Dear Mixed Girl,
When you think of your family what do you see?
Do see the combination of your grandmother’s and mother’s faces in your face?
Know that even though you may look like someone or have their “blood running through your veins”. you are your own person, and family is what you make it.
You are not required to identify with others because of your personal relationship with them.
A family shows you love, understands your heart, and chooses to keep evolving.
Any family member that does not respect you or treat you with dignity, does not have to be in your life.
You deserve kindness, love, joy, and peace (at the very least).
Your family may view you through their chosen lenses, but you are the view that can shape your life and family as you see fit.
Be yourself and challenge norms that affect your life.
-Dr. KayLa N. Allen, “Dear Mixed Girl” letters
The “Dear Mixed Girl” letters are a series from Dr. KayLa N. Allen that share experiences, motivation, and compassion. These letters are linked to the “Dear Mixed Girl, What is Your Identity?” coaching program. Related messaging that Dr. KayLa creates is to re-shape the way that mixed girls and women think about themselves and how they contribute to the world by being themselves.
No “mixed” experience is the same, but many parts of the biracial/multi-ethnic experience are similar. It is in these similarities that we can find individuals truths and ways in which we can become the best version of ourselves regardless of what the world may show us.
Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s greatest hope is to share with others her truth and what lives inside of her so that there can be sustainable changes and powerful impact in those living the life of a “mixed” girl.
If you or the mixed girl in your life felt the impact of this letter, read more empowering messages and find out how you can transform yourself, be proud of who you are, and lead a unique and joyful life via Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s coaching programs.
Find out more about Dr. KayLa N. Allen’s “Dear Mixed Girl” coaching program!