Posts by drkaylanallen

Advice from the right spaces, time, and people can lessen the load of life, decrease stress, and generate levels of wisdom that would have taken much more time. One thing that people often do is place themselves in situations where they are sharing their struggles and getting advice from people who do not have the experiences or wisdom to truly help them.  Have you ever shared a little too much with someone and quickly realized that it was a mistake?  I have.

Sharing yourself with someone that you trust is one of the greatest parts of life. However, when this is done in ignorance, naivety, or a rush, it can be detrimental.

In business, if you seek assistance or mentorship from a leader that does not practice what they preach, there will be unseen struggles that will arise.  A title does not always equate to competence or proof of concept.  See, often people find themselves in a heap of mess because they sought advice from someone who did not have similar experiences.

When you are looking for a coach or mentor, you need to be sure that the wisdom, messaging, and teachings that you are to receive come from a place of authenticity and proven practices that are rooted in evidence-based practices.

About two years ago I found myself at a national conference and I connected with someone that I thought would be an excellent mentor. Her business track record was phenomenal, and her expertise was undeniable. One thing that I did not question was her character and motives. WHAT A MISTAKE! She fed me lies, set me up for failure, and dished out more broken promises than I can count. If I would have begged her to take me under her wing (which she had already said she did), I would have been so disappointed. I gave it a short amount of time and then came to the realization that she really didn’t care, and it was all for show!

When people do not share your experiences, understand where you come from, or have the proof that they have already overcome the things that you are facing, how can they be added value to your life? This is not to say that people cannot be genuinely empathetic. People can try to understand and try to relate, but there is much to be said about showing the fruit of your labor. If you find that you need advice for anything in your life, don’t just turn to the first open mouth, listening ear, or shoulder to cry out. Do you work and make good decisions that will benefit your future.

Be blessed and be at peace.

Our phones in many ways have become lifelines and a source of constant engagement. Frequently, we find ourselves jumping at the sound of a message, email, or some other notification. Do you ever think about not allowing your phone to rule your day?

If you see that you are running to address your phone, you may need to re-evaluate why it means so much for you to be attached to your phone.

There are lots of videos and exciting things that are on social media that can eat away at our time. If you think about it when you take the time to continuously address your phone as if it is a newborn that is crying, what are you sacrificing?

What is the value of your time? What do you do with your free time?

Every moment is a point of access that you can put in the effort to become something greater. If you ever find yourself wanting to change your life, do you think that time in your phone ALL DAY LONG is going to help you reach new levels?

When I know that I have things to do, I put in a world of internal fighting that encourages and benefits my ability to reach my goals. Sometimes that means that I toss my phone away from me so that I cannot reach it. Other times, it means turning off my data/Wi-Fi so that even if I get the nerve to touch my phone, I would have to put in extra effort to get to social media apps or sites.

Time is so valuable, so when you jump at the sound of a notification you are proclaiming that there is an immediate demand for your attention (which typically is not true).

With every moment that you have, you must decide what you will do with it and stick to that. Don’t stray away from what you want. Stand strong in what you want and remember that a full range of effort can come from the time that you grant yourself and your loved ones. Don’t be that person that believes that your phone is more important than what is around you.

I firmly believe that wasted time leads to broken opportunities.

The next time that you catch yourself heeding the demands of your notifications, address it internally so that you can make sure that you are leading the life that is beneficial to your wanted future. Be blessed and be at peace.

The next time that you catch yourself heeding the demands of your notifications, address it internally so that you can make sure that you are leading the life that is beneficial to your wanted future.

Be blessed and be at peace.

For everything that you plant into your mental garden, there are fruits that will be produced. When you think about how the seasons change, you may imagine the colors of leaves changing, flowers blooming, or fruits growing. Sometimes it is necessary to think about the depth of changes that occur both in nature and in real life.

As you step into another season of change, remember that change is not just something that you do it is something that you become. Change should be seen in all things that you do from how you speak to how dress. Know that change when executed and evolution when consistent will seep through your pores and be undeniable. These obvious changes do not mean that you are showcasing all of the great things in your life. On the contrary, you can enjoy your growth and evolution without putting your entire life on display.

You should be mindful of and remain aware that your social circles, friends, and acquaintances will notice your changes. For some, these changes mean that friends will be “lost”, but this is not the end of the world. Some people will see drastic changes in how others approach them, but this does not mean adaptation to situations and circumstances is required.

Don’t be afraid of who you are becoming. Don’t be afraid to share the depth or power of your growth. For so many people, they want to evolve but it can seem so difficult or scary. You could be the very person to show your evolution and how much it has changed your life.

As my life began to evolve four years ago, I watched everything change from friends to the things that I accept in my life. It was upsetting, frustrating, and bewildering at times, but I realized that without outward changes, my internal changes could not be sustainable.

Your fruition comes from the seeds that you sow into yourself. What seeds are you sowing? How are you allowing your growth to be seen by the world?

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Be blessed and be at peace.

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