Dear Mixed Girl,
Have you ever been called a rude word that is connected to your race, identity, or ethnicity? I have.
Sometimes these words can pierce the soul and bring about horrible feelings.
When this happens to you, what do you do about it?
It is so very important that you take a moment to honor your truth and love who you are.
Only the words that you allow inside of your heart can harm you.
This is not to say that you should not speak up or against the ugly words, but you have to take control of how you feel after the fact.
You can make the choice to understand why someone chooses hurtful words when talking to you.
Often when someone “calls someone out of their name” they have their own issues and it has nothing to do with the person being hurt.
Know that you choose the words that identify who you are.
Do not ever allow someone to throw hurtful words at you; stand up for who you are and remain proud of all that makes you unique.
Keep the words that fill you with love in your identity and being close to your heart.
-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters
The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.
No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.
Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.
If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.
Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!