Dear Mixed Girl Archives

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on November 16, 2021December 2, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

As a little girl you have/had dreams of becoming something that is wonderful, beautiful, powerful, strong, or unique and nothing can be more fabulous than what you dream of, right?

Sometimes in our mixed lives, there can be things that come along and try to show us that are dreams cannot become a reality because of who we are or how we look.

Remember this, dear mixed girl, there is power in your little mixed dream that no one can take away.

With that power that lives and breathes inside of you, how can you harness the greatness that also resides inside of you?

Your beautiful dreams are a possibility and will become a reality because of those who came before you.

Your ancestors and parents have paved the way for you to dream and live out the life that you want, hope for, and work hard for because they love you, believe in you, and want the best for you.

Do not fall for what the world tries to tell you about who you are or what you are not.

There is power, strength, integrity, dignity, beauty, culture, flavor, music, colors, vibrations, and so much more living inside of you.

Let your dreams ride on the flow of that which runs through your body, and know that there is nothing that can stop your once little mixed dreams from coming true.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

“The Power of Your Little Mixed Dream”

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on November 1, 2021November 1, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Design Your Home in You

Dear Mixed Girl,

Did you know that just like a physical house becomes a home with love and how you make it feel, you have the power to create the same within yourself?

Everything that is around you from day to day will influence what lives inside of you, so it is important for you to take care of the home inside of your heart.

If you are surrounded by things that make you unhappy, frustrated, confused, doubtful, etc. your internal home will not feel joyful, peaceful, or safe.

Do you know what it takes to make your inner house feel like a home?

It is important to do a little spring cleaning inside of your heart and soul from time to time – this includes people and things.

You oversee how your home feels, don’t you?

Cleaning up takes some effort, but it is worth it every time.

Design your home in a way that you can be proud of starting today by bringing in joy, safety, peace, light, love, and every bit of your mixed identity.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on October 18, 2021October 18, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Have you ever been told that your life is easier because of your mixed identity?

Countless people may believe that you do not face countless challenges because of who you are or what you look like, but that is not true.

Life is full of twists and turns for mixed girls, and that can be hard to understand from the outside looking in.

Even though no one can quite understand that your life is not easy, you must not make a big deal out of the flow of your life.

Remain true to your path and your life.

Know that you do not need to prove your challenges nor the depth of your journey to anyone.

Become the next version of yourself with great consistency and you can create the life that you want without fear or doubts that it can be taken away from you in any way.

You are stronger and more powerful than you know. Keep your eyes facing forward and your heart centered on the greatness that lives inside of you.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on October 4, 2021October 4, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Do you ever feel like it’s hard to be all that you are while others may be judging your every move?

Your definition is never quite the same from day to day, but it does not have to be.

If you are being challenged or questioned, you can acknowledge the hurt, but you must move forward in your light and regain your strength.

Others may not understand how it hurts to be you, but know that you are not alone in being a mixed girl in an often scripted, biased, and black or white world.

Even when it comes, you cannot let your pain, confusion, or frustrations consume you; you are much bigger than that.

Others cannot shape your character and all that you are.

You can always be yourself, so do not hold onto fears or doubts about being all that you are.

Sometimes moments or people may cause you hurt, but you cannot change who you are.

The only way that your heart can be happy/joyful and you can be successful is if you love yourself inside and out, so do that today and every day.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on September 20, 2021September 20, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Does today’s world feel difficult to be a part of?

Do you understand that you are able to be all that you are without being broken into pieces?

The reality of the world is that people like us look different, speak differently, and lead different lives, but that is what makes the core of our world so beautiful and unique.

No matter what part of the world you live in or what your mixed background is made up of, you are diverse and beautiful through and through.

The reality of your life is that there has never been and will never be another you.

Knowing of your reality and standing by that means that you don’t have to conform to the realities of many “negative” other things or people that life may show you.

The reality of the world is that you are you right now and nothing can change that.

Embrace your world and let the light of your heart and soul shine forevermore.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on September 6, 2021September 6, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Did you know that what we feed our insides generates a world outside of our bodies?

Every mixed family has experiences of food that serve a plate of nourishment, no matter what the spread of colors and flavors present.

This nourishment is the very desire of our souls, and it can only be filled with what our “mixed” taste desires.

Nourishment to our souls is colorful, confusing, bold, and creative, so why should we silence that which our hearts and souls need?

Fine-tuning what our hearts and souls desire is a journey through life that continues to be shaped and reshaped, but it is always worth it.

You must tailor, cut, patch, and adjust what you nourish your life with – this is not just about food; it is about what we feed our minds as well.

Grow nourished inside, as you have the flavors, spices, and recipes of every element of your mixed life – (open the cabinet, my dear).

Sometimes we may need something to show us love, while other times we may need something that encourages the very fibers of our being.

No matter how you nourish yourself, be okay with what that looks like, as others may judge that which feeds your mixed soul.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on September 6, 2021September 6, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Has someone ever asked you why you dare to be so boldy mixed in what you are doing?

Occasionally people may say that you have to behave one way or another, but please know that their words are surely not true.

If you decide that you want to dress a certain way that is culturally connected, embrace that because it makes you happy.

Never change yourself to fit in with others or justify your reason for being you.

Your life is mixed and nothing can change that, but that does not mean that you have to alter your identity in any way.

You have the right to be you through and through, no excuses, reasons, or definitions required.

Be bold and okay with being all that you are.

The right to be you is not defined by the voice or views of others.

Be you in every way possible and your joy will never escape you.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on August 23, 2021August 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

What is the value of your mixed existence?

Do you measure your existence in pearls, dollars, and gold?

Do you measure your life in your stories that are yet to be told?

Will you still value your mixed identity when your legend grows old?

You are more than money, a pay-off, or the dangling carrot that others may try to win you over with, so hold on to your true value – that which lives and breathes inside of you.

Value your existence in language, impact, education, wisdom shared, love, joy, and persistence.

Discount that which no longer holds value, because you are worthy of life, growth, and change.

If you could tally up the value of your existence, would you include the price that was paid for your mixed existence?

Can you love yourself beyond the value that others say that you have? Yes, so please do.

–Dr. KayLa N. Allen‘s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on July 26, 2021August 23, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Have you ever stepped out on faith, hope, or a dream only to fall on your face with the world watching you?

Walking through a path of life can be misguided by falls, stumbles, and confusion.

A scrape on the knee or bruise of our mixed lives can lead to a feeling of displacement, brokenness, or loneliness in a world that doesn’t understand us.

Even if you do fall, your chance to reshape your life is the cornerstone of the home (success) that you are creating in mind.

The fall is our chance to reclaim the claim that which our ancestors left behind for us.

Beautiful being, you are leading the life that will require you to fall here and there, but that is okay because your heart will always remain after the fall.

Take the knee-torn jeans of your life and create a quilt of your masterfully created life.

Fall today or stumble tomorrow, your life does not have to be filled with sorrow.

You can change the world if only you get back up and try.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” Letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Other related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program.

Dear Mixed Girl

Posted on July 11, 2021July 11, 2021 by drkaylanallen

Dear Mixed Girl,

Has there ever been a time when you were attracted to something you wanted out of life then you faced immediate rejection?

We are often walking through life in a way that is filled with fear, however, we cannot let that break down the very figments of our dreams.

People will reject you and try to break your hope, but you cannot allow that to happen.

Your attraction to a passion, dream, art, or space of creativity is for your exploration, presentation, and love.

You may look different than others but you are still allowed to dream.

There are not enough rejections in the world to break that which you are naturally attracted to.

Your heart, soul, culture, and blood fill you with something so special that only you can do – never forget that.

When you believe in yourself, use the rejections and dismissals to make a world that allows you to be expressive and be free.

There will never be a time that you have to become less than what you beautifully are.

-Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” letters

The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.

No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.

Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.

If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.

Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!