is a challenge, just as it is to have a smile on your face and truly be happy inside.


The doubt or trust that you have on your face can make or break your life and/or opportunities that came your way. This can easily happen because we tend to wear this mistrust/doubt on our sleeve.


To believe in yourself and trust yourself will not be an easy journey if you have ever been hurt, abused, cheated on or disappointed in any way…but you must learn.


If you allow the occurrences of your past take over, you will hurt yourself and everyone around you.


I want you to free yourself of the doubt inside yourself. Make logical decisions and trust will come along.


If you are trying your hardest in whatever you are doing – trust yourself & the process.
If you are working toward reaching your goals, trust yourself – you’re doing great.
If you have a vision for your life and your family – trust yourself.


Without trust, there are missed opportunities…who want to close a door in their own face?
If you have made a mistake forgive yourself and grow from your mistakes. 
Mean what you say.
Act in your greatness and your purpose.


If you know your worth and you trust yourself, others will see it in you. If you are not living your best life, respecting yourself and trusting yourself, no one else will trust you or take you seriously. Stand up for who you are and who you are called to be.


God and the universe are on your side, so do your best. Trust in yourself.


Trusting others:


Psalms 37: 1-5
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lordtrust in him and he will do this-He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.”


If someone has hurt you in the past, forgive them and learn to trust. This does not mean forgive the same person over and over again acknowledging their insanity while making excuses for them. I did not say live in stupidity. I’ve already done it for you (in the past) so no need to repeat my mistakes. Do better-you deserve better.


On the same token, if someone has hurt you that does not mean you have the right to take it out on the next person you encounter. 


Give someone a fighting chance to be with you, work with you, love you, grow with you. You deserve that love and trust…don’t they as well? If you think someone is “unworthy” of that trust, do yourself and them a favor and let them go!!!


You must take time to heal and re-learn who you are and truly understand what trust means. 


So whether we are talking about trusting ourselves or trusting others, you must remember that trust will not happen over night…nor will the pain from losing trust.


You will not always be right, so don’t think that just because you are thinking something or feeling something that you must be right. Do not be foolish. 


Proverbs 19:20
Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.” There is always room for growth and always something that can be learned from someone else. Don’t be stubborn and stuck in your ways; you’ll only hurt yourself.


Use what life, God, or the universe teaches/reveals to you and become a wiser person.


Trust, the heart, and mind go hand-in-hand…allow them to work together in your life.


Be blessed and be at peace.


#KayLasPositivityCorner


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©KayLaN.Allen


Let me guess your situation…



You have been abused OR
You have been molested/sexually
assaulted OR
You have been raped OR
You have been denied a job that
you thought you had in the bag OR
You didn’t get accepted into
that school OR
You fell into a depression that you can’t seem to crawl out of
OR
You feel like you keep walking into
brick walls and closed doors OR
You have an illness that
plagues your body and/or your mind OR

You feel like your best isn’t
good enough…



Did I guess right? If not, insert here “I________”.



Now what I need you to do is face yourself and stop beating yourself up. I’m not making light of your situation, in fact I am saying that I have very likely been there too. You know what thought, it’s time for a new blessing and a new opportunity. Guess what, you already have it! You woke up today, did you not? You have all of your faculties, do you not? You have love around you (even if you feel that you don’t, you have me and I LOVE YOU!).



No more “Negative Nancy”, you can overcome anything because of the strength within yourself. 



Philippians 4:13

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Whether you say that your source is God or the universe, the result is still the same: You can do ALL things! Dust yourself off, clear your mind, pray, meditate, heal yourself internally and you will overcome your troubles. There is no other option.


Someone will not come and save you, complete you, come and make you happy…you have to do that for yourself…don’t be so blind as to think otherwise. You are much more intelligent than that.



Each time that you allow your circumstances, disappointments, low-times, etc. plague your body, you plague your mind and your life (present and future).



Forgive that person that hurt you or shut the door in your face, you are stronger than those times; forgive for yourself and no one else. 
A better opportunity will arise and be fitting.
Doors open and close, that is what they are supposed to do.
There is a miracle working for you and it was made especially for you.
You are good enough, you are not perfect and you may need some evolution but you have light inside of you…let it shine.




You must make the choice to overcome. Dress to the best of your ability and top it off with a big smile! Go on that vacation or retreat BY YOURSELF. Take yourself on a date. Get a hobby. Enjoy a life with purpose.



Delve into yourself. You are beauty, love, strength, determination, courage, and growth; take off your blinders of love or whatever else and just think about it. Shut off all of the noise in your head and realize this:

As long as there is breath in your body there is a chance to overcome everything that you think is weighing you down. 


Please remember, that there is always someone who has it worse than you. Stand strong and hold onto your faith; it is so much bigger than your problems.



You know that there will be many more struggles in life, but it is up to you to overcome it all. You can do it. No problem is too big. When you overcome, you rise above, you improve your health and you are prepared to bless someone else who may be dealing with something similar. 



James 1:12

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”


Don’t you see…you must go through that time of difficulty. No it is not pretty or easy, nothing was ever promised to be easy in this life. However, if you do not overcome this time what will happen? You will literally tear apart everything and everyone around you or block blessings.



You are a warrior in this life. Are you using all of your strength to win your battle or are you allowing those difficulties to make decisions for you?



Get up and show the world what you are made of…someone is watching and someone needs you. Choose joy and choose to live the best life possible, after all the choice is yours.



If you need help in your overcoming journey, I am here for you and there are many other positive options available if only you seek resolution.


Be blessed and be at peace.



#KayLasPositivityCorner


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The Sun Strength and Beauty in You

©KayLaN.Allen

If you wish to overcome your situation, moved beyond obstacles, and change your life, you must be able to acknowledge your circumstances and be willing to make the changes necessary to reach to the next level. You know who you are, now what will you do with that knowledge?
James 1:2-4 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
James 1:12 “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”
Be blessed and be at peace.
#KayLasPositivityCorner

The Truth of the Past: Written Version of Facing the Pain of 2010-2016

We walk around with cordial smiles and the phrase “I’m fine” anytime anyone asks how we are doing.
Do they really want to know how we are doing?

We mask our tears with happy pictures on social media.
Look into my eyes in these pictures, am I really happy?

We crave attention and love, but settle for mediocrity and our partners fake love.
People say they want something real, long lasting, and true and yet fall for the simplest words of kindness.

Women over and over again “let” their partners take over their minds, and lose track of themselves.

Many aim to be great achievers and believe they are queens/kings and yet they cater to jokers.

My bruised heart and scarred body tells the story of truth and perseverance.
I have been the previously mentioned people and played all of the roles, but the time to face my truth of who I am is knocking on my door.
I dream to become this highly educated, well-rounded, and accomplished genetic engineer, but my nightmares haunt my dedicated and ambitious reality; maybe I am chasing the wrong dream.

I am always fighting for the truth and always running to someone else’s rescue.
I cry so often that I can no longer feel the pain in my heart, it just gets erased as I cater to the feelings of someone else.

The torment it brings is unreal, but over and over again I let it slide; I cry myself to sleep then let it go.
The pain and sadness is swarming all around me, but who besides God will be there to help me heal?

When the narcissism starts up as it always does, will I be able to fake it again?

Torn apart like shreds of paper, my heart still beats and longs for true love, but how much pain will I have to endure to get through the hardship and truly acknowledge my worth?

It’s time to make some changes.