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Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on June 23, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

To have a place and space where you can be yourself is so special.

Where do you call your safe place?

I often think of my safe place as my writing.

Life is hard enough without differences in place, but with them, we must do whatever we can to be ourselves and be happy about that.

A safe place can be at home, in the park, in artwork, in prayer, in church, in meditation, and anywhere else that you can imagine.

When things make you feel like you can’t be yourself, think about a way to feel in tune with your heart and soul again.

It doesn’t have to be anything major; it can be watching your favorite Christmas movie in May.

You deserve a space, no matter where you are in the world or how old you are, to be safe and happy.

So, today and always, make sure that you have a safe space to be quirky, crazy, beautiful, loving, intelligent, and wonderful you.

– Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on June 23, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Matching who is in the mirror with whom you are designed to be can be quite confusing, especially from the outside looking in.

As you grow up and become uniquely you, you may get to a place in time where you see yourself on a seesaw, wondering which direction to go.

Remain who you are, be patient with whom you are becoming, and appreciate when every moment is difficult.

Only when we can place a value on what makes our hearts sing can we truly and freely take a beautiful journey through all that we are.

Some people may tell you that you cannot do something because of your cultural background, but it is not valid.

The world is constantly changing, and the only way you can find that special place where you desire to reside is by being uniquely you.

Challenge yourself to be curious beyond what you may already know.

Evolving your thoughts and being exactly [who] you are called to be will drown the sounds of doubts from others as you gift the world with your greatness.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on June 23, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

You are one that your ancestors could not have even imagined.

No matter how old you are, you are filled with centuries of wonder, greatness, legacies, and stories.

Look at your hands and noticed the veins filled with the blood and DNA of those who came before you.

In the silence, I know that you can hear your ancestors speak.

In the mirror and from pictures, you can see how much you look like your ancestors.

Know where you came from.

Learn the stories of lives and your culture.

Teach others, now and forever, of your wonder.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen, “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on June 23, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

When you feel like you aren’t good enough, there is a moment that you can give yourself, and it will always be a gift to you.

In this moment, think about why you are feeling small, journey through your emotions, then find a way to dig inside of yourself ->there you will discover your true light.

You see, in the difficult seasons of our lives we have so much space to learn and grow.

Sure, we have a mixed life in so many aspects but we can gain so much clarity when we look inside of ourselves.

The light of your believable & beautiful future lives only inside of you.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen, “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on June 14, 2021June 14, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

When you think of your family what do you see?

Do see the combination of your grandmother’s and mother’s faces in your face?

Know that even though you may look like someone or have their “blood running through your veins”. you are your own person, and family is what you make it.

You are not required to identify with others because of your personal relationship with them.

A family shows you love, understands your heart, and chooses to keep evolving.

Any family member that does not respect you or treat you with dignity, does not have to be in your life.

You deserve kindness, love, joy, and peace (at the very least).

Your family may view you through their chosen lenses, but you are the view that can shape your life and family as you see fit.

Be yourself and challenge norms that affect your life.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen, “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on April 18, 2021April 18, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

There are days when you may question who you are and what the depth of your heart is.

It gets even more difficult when others make you feel like you should question yourself.

As you walk through life remember that no matter how hard things get, no one can take your heart away from you.

Whatever you do, please do not harden your heart when people try to challenge you, your existence, or any part of who you are.

Be kind to yourself while loving the joy and compassion in your heart.

Don’t change who you are or dim the light in your heart because when you do that you start to erase who you are.

Your heart is designed to be all of the greatness that it is, so welcome that and love who you are.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters.

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, empathy, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other “Dear Mixed Girl” messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on March 27, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

In a world where it can be so difficult to navigate through life, you must always remember to be yourself.

Authenticity in all things means that you have the courage to break norms that may be set before you.

Yes, it will always be hard to be every ounce of wonderful that you are, but every lesson that you learn along the winding road will strengthen and empower you to look at the world with your head held high.

Stand out and be proud to do so.

Don’t allow external people or situations to break you down…you deserve the best!

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl…” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on March 27, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Honoring who you are is never an easy task to do.

From birth countless odds were stacked against you.

It’s easy to let that cloud your mind, but it’s far better to love and appreciate all that you can become.

Obstacles are meant to be overcome; barriers are meant to be broken.

Do you [know] that after the hard days and difficult moments you grow, evolve, and get stronger?

Let your self-love and internal honor push you to greatness and joy.

Get 100% ready for prosperity that you’ve worked hard for.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen, “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl…” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on March 27, 2021April 1, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Shh…can you hear that? Can you feel that? It’s the amazing presence of your ancestors. Those people that came together to make who you are (on the inside) and achieving. Do you know how far things have come for you to come into existence? In all that you work for, remember what and who live inside of you. History, legacies, and possibilities are all a part of who you are. Shh…can you hear it now? Can you feel it now? That’s unique you rising up!

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s Dear Mixed Girl Coaching Program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on March 20, 2021June 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

The feeling of being put into a box when it comes to how you identify yourself is a horrible emotion.

On the same hand it is frustrating when people tell you to just choose one race/ethnicity.

The effort to push someone to prove who they are is despicable, but if you think about it in another light, it is a chance for you to shine all of [your] glory.

Side note: if you tell people that you are mixed with brujeria, you are my people. Lol!!

You do not have to choose one or prove yourself.

Every curl on your head, area of poof, or the beautify of your skin is yours.

Own it & be proud!

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!