Many factors likely contribute to your ability to stand up for yourself.
Things such as your characters, upbringing, life experiences, traumatic events, personality, and even genetics can impact your ability to stand up for yourself if you really think about it.
However, if we break things down a bit further in one’s ability to stand, doesn’t the act of standing require a series of strategic efforts for a wanted outcome?
A human baby does not exit the womb walking. The child typically goes through a series of other types of moving before walking, correct?
If we transfer this same realm of thought to an adults’ ability to stand up for themselves, doesn’t that mean that we have to learn about what it takes within ourselves in order to be able to stand up for ourselves when it is both necessary and when it matters most?
There is no life in which you should always remain silent or “submissive”. In fact, using your voice in many ways can help you and others in countless situations.
Growth comes when we explore the potential of the future and what we want it to be.
Even after overcoming many things that could have otherwise caused me to think that I had to always cower down for my own security, peace of mind, or need for freedom of judgment, I had to learn about the many types of standing up for myself.
There is a desirable space and time in which standing up for yourself is divine and necessary, but only you can learn how to reach that target effectively.
Will that effectiveness in you standing up for yourself be questioned? Probably. Will you maybe doubt your ability to stand up for yourself before and after you do so? Maybe.
You cannot expect life to be perfect, nor can you expect everything to be understood by others.
Over and over again we have to choose to be courageous, curious, intentional, filled with integrity, and human.
Standing up will sometimes mean that we will have to crawl a bit, stumble sometimes, grab some bandages here and there, and re-lace our shoes as necessary, but each bit of effort will count toward something greater.
Getting up and trying again when it hurts, when you’re happy, when they blame you, when no one believes in you, when you are scared, when the odds are stacked against you, when all you have is the faith the size of a mustard seed is when you know that you can stand up for yourself!
Be blessed and be at peace.
-KayLa’s Positivity Corner
Dr. KayLa N. Allen is a Doctoral (DHA) Candidate, National Motivational Speaker, Thought Leader, Transformational Coach, and Expert on Shaping Thriving Futures. Learn more about her services and how you can begin your journey through business and personal evolution by clicking the button below.