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Erase Self-Doubt

Posted on May 16, 2022May 16, 2022 by drkaylanallen

It takes a tremendous amount of effort to accomplish what you set out to do.

Presenting to yourself the ability to make a task, goal, or objective a part of your story of triumph is magnificent.

Although we often have dreams of what we want to do, we may face self-doubt. It is only when we can “erase” self-doubt that we find our true potential.

When doubts may arise, there are several things that you need to do:

1. Take a moment to sit with the doubt

2. Process all of your feelings in that given time

3. Think about, analyze, and acknowledge where the doubts came from

4. Work through the source of the doubt by addressing it effectively

5. Seek assistance to address the core of your doubts and how you will move forward

6. Let go and “erase” the doubt

One thing that you must always remember is that you are a limitless being with the potential to have absolutely anything that you want and work hard for. There are times that people put limits on themselves unnecessarily, but it can be avoided with a shift in their mindset.

How about an example? Have you ever found yourself in a situation in which you are leveling up, and you are surrounded by individuals who are more experienced and in that moment, you were feeling elements of imposter syndrome. Did you not work hard to get where you are? Did you not use your unique identity, gifts, and talents to be in the room, at the table, or in conversation with these individuals? So, how was imposter syndrome and self-doubt allowed to be present in the scenario?

I can say that I have faced moments of self-doubt in places of my transformation and evolution. However, I found my future self, beyond the doubts, by honing into my greatness and moving beyond what I was facing with the right tools in my toolbox.

No matter where you are in life, you have a responsibility and will face accountability for the future that you create. So, what will you do with the power, strength, amazing identity, intellect, and beauty inside of you?

Be blessed and be at peace.

-KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, International Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach – Certified Health and Well-Being Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.

Goodness Isn’t Easy

Posted on February 24, 2021March 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Leading your life is a space of potential goodness is never easy. You will often find that you are questioning your own motives, but that is a good space to be in. Only when you are analyzing your steps and efforts can you have clarity on who you are in this life.

When you find that your goodness and clear objectives are being misjudged you will have no choice but to learn that it’s not easy to be a good person. Boy, oh boy, this is the time that you step up all that you are! You put a smile on your face, honor who you are, and remain proud that you are true to yourself, your morals, and your values.

Countless people have “made it” by degrading themselves, doing evil things, and hurting people along the way with no other intent than to benefit. That’s no way to live and it will eat you alive forever. The best way to lead life is to be a good person, even when others think that you are up to no good.

Your goodness is not a show to be broadcasted or best received by the world. You are to be a good person because it is the right thing to do and it will benefit your life in the long run. The challenge will always be inside of you. No one is owed an explanation nor a definition of who you are or what you are doing.

The louder the outside noise gets the more difficult it is to hear your own heart and soul. It is best to always give yourself internal love so that you can keep up the mission to be a good person.

If you are living your life to be well-known or rich, your morals are not in the right place; this could lead to making a lot of needless mistakes and negative choices. Stay in-tune with why you care about the impact of your goodness.

I write, speak, and lead in spaces of transformation because I know how it feels to be on the bottom and what it feels like to struggle as I navigate toward the top. I humble myself and remain true to my identity because it proves that I am not only an expert, but I am a human that has chosen to continue to fight for what I want (in myself and for others) regardless of what the past has shown me.

People may try to say that your goodness is a lie or pointless, but that is so far from the truth. Your goodness is a task, but I promise that it will always be worth it. Look into your heart and know that all that you are aiming to be will benefit from your goodness and hard work. Never give up when you know that you are a light in a world that holds so much darkness.

Be blessed and be at peace.

Recovering Hope

Posted on February 2, 2021March 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Stress, concerns, brokenness, and many other difficult circumstances can put people in a whirlwind of feelings and behaviors. What happens when we choose to recover the hope that once lived inside of us? What would happen if you let go of any pain that may be holding you back from being prosperous, joyful, and successful?

How we hold onto the things that drive our hope can determine the direction that we go in with all of our efforts. Think about how much time and energy is drained when we live in a moment of high concern. So much can be taken away when the joy inside of us when we don’t take good care of ourselves and limit that which stresses us most.

Recovering hope is much like mud in a field after heavy rain; once the sun comes out again, the ground dries, and yet there is still growth. The only things that linger are those that we allow. If you wish to be successful you cannot allow things to hold weight if they are not for your good. Take some time to rationalize, communicate, and address any internal feelings that are inside of you, honor your truth, then recover your hope. Only you can regulate hope and faith in your life.

Travel through a moment in time and think about a day when hope was so much more than a glimmer in your eye. Hope at some point or another becomes joy, truth, ambition, faith, love, and so much more. Think about how a moment like that felt for you and how much it impacted your life. Recall that feeling when it feels like hope is lost, because it can carry you through your difficulties.

There have been a few times in my life when the days seemed so dark, the night dreadfully long, and my hope all but lost. I had to allow myself to live in and through that. Only in the time that I chose to keep searching for the light could I recover the hope that has always lived inside of me.

No challenge is small, but you have power over them all. If you can manage to keep your eyes focused on what you want for your life, you can always recover your hope.

There is so much good in the world and so many opportunities to be great for yourself and others. Never give up and know that you are not alone in your aim to lead in your life and be a light in the world.

If you are ready to level up, visit DRKAYLANALLEN.COM today and prepare to change your life in ways that you have worked so hard for.

Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner

Playing the Game of Life

Posted on January 19, 2021March 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

As children, in life, we play a variety of games and learn the value of consistency, teamwork, logic, fun, patterns, trust, and so many other things. In adulthood, we consistently learn that quite often the only way to be consistent in personal evolution and transformation is to play the game and get wiser at every turn.

There are some games that we win and others that we lose. However, no matter the outcomes of the games that we must “play” there is a time to learn about ourselves every time that we are dealt our cards. The challenge in playing the game of life is to not get caught in losing, observing poker faces, and counting mistakes. Learn and keep moving forward!

Playing the game of life is not the time to get carried away, nor is it the time to focus on solely winning. There is a lesson to be learned at every level, but the only way that you can gain that newfound knowledge is if you are willing to get in the game and fight for what you want.

It is a rare occasion to be dealt a hand of cards that is “perfect”, just as life does not always give you exactly what you want. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to work with what you have! Sounds crazy easy, right?! It is easy! Every part of you contributes to what you want. Every hand that you are dealt is yours to play. You have in the palm of your hand and the depths of your soul what you need to be happy and prosperous. When are you going to start playing the game and stop telling yourself that you are going to lose?

How do you define winning? Perhaps it is a series of lessons that turn into wisdom or it could be fighting for another day of welcomed efforts. You get to choose how winning looks to you. Losing could mean walking away with nothing but a grateful spirit and a blessing inside of you at the chance to be at the table. Decide what winning and losing are to you, and watch how they make a difference in your life.

You can’t have what you want if you aren’t willing to change what is in front of you. If you can’t open your eyes and mind, how can you see what is just beyond your nose? You can’t fight if you don’t get in the ring! When will you be ready to tell yourself go instead of no?

I have been dealt my fair share of “bad hands” and I know how it feels to feel inadequate, incapable, unworthy, etc. The difference between winning and losing in the game of life, for me, is in the recognition and appreciation of the journey and game. Change and a lack of awareness can lead to bad outcomes, no matter how you play the game. I had to learn that there is a time and place for being understood, heard, and valued, and I get to decide when that is…that is how I play the game – I understand my heart, I hear my soul’s desires, and I value the depth of all that I am. I know that so many things are difficult, but they are for my journey and my path to greatness (isn’t that powerful)? I can’t be my greater self if I do not humble myself and appreciate the good and bad of the game of life.

Now is your chance to get your head in the game. Are you ready to be on the “winning” team and take every lesson to ensure that you are creating a future that you can be proud of?

Connect with Dr. KayLa and start the coaching journey toward becoming who you are called to be. You have a deck of cards to work with, but are you ready to play the game so that you can win?

Be blessed and be at peace.

#KayLasPositivityCorner

Making the Most of Right Now

Posted on December 30, 2020March 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

When was the last time that you took inventory on your life? It is necessary for you to take the time to understand what you bring to the table.

If you find that you are trying to do something new in your life, you must first understand what lives inside of you.

When we find the time to build doubts, fear, and apprehensions about the things that we want to do, we create limitations on our lives.

Think about your life in a new light, so that you can make the most of it right now. If you keep waiting for tomorrows and a special time when you have everything that you need, you may never get what you are aiming for.

The big question in this next stretch of your journey is what can you do with what you have right now? Think about it, there are countless people who wish that they had what you already have, and yet they may be taking strides that you wouldn’t dare to take right now. Making forward movements in life does not come attached to set of circumstances; they are attached to the effort that you are willing to put in.

I remember being told that I could not be have a position as a leader because I did not have years and years of leadership experience. Wrong! I found a great leadership opportunity and was extremely successful in it. I remember being told that I could not yet coach someone because I wasn’t certified or some high-level coach. Wrong again! I became a coach after being trained and used everything that makes me who I am to effectively serve others through high-quality and well-tailored coaching programs and courses. I remember thinking that I could not express myself through writing because no one would read it and I didn’t have a platform to share anything on. Wrong! I have been writing my blogs for three years and impacting people all over the world one person at a time! The only real limitations in life are the ones who develop and those we choose to accept.

In every moment that you have the opportunity to breathe, you also have a significant option of evolving your life from the inside out. Don’t get stuck in a position where you are constantly telling yourself “Not yet”. Make the most of right now, so that when you do level up, you will be well-equipped with a firm foundation and be able to ride the waves of life with greater ease.

Be blessed and be at peace.

KayLa’s Positivity Corner by Dr. KayLa N. Allen

Living & Loving Life

Posted on December 23, 2020March 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

The challenge for many people is finding a way to balance life, love, work, family, health, and self-care. All of those components are vital for having a life that you can appreciate. It is when we are missing a vital need that we see that we are not living our lives.

Often we find ourselves in the rat race aiming to get to the top, but in this we may fail to appreciate the journey.

Over and over, there are spaces in time in which we are to appreciate the moments and learn lessons that can carry us along the way. However, only focusing on a few important parts of life may mean that you miss out on something beautiful or beneficial to your overall well-being.

Get curious for a moment and ask yourself, “What am I focused on in my life?”. You may be surprised at the real answer.

The only way that we can both live and love life is to place a high value on our experiences, all that we love, and what brings us true joy.

My life is no easy one, but I can say that I am doing what I can to live and love my life.

Living your life when the rest of the world is simply going through minutes, hours, titles, and events will change the way you lead your life and the way your heart smiles.

Titles, jobs, and material things will come and go (as they should when you are consistently evolving), but what will remain the same is what you treat as a staple in your life.

Isn’t it time that you make some significant changes to be sure that you have everything in order to live and love your life?

I challenge you to challenge yourself to a new space of growth, transformation, awareness, and clarity. Visit DRKAYLANALLEN.COM and find out how you can become one of Dr. KayLa’s coaching clients today! You won’t regret it; in fact, it may be one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself and those you love and care about!

Be blessed and be at peace.

KayLa’s Positivity Corner via Dr. KayLa N. Allen