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Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on December 29, 2021December 29, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Have you ever had days when the weight of tears in your eyes made it difficult to see clearly and be yourself?

Being able to breathe through the tears can be difficult when tears are falling, and your heart is heavy, especially if someone has hurt your feelings.

Trying to be strong as a mixed girl when others are judging you by your appearance or assumptions can be so hard, so you must remember to take a moment to breathe.

Do you know where your strength lies?

While you may feel emotional, upset, or confused when others spew hurtful words or judge you, you must remember who you are and recall that you are stronger inside than what is being said by others.

Give no power to negativity by feeling your emotions, breathing through tears, and remembering who you are, my dear.

Your tears are not useless; they will bring you clarity and power if you use them as tools that can better equip you for strength and courage.

Should you find that your tears fill your eyes, dear mixed girl, remember to embrace your emotions, walk through your feelings, breathe, and hold strong because you are growing and soon to learn something that will serve as wisdom for the future that you are walking into.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

Letter Entitled: “Breathe Through Your Tears”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on December 15, 2021December 15, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

When was the last time that you took a moment to embrace the song that is in your heart and soul through dance and joy?

When you can embrace the skin that you are in and the dance that lives inside of you, you will learn that you are living in bold colors unlike any other.

There is no time in life that you have to change your mixed colors (skin, flags, or anything else).

There is purity and beauty in dancing to the beat of your own drum, so don’t change your colors for anyone.

There are countless times in which we may find ourselves trying to fit in, wanting to embrace a different dance, live in different skin, or hide the flags that our ancestors found pride in or fought for.

We have a chance now to be all that we are, so we can dance with our colors without judgment, so let all of you shine.

Dance alone, around others, with a smile or your face, to whatever makes you happen, but let it all feed your soul.

You can dance with your colors inside and out, and no one can take away the meaning of your “mixed” joy in that.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on December 2, 2021December 2, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl

Is there a song or rhythm that reminds you of home or makes you feel connected to everything that is you?

Sometimes in life, we are told that we can only listen to one type of music because we will otherwise be judged.

What would happen if we chose to embrace all of the music that comes together to make our mixed lives?

We would walk with flowers in our hair, bells on our wrists, drumsticks in our hands, boots on our feet, and everything powerful about our ancestors wrapped around us.

Do you know that music others may say is weird is perfectly acceptable, especially if it makes your soul and heart happy?

You have the right to explore the world through music and be yourself in every way.

Music in the mixed world varies and it is always so beautiful.

Never be fearful of embracing parts of your musical identity or worry about what others may think when you listen to a variety of music that makes your heart smile.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

“Music: Embrace It All”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on November 16, 2021December 2, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

As a little girl you have/had dreams of becoming something that is wonderful, beautiful, powerful, strong, or unique and nothing can be more fabulous than what you dream of, right?

Sometimes in our mixed lives, there can be things that come along and try to show us that are dreams cannot become a reality because of who we are or how we look.

Remember this, dear mixed girl, there is power in your little mixed dream that no one can take away.

With that power that lives and breathes inside of you, how can you harness the greatness that also resides inside of you?

Your beautiful dreams are a possibility and will become a reality because of those who came before you.

Your ancestors and parents have paved the way for you to dream and live out the life that you want, hope for, and work hard for because they love you, believe in you, and want the best for you.

Do not fall for what the world tries to tell you about who you are or what you are not.

There is power, strength, integrity, dignity, beauty, culture, flavor, music, colors, vibrations, and so much more living inside of you.

Let your dreams ride on the flow of that which runs through your body, and know that there is nothing that can stop your once little mixed dreams from coming true.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

“The Power of Your Little Mixed Dream”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on November 1, 2021November 1, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Design Your Home in You

Dear Mixed Girl,

Did you know that just like a physical house becomes a home with love and how you make it feel, you have the power to create the same within yourself?

Everything that is around you from day to day will influence what lives inside of you, so it is important for you to take care of the home inside of your heart.

If you are surrounded by things that make you unhappy, frustrated, confused, doubtful, etc. your internal home will not feel joyful, peaceful, or safe.

Do you know what it takes to make your inner house feel like a home?

It is important to do a little spring cleaning inside of your heart and soul from time to time – this includes people and things.

You oversee how your home feels, don’t you?

Cleaning up takes some effort, but it is worth it every time.

Design your home in a way that you can be proud of starting today by bringing in joy, safety, peace, light, love, and every bit of your mixed identity.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on October 18, 2021October 18, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Have you ever been told that your life is easier because of your mixed identity?

Countless people may believe that you do not face countless challenges because of who you are or what you look like, but that is not true.

Life is full of twists and turns for mixed girls, and that can be hard to understand from the outside looking in.

Even though no one can quite understand that your life is not easy, you must not make a big deal out of the flow of your life.

Remain true to your path and your life.

Know that you do not need to prove your challenges nor the depth of your journey to anyone.

Become the next version of yourself with great consistency and you can create the life that you want without fear or doubts that it can be taken away from you in any way.

You are stronger and more powerful than you know. Keep your eyes facing forward and your heart centered on the greatness that lives inside of you.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on October 4, 2021October 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Do you ever feel like it’s hard to be all that you are while others may be judging your every move?

Your definition is never quite the same from day to day, but it does not have to be.

If you are being challenged or questioned, you can acknowledge the hurt, but you must move forward in your light and regain your strength.

Others may not understand how it hurts to be you, but know that you are not alone in being a mixed girl in an often scripted, biased, and black or white world.

Even when it comes, you cannot let your pain, confusion, or frustrations consume you; you are much bigger than that.

Others cannot shape your character and all that you are.

You can always be yourself, so do not hold onto fears or doubts about being all that you are.

Sometimes moments or people may cause you hurt, but you cannot change who you are.

The only way that your heart can be happy/joyful and you can be successful is if you love yourself inside and out, so do that today and every day.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

No Path is Straight and Flat

Posted on September 13, 2021September 13, 2021 by drkaylanallen

No matter how we may wish for our lives and the things that we do to be easy, that is not typically the outcome.

In fact, many times in life, no path that we journey through is not straight or flat. There is no direct path to clarity, success, effective leadership, healthy relationships, or sustainable healthcare practices.

There is rarely a blueprint to even the basic levels of things that we need in order to become the next version of ourselves, but that does not mean that we cannot evolve and navigate through sustainable personal transformation. You do not need to be in the perfect life position to become the next version of yourself, but you do have to be in the right mental position.

Following a textbook, findings from evidence-based research, experiences of others, and perspectives of those around you may work for a short while, but soon you will find that it takes a lot more to be successful at every level of your life.

More often than not, one can assume that they know the answer to everything that comes their way, but without dedication to altering thought processes and familiar behaviors, there is no way to perform at the highest levels and find yourself in healthy spaces throughout your life.

People that want the best for their lives in all aspects must come to an awareness that continuous evolution and deep-rooted curiosity are vital. Coaching is an excellent source of initiating and navigating through your next seasons of life.

When was the last time that you analyzed your life as it presently is? No matter when that was, the deeper question is whether or not you were able to understand the truth of the ways that you need to change. Awareness of the need for change and seeking real help is how we move beyond a path toward success in work and life.

At every turn along your path of life, you may need a different viewpoint, clearer perspective, or a little bit more of what makes you unique. So, why not grant yourself exactly what you need. No fears. No doubts. No doing it alone when you know that you need more guidance, clarity, or accountability.

My path in life is anything but straight, flat, clear, or easy; many times it has been difficult to bear. The greatest thing about my path and awareness of its twists and turns is my choice to continue to evolve even when things are not easy.

Choose yourself and your potential over and over again, and you will see that your efforts are always worth it and your bumpy road will lead you where you need to go.

I dare you to put your money, efforts, and time into something that will positively and sustainably change your life from the inside out.

Be blessed and be at peace.

–KayLa’s Positivity Corner

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, National Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on September 6, 2021September 6, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Did you know that what we feed our insides generates a world outside of our bodies?

Every mixed family has experiences of food that serve a plate of nourishment, no matter what the spread of colors and flavors present.

This nourishment is the very desire of our souls, and it can only be filled with what our “mixed” taste desires.

Nourishment to our souls is colorful, confusing, bold, and creative, so why should we silence that which our hearts and souls need?

Fine-tuning what our hearts and souls desire is a journey through life that continues to be shaped and reshaped, but it is always worth it.

You must tailor, cut, patch, and adjust what you nourish your life with – this is not just about food; it is about what we feed our minds as well.

Grow nourished inside, as you have the flavors, spices, and recipes of every element of your mixed life – (open the cabinet, my dear).

Sometimes we may need something to show us love, while other times we may need something that encourages the very fibers of our being.

No matter how you nourish yourself, be okay with what that looks like, as others may judge that which feeds your mixed soul.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on September 6, 2021September 6, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Has someone ever asked you why you dare to be so boldy mixed in what you are doing?

Occasionally people may say that you have to behave one way or another, but please know that their words are surely not true.

If you decide that you want to dress a certain way that is culturally connected, embrace that because it makes you happy.

Never change yourself to fit in with others or justify your reason for being you.

Your life is mixed and nothing can change that, but that does not mean that you have to alter your identity in any way.

You have the right to be you through and through, no excuses, reasons, or definitions required.

Be bold and okay with being all that you are.

The right to be you is not defined by the voice or views of others.

Be you in every way possible and your joy will never escape you.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.